my mom is becoming an alcoholic,and i told her that i think she shud take it slow and not drink every night, but she doesn't listen to me,my sister is worried aswell...please, i need advice!! HELP!
2007-01-29 23:15:30 · 8 answers · asked by missvixenx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe you and your sister can sit together and discuss your mom's drinking. Have a gameplan, figure out what points you want to make. Think about telling your mom how differently she acts when she's drinking. Are there any family members you can tell? Get them involved. More often than not, however, people have to hit rock bottom before they see what harm they're doing to themselves and those around them. From experience, I will tell you that guilt trips and threats do not work in resolving the drinking. All you can do is point out your concerns and hope she'll listen. And remember, it is not your job to parent your parent. Don't feel like it's your responsibility to 'fix' her, because it just doesn't work that way. God Bless and I'll be thinking of you...
2007-01-29 23:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Dad is an alcoholic. He has drank for many years. His health is bad and he now has Cancer growing inside of him. IF you really want your mom to quit and cut back, tell her that drinking will kill her in the long run. My dad has so many tumors in him and it IS caused by all his years of drinking. He still does it to this day and doesnt care if he lives or dies. BUT, if you care a great deal about your mom, ask her what bothers her that makes her want to drink and if she just yells at you or tells you its none of your business, tell her it is your business cause your her Mom and you love her. See if that will help you. I feel for ya I really do. I have been through ALOT with my Father being an alcoholic, and with all his abusiveness not only to my Mom but he would abuse my older brothers and mentally abuse me and my other 2 sisters. Talk to her. Communication might help. You never know till you try.
2007-01-29 23:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by hot-hot-heat69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend i can understand you as i have some one having the same problem in my family once you get addicted to alcohol it is difficult coming back .this is the time you can make her give up the habbit.first of all you have not cleared why see is wanting to do this to her self,there must be some reason behind it she must be having some complaints about her life.get them solved for her make her feel happy,try to keep her involved in topics related to you and your sister ,she wont give it up at once she needs to be taken care of like any other patient .it is the craving for alcohol that has to be removed from her mind you need to make her talk to good friends if required take her to some docter.your question does not give any detail information of your mother so it is difficult to guide you about what exactly to do but she needs lot of support and love from you.
2007-01-29 23:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by toploser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what triggered her drinking? Maybe if you could find that out you may be able to fix it. She may be feeling lonely, or depressed. Maybe try and get her to her doctor, or ring him yourself. Something has to be done before she gets any worse. Has she just had a brake up. Maybe take her to dinner or to the club or a pub to see a band or something. Ususally when someone drinks like that there is a underlying problem, and you have to find out what it is.
2007-01-29 23:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marsha L is right.
I have a lot of experience in this as well...believe me when I tell you that you can do ONLY what is within your power to do: talk to her, let her know where you stand as her daughter. Repeat it as many times as you need to, when it comes up. Do not try to guilt her into not drinking or hound her. She has got to experience the consequences of her drinking for herself; no one can force her to see it. Then make her own decision herself to stop.
In the meantime, hang in there, stay close to your sister, remind your mom that you love her very much. Stay safe.
2007-01-31 07:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it there is no dad in the household to help your mom? Does she have a sister or brother you can talk to her problem about? Someone other than you needs to know about this problem and help her.
2007-01-29 23:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by jeanjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your dad. Where is he? I think he should handle this for you, being the adult and the other parent.
2007-01-29 23:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get help before it gets worst and it can really get bad dont try to handle it yourself call drug and alcohol dept. and they will help both of you all
2007-01-29 23:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by klizye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋