I have 2 Questions: My man & i want to get married but are not financially stable at the moment, We've told the family we'll wait for 2yrs. Our religion says that if we sleep together we're already married. So we want to get married in God's eyes. Ques 1 - Do we exchange vows just the 2 of us or do we need witnesses? Ques 2 - Should we wait or can we get married.
2007-03-08 22:41:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ok we are both starting out with new careers thats why we're not financially stable!
2007-03-09 00:56:49 · update #1
I don't think that finances should stop you being together if you are both sure that is what you want.
You could always have a small ceremony and later when you have more money have a blessing or something (with the white dress and the big reception) but you must have witnesses otherwise all you are doing is saying that you love each other and want to be together forever - I'm willing to bet you have already done that.
but ... two years isn't that long. I know it feels like it but really that time will go by in a flash. If two years will make it easier then maybe it is worth the wait. After all you may be together for the next eighty years.
2007-03-09 02:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by mary_the_magdalene 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very confusing.. you want to wait 2 yrs but now you don't??
Yes, you need witnesses.
being 'financially stable' can entail many things. If you can afford to live together, it shouldn't stop you from getting married. If you are still living at home and can't afford to move out and live together, then don't get married. It's that simple.
If your religion says you're already married, then the wait shouldn't matter. I would imagine your family would not be happy if you got married secretly, so I would ensure they were invited.
Personally, I disagree with religion dictating marriage on the basis of having sex, but I respect your religious upbringing so if that's important to you, I just hope you made the right choice in your partner.
2007-03-08 22:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by Aussie mum 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sleeping together means cohabitation and NOT married, unless both of you exchange vows in front of witnesses. Your financial state shouldn't be a hindrance to your decision to get married. Where there's a will, there's always a way. You two can still build up your marriage life despite the financial instability that you are facing. But you may want to wait to have children later when you two are more financially secured.
2007-03-08 22:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
That you've asked this question on Y!A tells me that you should wait to get married. If you were really ready for a lifelong commitment, you wouldn't be promising one thing to your family and asking strangers for their 'permission' to get married now. You're not ready to make the decision, so don't do it.
Get financially stable, both of you. If you don't have jobs, get to work. Start banking your money and preparing for the future. If you're both serious about wanting to get married, you'll do this.
If you're serious about your religion, then start honoring it, or find another religion that is more permissive of the sexual habits you have. If you want to honor God, then start honoring yourselves and your loved ones.
Don't make promises you can't keep, or just to get your family off your back.... they asked you to wait for a reason. They know you better than strangers do, and they know your circumstances. Maybe it is time to take a few steps back and see what your situation is in THEIR eyes.
Question 1: Yes, you need witnesses.
Question 2: Yes, you should wait. If your love for each other is real, you can wait.
Good luck!
:D
2007-03-08 23:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jane D 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
You can always have a small wedding now maybe even by a JP and then when you are financially stable you can have you bigger wedding.
The later wedding will be more of a wedding vows renewal but It will keep you religious beliefs and morals happy while not spending to much when you don't have it
2007-03-09 01:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by Branwen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In order to be legally married you need witnesses...a priest or a judge and at least one other witness. If you're only waiting 2 years to get married, why not just wait? It's not so long. I'm sure you can keep your pants on for that amount of time. Good luck!
2007-03-09 00:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You do need witnesses to get married. You could go for a low budget wedding, you don't want to make the financial situation worse!
2007-03-08 22:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by ehc11 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you both love each other and are completely willing to commit your lives to each other, then why wait?
My fiance and I are not at all financially stable. But, we know that God has a plan for us and believe that it's His will for us to be together and serve His kingdom together, so we're just believing that He will provide for our needs. It's an awesome experience living by faith...
Pray about it and seek God's wisdom, not your own desires.
2007-03-09 00:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by emay02 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get married at the court house no expense except a license later when you can afford a wedding re-new your vows
2007-03-09 01:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am confused... you're not getting married because of a financial situation? Right, so waht you really want to know is should you already start having sex or wait? I am not trying to offend you (call the media!) just trying to understand what you mean.
2007-03-08 22:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋