Our friends viewed us as the perfect couple and our demise was because I am still incollege unsure of what I want to do and he is in the real world. I have battle with uncertainty in my education and the only thing that i new was certain was him. He is a go getter and a be out side man and i have fallen into the miss sleeps alot and lack of ambition. I am working really hard on myself because it was me that inevitable forced us to this situation but up until the night we broke up he was saying I love you like normal and then we decided it wasn't working. We have talked since then and i have realized a multitude of mistakes that I have made by not knowing myself and depending on him to define me. Is there any hope or should i deal with the situation as is? We have talked twice since then and he has said he needs space but I am confused on how to go from looking at wedding rings to this point, his fault and mine. What does this really mean?
2007-03-08 22:35:04 · 5 answers · asked by Rosey83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have talked twice since we broke up so when is the appropriate time to discuss my changes and my new viewpoints on self exploration?i know he is still in love with me but he wasn't in love with the person that I so drastically became and neither was I. How do I go about repairing that and when is proper break time over? i think i need a kindergarden teacher to tell me when time out is over :) maybee I am to damn needy.
2007-03-08 23:55:02 · update #1
As hard as it is, I believe you need to take the time now to reflect on you. Who you are ... who you want to be. Not what you have lost with him or what you think is wrong with you. We are all human .. and all you can wish for is to learn from the experience ... and who knows .. you may find you have 2 soulmates :-)
2007-03-08 22:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Millii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do it work on yourself. You have to decide what you want period before thinking about being in a relationship. Don't base your view of the "perfect couple" on other people's opinion either. There really is no such thing. Figure out what you want outta life and as far as a career. Then maybe when he sees that you're improving on your goals and your dreams he might come around. Happiness can't be pinned up in hopes and dreams of a perfect mate.
2007-03-08 22:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its meant to be it will happen. Give him the space he needs....and I know thats hard. You guys have a history and he's not going to forget that. If he thinks you are meant for eachother then he is not going to throw it all away. You will need to talk things through about how you got to where you are and then give it some time. I hope everything works out for the both of you...especially if you truely are soulmates. :)
2007-03-08 22:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by bundy_bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm is ur name pam? was it in the heat of the battle when he said he needs some space? also some girls can just keep trying to argue about anything and that can drive a guy up the wall to say that just to clear his mind. if u really feel thats ur soulmate then try ur best to make it work and the both of you have to change some of ur ways
2007-03-08 22:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It soulnds like you need to grow up and as my father always says, make a choice, even if it is the wrong one, and see it thur end of the path, at which point you will have to make another choice, but at least you will have learn something.
2007-03-08 22:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋