there are always lots of posts on here critisizing ex wives and 2nd wives and deadbeat dads. do you think most 2nd wives who call the ex fit to burn are actually married to men who the ex would consider a deadbeat dad, but the new wife cant see it because they are blinded by love? If you are an ex wife are you jealous of new wife? 2nd wife are you insecure about ex wife especially where kids are concerned? and how many 2nd wives discourage or encourage dads from seeing and paying for their kids?
2007-03-08 22:38:54 · 10 answers · asked by slsvenus 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry i seem to have confused people... it was just observations of the different view points expressed on here..maybe too many questions in one.
2007-03-08 22:48:31 · update #1
I think you've struck gold there.
People are so lost once they think they've fallen in love...their new mate couldn't have contributed to the end of a marriage they are so wonderful. Its that stupid zone.
The insecurity stuff I've seen in friends of mine as well...especially with the kids. It is really unfair to the kids..parents should show respect and kindness for each other in front of their children no matter what.
A friend of mine had a second spouse who was actually jealous of the time he spent with his child. The second spouse didn't last very long as a result of her insecurities.
Good for you on your observations though.
2007-03-08 22:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mangomum 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ex-spouses, in general, always seem to like to bash one another for one reason or another. But, I guess they need this forum to blow off steam or to ask for helpful advice. Many are looking for a few words of motivation to give them the courage to move on with their lives. I said "spouses" because some ex-husbands ask questions, too. As for second wives, it seems they have more beefs with their husband's first wives, usually about snide comments one says about the other. The one that dropped out for whatever reason should move on. If kids are involved, all parties should respect and love them equally or get out of the way. If they owe child support, they should be made to pay, either voluntarily or involuntarily. Most of the time it's the kids who suffer the most when parents split up. I don't mind offering advice. Some are looking for pats on the back. But, there are a few who are only deserving of kicks in the pants.
2007-03-08 22:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. My boyfriend's ex-in-laws call him up and invite him to dinner and other events quite often. He says even though their daughter cheated on him, they had nothing to do with it. He was friends with them before he even met their daughter. I think they make it a point to not have the daughter around when he is there. But, he forgave her a long time ago and talks with her every now and again. I was definately floored and it seemed so wrong. But whatever. Have fun.
2016-03-29 00:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too confusing a post!
However, I think women considering marrying a man who already has been married and has a family, really has to think hard and realistically about the situation. The man's first obligation is to his first family, and the new woman has to realize that.
2007-03-08 23:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I never bashed my ex in front of my kids. When they got older, they made their own decisions about him. If my kids need anything, they come straight to me themselves. I have no control over how they feel about their dad.
2007-03-08 23:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Am very sorry but u confused me a lot.
Many wifes here and i lost in a little.
Am sorry can't help u.
2007-03-08 22:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by iona 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the EX is always at fault, just ask any divorced person
2007-03-08 22:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can now understand why my husband was single and divorced when I first met. him.
2007-03-09 08:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by Me xx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THEY ALL DESERVE EACH OTHER UNABLE TO FULFILL A COMMITMENT NONE OF THEM SHOULD HAVE GOTTEN MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE BUT IF ANYONE WOULD HAVE TRIED TO TELL THEM DIFFERENT IT WOULD HAVE BEEN WRONG SO THEY SHOULD BEEN MADE TO STICK IT OUT.
2007-03-08 22:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh my I am not able to grasp your question probably I have to improve my english.
2007-03-08 22:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋