I have seen marriages both successful and unsucessful. But most of the unsucessful ones are the love marriages

Question

Unable to find the reason. Pls make me understand???

Answer 1

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests, which all people will have.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of forgiveness, for, as I said, you're both going to screw up on occasion.

Answer 2

Love is a very strong emotion. Love expects things from the other person. Love can be betrayed. The ability to hurt someone that loves you is 1000 times more likely than with someone that doesn't. Whereas with a marriage without love you tend to be working toward common goals. It's more of a partnership and is based on who the other person really is and not on an emotional attachment. It's great if you can have both love and partnership, but, I find very few relationships have both.

Answer 3

You can love someone but not be able to continue to live with their ways they have developed. Each partner in a marriage grow in different ways over time, so to be a successful marriage depends on whether the other can live with how that other one has become.
Marriage is never the 50/50 like one would think. At times one of them has to give 90% or more to make it work. Then maybe they are the ones that only have to give the 10% next...see what I mean?
I have been married 47 years and I stayed, I loved him but all that time I didn't like him. Then about 7 years ago, he grew up, got his medicine, and we are doing fine. I like him again...there is a difference in like and love...believe me..

Answer 4

This is because they do not really love each other in the right way when they do marry... It is a selfish what i can get out of this marriage kind of love and self gratifying then a love that is selfless and what can i give my spouse in this marriage and how can I please them! This is why marriages fail and a REAL love marriage does last and is succesfful! God also has to be the center of the relationship and marriage as well... You also have to be commited to the relationship and marriage and resolve in your heart to work at it and stick it out even when times get tough and you have to be forgiving of each others faults... No one is perfect so there is no perfect marriage this is why it takes dedication and work. Marriage is what you make of it and it takes 2 to make or break a marriage. If we would stop trying to change our spouses to what we want them to be for us and we worked on changing our selves to become the spouse we need to be for them what better marriages and relationships we would have.Love is selfless and not self centered need i say more?

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Answer 5

hmm... from my point of view, maybe those unsuccessful marriages can't last long due to misunderstanding, trust, financially etc... we can't really find the real reasons as different marriages have different reasons... i'm sure to make a marriage works must have both party to understand each other, give in to each other, love each other more each day & TRUST each other... that way, it'll work... (",)

Answer 6

you have to work at love

it is like a plant you have to nurture it water it talk to it feed it
most ppl think once you are in love thats it if you put love on auto pilot it will fail
i have been happily unmarried for many many yrs and we work at it every day and it grows every day love is never dying if you just tend to it