they are always deleted, she also said that when they have been out on a couple of occasions together,he flirts and dances with other women to her annoyance and embarrassment.She worries that if he does that when she is there with him, then what does he get up to when she is not there with him.He just replies that he cannot remember doing these things that hurt her so much cos he was drunk, which makes her feel even worse,cos if he is out on his own and is too drunk to remember wat hes is doing how does he know if he has cheated on her.He did this one time whilst i was present(not actually on me)but with a much younger woman and i told him to stop being so disrepectful to his girlfriend was i right as she is no longer talking to me
2007-01-29 23:21:57 · 22 answers · asked by happylove_bunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
does any of you think he may or has been a cheat?
2007-01-29 23:27:47 · update #1
i dont fancy him myself but everyone in our company said he was totally out of order.They are not married but have been together for 6 yrs and have 1 child.She is my friend and it upsets me that he hurts her this way.
2007-01-29 23:34:18 · update #2
Men and Women both use this lame excuse that "i was drunk can't remember" or "i was drunk and i had sex with this person", 2 very lame lying excuses often used.
Being a guy, i would think he's cheated alot. I don't know of any guy's out there that haven't done this same exact thing and used those same exact excuses dozens of times.
The guy's delete the text messages and other messages because they don't want to have to try and explain away what is going on when they are out playing around.
Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out why they do this, Women do it too. It's just the way things are.
2007-01-29 23:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if he deleted text messages, then their is a chance he might be hiding something. Your friend should just ask him, who they are from and what they want. Dancing with other girls, some men do that, would he be mad if she danced with other men? He knows he is going home with her so he might not see a problem with it, he may also like the attention he gets from other women, when a stranger shows you attention it makes you feel great. Its a different from when your partner does it, the best thing is for your friend to confront him. You were right to say something, if you have to listen to her complain about him all the time, she got you involved. You were only looking out for her, but she won't see that right now. Let her find out for herself!
2007-01-30 07:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by pippy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
believe me being a male myself I can tell you with all certainty that there is at least a 90% chance he is planning to cheat or is already cheating on her.In such a situation it is best suited for both the partners to sit down either together or with a counselor to work out the underlying problems if any in the relationship which could be present.The information /symptoms you have described are insufficient to arrive at a conclusion but since you are a good friend you will have to be diplomatic with them since it is a personal issue and she/he may not take your intervention too well...CHEERS AND BEST OF LUCK
2007-01-30 07:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right. You did the right thing. And most of the time when people use the excuse...I don't remember cuz I was drunk....that's all it is, an excuse. They remember every minute of it. They figure that if they can't remember, so to speak, they are not responsible for their actions.
Sit tight and maybe your friend will come to her senses. He probably told her that you hit on him or something and that's why she's not talking to you.
Good luck.
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Not that my husband would cheat, but if he was I would rather that a friend told me then kept her mouth shut. I would rather that a friend told him off, then leave it be. Imagine he's going around with women unprotected? Catching disease? Bringing it home? Yeah, you did the right thing. The two of them though, aren't.
2007-01-30 07:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, I always delete text messages right away -- there's nothing innately sneaky about that. The fact that your friend keeps checking for them, however, is rather sneaky and shows that she doesn't trust him at all.
My advice for you is this: Let them sort out their own marriage. It sounds like they are going through some rough times and the last thing that they need is someone else in their business. People take marital problems very personally (and rightfully so!), so when others try to involve themselves in them, it gets rather sticky. Save yourself the trouble and stay out of it.
2007-01-30 07:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You were right to confront him about his behaviour. I don't know why your friend is no longer speaking to you cos you sound like a good friend. Try talking to her again and ask why she is unhappy with you. The boyfriend may have said something about you behind your back.
2007-01-30 07:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Misty 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One thing is for sure, he's a very disrespectful person and your friend is a fool for putting up with it. It's only a matter of time before he cheats if he hasn't already.
2007-01-30 07:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF U THINK HE IS CHEATING U TELL HER AN THEN STAY OUT OF IT AN MIND YOUR OWN BUS. ITS THE SAME OLE THING U WILL BE THE BAD FRIEND WHEN U TRY TO HELP BUT IF THATS THE CASE THEN SHE WILL GET WHAT SHE GETS AN U WILL BE THERE 4 HER WHEN IT ALL CRUMBLES
2007-01-30 07:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a cheating bastard to me, but you can't save her. She probably already "knows" (she may not hard proof, but she is seeing the signs) he's cheating she and has chosen to turn a blind eye to it for whatever reason.
2007-01-30 07:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u were wrong. u stay away from other people's relationships and mind your own business. he might even be cheating on her in your presence u have to stay silent about it anyway. this is what any person with any decency would do. and why does it bother u whether he cheated on her or not? are u in love with him or smth? i really can't understand why other people's situation bothers u so much. get a life of your own
2007-01-30 07:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋