Family & Relationships - 29 January 2007

Hi I am in my mid 20's and have been married for 4 years, I have a 10 year old son from a previous partner but now calls my husband Dad. (he still sees his real father).
My relationship with my husband has been pretty bad from the start, he is terrible with money and has got me in serious debt, he has no respect for me and talks down to me all the time, im not allowed to answer back if were having an argument and when he decides its over I have to forget the whole thing without an apology even though I deserve one. I have no friends any more as he doesn’t like me going out without him and gets jealous even of my friendships, the 2 friends I do have (live at the other side of the country) they absolutely hate him and say he is a control freak, his family have also told me that and told me he would never change.
He barely speaks to my son and even though i believe he loves him every argument we have he tells me he hates him and he’s a little ****, if he is naughty then i get the blame.
Any way despite his faults I do love him, I have wanted to leave a million times but I love him and cant.
Since Christmas though I have been having an affair with his brother, I know it is wrong but he is the complete opposite to my husband so kind and loving and treats me with respect, I have always had a thing for him and he for me but I never would have done anything (im not a cheater) but It just happened and I cant stop it, the sex is fantastic i never thought it could be so good its just amazing and I think i am falling in love with him and him for me I would definitely be with him forever, but he cannot give me any security he has nothing, where as now I have my own home car money, perfect job etc I know what I am doing is wrong but every time I try to stop it I just crumble I cant bear to be away from him, but I love my hubbie and would never want to hurt him despite what he has done he does love me.
please help x

2007-01-29 23:36:38 · 46 answers · asked by Shannon 1 in Marriage & Divorce

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WHat should I do? I peeled some grapes and fed them to him this morning but he still isnt satisfied!! i cant give up Yahoo Answers!!

2007-01-29 23:34:41 · 11 answers · asked by Chimera's Song 6 in Marriage & Divorce

me and my friend eddie we get along great even when i lived in the same city we did but i moved to florida and i never seem him but he talk all the time and i can talk to him about anything. he says im not his type. but i think we arnt ment for each other

2007-01-29 23:33:26 · 5 answers · asked by focus_e_us360 1 in Singles & Dating

I promise to keep it secret between you, me, and a couple of million Answer geeks!

2007-01-29 23:33:23 · 17 answers · asked by Elwood Blues 6 in Friends

I broke up with my girl friend simply because i asked her if her friends (girls ) do have boyfriends . i was scared that single girls could influence our relationship. she became annoyed because i insisted that she had to know if she considers these girls as friends. Her point of focus was that she is not suppose to know and she doesn't want to know if her friends are committed or not. After along querrel we couldn't come to a compromise. i left her and never called her and she never called me too. But i dont see a reason to go and ask for apology for insisting on that fact that she ought to know about her friends intimacy to a level.
Please i welcome evry detail . thanx

2007-01-29 23:31:57 · 12 answers · asked by Sawaboy 1 in Singles & Dating

How do i attract women who are secure and confident?

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2007-01-29 23:29:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i found pictures in his phone and he admitted to cheating and he just called me telling me that he has ended it with the other woman. should i forgive him?

2007-01-29 23:29:08 · 32 answers · asked by ntu 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Well I am not dating and some people know that. I keep getting asked out and I don't want to hurt someone by saying no, but I am not going to say yes because I am not going to make people think that I like them if I really dont! I don't belive in the whole cheating thing so thats not an option! I really like this one girl, but she is ALWAYS around people and I am a really shy guy, so I can't just go up and say something. Anyway I get asked out like 3 times a day and I had a stalker at one time. Yeah I got that fixed, but is there anyone who thinks I should do about the whole getting asked out thing. What do I say? I am not used to all of this so anyone know?

2007-01-29 23:29:07 · 8 answers · asked by Black Rodeo 2 in Singles & Dating

Men normally look for younger brides. But how much of an age difference would you seek?
Why?

2007-01-29 23:28:33 · 10 answers · asked by Fernandes 3 in Marriage & Divorce

its like this i love him but i have needs thats as long as ive ever went since i started having sex,im asking would it be wrong to get a friend with special benefits?

2007-01-29 23:28:04 · 7 answers · asked by angie w 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-29 23:27:12 · 14 answers · asked by ghie-i miguel 1 in Family

Because ALOT of ppl in my grade are dating and im only in 6th grade!

2007-01-29 23:26:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

last week, i met a guy in a bar. he asked for my cell number. I am sure that he likes me much.
On the next day, he sent me sms to ask me go out for a drink with him. But i couldnt go since i was busy and I suggested for another date. he said he would let me know about it.
the day after, he also sent me sms "how are you"
i am thinking of going out with him next week. what should i do
- send him sms
- call him
- wait for his invitation
I am confused whether he is serious or not. How to know it?

2007-01-29 23:22:16 · 7 answers · asked by coconut12 1 in Family

they are always deleted, she also said that when they have been out on a couple of occasions together,he flirts and dances with other women to her annoyance and embarrassment.She worries that if he does that when she is there with him, then what does he get up to when she is not there with him.He just replies that he cannot remember doing these things that hurt her so much cos he was drunk, which makes her feel even worse,cos if he is out on his own and is too drunk to remember wat hes is doing how does he know if he has cheated on her.He did this one time whilst i was present(not actually on me)but with a much younger woman and i told him to stop being so disrepectful to his girlfriend was i right as she is no longer talking to me

2007-01-29 23:21:57 · 22 answers · asked by happylove_bunny 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-29 23:20:52 · 5 answers · asked by sweet boy 1 in Singles & Dating

I've apologized until I was blue in the face. (And I am dark chocolate like they like it). I've done the make up stuff, dinner, movies and even tried to make some lovin, but she's not having that at this time. I given her space when she's asked for it. I've cut off my other associates. How long do i take these little bullshi* tests of hers?
I want to marry my child's mom and she knows it I made a mistake, not that cruical, for the stuff she's taking me through but i'm hanging in there thought, but she is hedging me big time. I want to stick in there and i'm trying to wait her out but, damn! At times she starting to make me rethink about my quest of making the family a union.

I really don't want a "babymomma". I believe i've been extra patient, while she's going through her "time"(in getting over from being mad at me stage) for the things that i've done to upset her, but, hey how much of this bull**** tests of hers am i suppose to take?

Sigbee, trying to marry?

2007-01-29 23:20:48 · 3 answers · asked by Sigbee 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i met somebody who is better earning & educated than her husband, who married her against the wishes of his parents but just after marriage everybody in his family pushed him so much so that he let the girl suffer with him a sort of guilt, that none of his side was present in the marriage. He could not take her to his home for one year other than once for the sake of shagun after 4/5 months as she was leaving for abroad for a project. None of them called her up & the boy also stayed indifferent most of the timeduring all this. When she came back after 6/7 months, the Shadi took place again at his parents place,the girl who was against this humiliation had to give in. She was mocked at his place when she was there for two days for her walk or so(she had undergone a serious accident six yrs back & had very bravely recovered from that , during these yrs this boy had come close & was liked by her family as he looked very decent). This whole thing has upset her. what do she do ?

2007-01-29 23:20:23 · 9 answers · asked by manju d 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-29 23:18:01 · 9 answers · asked by NARAYAN K 1 in Weddings

i wanna be with him forever but sometime i have my moments trustin him n he has his moments trustin me everything is good but the trust in the realtionship the sex, honesty, fun , everything is good but trust. i have 4 tattoos so it would be a 1st for me but his full name uh uh i just dont know about that maybe intials?????

2007-01-29 23:17:51 · 18 answers · asked by klizye 1 in Singles & Dating

Alright last year on the bus this overweight girl was dancing and she was backing it up in my face. I told her it was nasty and she needed to move(we had no love lost between each other before this) then she went into pms mode and slapped me like 3 times and i took it like a amn without hitting her back did i do the irght thing? and i how can i get ppl to quit saying i got beat up by her?

2007-01-29 23:16:38 · 7 answers · asked by Aware 2 in Family

my mom is becoming an alcoholic,and i told her that i think she shud take it slow and not drink every night, but she doesn't listen to me,my sister is worried aswell...please, i need advice!! HELP!

2007-01-29 23:15:30 · 8 answers · asked by missvixenx 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have been with for 2 months. I dont want to out do him ithere.so any idias.

2007-01-29 23:14:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I dated this one girl for like 6 months, but she broke up with me....for about 2 years we were still hanging out acting like boyfriend and girlfriend and I was dating on the side...but recently I started dating someone I like a lot...since my ex found out she's been depressed and crying for a week straight, so after reevaluating everything she decides to give us another shot. We've been soo close and had such a history that she's the one I've wanted since I met her...now my current girlfriend....I have to dump her.....and she hasn't done anything wrong and has been nothing but nice to me......We've only been dating about a month, how can I make this less painful for her? Please Help me

2007-01-29 23:14:11 · 14 answers · asked by EddieC52 1 in Singles & Dating

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2007-01-29 23:13:19 · 5 answers · asked by Karl Joshua L 1 in Singles & Dating

i was just reading up on torture devices in the medieval era for my term paper. reading about them turns me on. is this strange? i mean im really aroused with it

2007-01-29 23:12:09 · 7 answers · asked by vegas l 1 in Singles & Dating

I split up with the father of my daughter a few months ago and he made it perfectly clear that he doesnt have any feelings for me anymore, i started seeing this other guy n evrything was going great untill my ex started readsing my msgs and interfearing but me and my new fella hav worked through it and wer still going none of our familys know about it we keep denying it but wer in love and my ex knows hes not that stupid. I sometimes feel like im doing something wrong when deep down i know im not and to make matters worse my ex has just got a house straight across the street from me, he can see in my windows from his house. what can i do? am i in the wrong or is he?

2007-01-29 23:11:47 · 8 answers · asked by suzie m 1 in Singles & Dating

Unable to find the reason. Pls make me understand???

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