I split up with the father of my daughter a few months ago and he made it perfectly clear that he doesnt have any feelings for me anymore, i started seeing this other guy n evrything was going great untill my ex started readsing my msgs and interfearing but me and my new fella hav worked through it and wer still going none of our familys know about it we keep denying it but wer in love and my ex knows hes not that stupid. I sometimes feel like im doing something wrong when deep down i know im not and to make matters worse my ex has just got a house straight across the street from me, he can see in my windows from his house. what can i do? am i in the wrong or is he?
2007-01-29 23:11:47 · 8 answers · asked by suzie m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. no its natural to fell in love
2007-01-29 23:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two months, you might be feeling the pangs of a rebound relationship. Maybe the time frame is too soon for you and is causing some anxiety.
None the less, the ex so he needs to butt out, and stay out! He may not be stupid but he's a lot of other things. None of them very good. He still thinks he has the right to try to control you. He seems like he has the audacity to do so if you let him. If you think he's harassing or stalking you call the cops and press charges. You aren't doing anything wrong so long as there is nothing illegal going on. Not for nothing, but why is he reading your messages? Other than conversing with him about the kids, there isn't any need for him to be having this sort of contact with you. He needs to get a massage of his own. He's history as he has made it perfectly clear. Apparently he hasn't gotten gotten over you. His words and his actions contradict each other. Why else would he move so close to you? It stands to reason why you left him. Anyway, what ever he said to you in the past, he's bugged that you're seeing someone. Still, it's none of his business. It's over between you two. By force or by choice you, and your new guy, have every right to make the interference and drama cease.
You should probably come clean with your families about your new relationship.This way you can breath some cleaner air and there will be less baggage to carry around. The only bad thing is if you try to hide this from everyone. There is nothing wrong unless you give the impression that there is. Sooner or later it will get found out, so it would be better if it was told from your end; not from some meddling trouble maker who conveniently set up house across from you.
2007-01-30 09:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I'd find another place and how is he checking your messages anyway. Even if he's over to get his daughter he should wait at the door and has no business going any further, especially touching your things or checking your messages. It's not bad that you are in love again, it's actually a good thing. Frankly it's none of your ex's business or your family's. It's your life and you are the only one who can make yourself happy. Make it clear to your ex that when he's over to get your daughter he is to wait outside or inside by the door or else you'll make arrangements at a local business to do the exchanges.
2007-01-30 07:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by AngieBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to live it for some1 else. You sound ready but you seem relactant to go ahead cuz you are afraid of wht people, your husband or even your daughters will say. I'd rather regret doing something than regret not doing it.
2007-01-30 08:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by nocirpac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put blinds and curtains in your window and make it possible for your ex to NOT be able to acess your messages. Do no engage in conversation with your ex that is not about your daughter and live your life.
2007-01-30 07:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is in the wrong, but it troubles u. Find another house, maybe in a tower 20 storey above, with no window open to a potential flat.
2007-01-30 07:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a bad thing. You should wait until you are divorced. If you were not married, then you need to wait quite a while - your child needs to come first! This is not the time to be selfish.
2007-01-30 07:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
love is a feeling which doesnt regard moral values when it comes into place so i cant say you are wrong
2007-01-30 07:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋