Family & Relationships - 28 January 2007

Not sure how to put this but when I was 10 - 11 yrs old (I'm now 45), I was awoken twice during the night by my eldest brother who was 14 yrs older than me, he had lifted my nightie up and was kissing my whole body. As soon as I woke up he stopped and just said everything was ok, pulled my nightie down and left the room. He died in 1998 at the age of 51 due to cancer and regurarly I think back to this time. Often the rest of the family get together and talk about old times and ofcourse about my brother.Even though, funnily enough I do miss him but the others think he was a great guy and I'm finding it hard to join in with them as I know what he did to me. How can I tell them what he did? Should I say anything? Even if I did say anything, would I still get these horrible feelings like I do? Or would it be a kind of burden lifted off me? Would they believe me as he is not here to defend himself anymore.
Please only sensible answers if anyone can help me out with this one.

2007-01-28 23:28:00 · 30 answers · asked by bingolil 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I've been told that I'm shy and submissive by a lot of men and it seems like men like it. But i'm not. I'm wild, impulsive and loud.

2007-01-28 23:25:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I don't get out very often, and when I do its at this local bar that can only be described as a dive. I perform at karaoke night, and Im constantly told how much moxy it takes to get up in front of people and sing. In this respect I have confidence. I have always been able to sing and I am quite comfortable when I do. My history with girls however is shameful in every sense of the word, and after a few drinks an attempt to talk to a girl I am interested in always turns into an unparalleled defeat. I've always been rather emotional so obviously this is heightened with inebriation. I tend to bring up my insecurities with a girl, and at the first sign of this openness the girls become disinterested, and often times downright nasty. Now I've heard countless girls praise the virtue of honesty with resounding acclaim, but I'm a bit confused about why they feel they can be so selective in the type of honesty they prefer, and also why a lack of confidence is considered so unattractive.

2007-01-28 23:25:33 · 6 answers · asked by Ian Rowlins 2 in Singles & Dating

I love a girl but she doesn't love me. So I decided to be her friend to keep my chance. Now, I send to her some sms each day to tell some fun story or ask about her day. Sometime she answer my sms but sometime not. I just want to get more closer with her. Do you think what I am doing is right?

2007-01-28 23:23:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Is there a web site I can find out?

2007-01-28 23:22:48 · 17 answers · asked by suckaslug 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I cheated on my boyfriend with a guy he knows, not best friends, but a guy he does know. What should I do he found out and wants nothing to do with me.. How do i get him back.. He was the best thing that ever happened to me and i messed it up becuase i was stupid.

2007-01-28 23:22:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

When I was 13 years old I lost my virginity to a signifigantly older man he was 21. I felt like i had to have sex to have a guy want me. I didn't really understand what sex was at that point. Now i'm 16.

2007-01-28 23:21:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

a few years ago, my ex and i broke up,he asked me to move out he moved another women in...right after i left..we were haveing money problems my ex was worried about lossing the house i got sick couldnt work, every thing was so crazy. after a while he told me he was sorry and had mad a great mistake..he tells me he loves me and wil aways will....he say god will punish him for what has happen between us. he said i am the love of his life aways to the day he die.

2007-01-28 23:18:45 · 17 answers · asked by june c 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am 23 years old, and my boyfriend is 34 years old. Recently, I am thinking that I want to get same year or 24-28 years old boyfriend.
we're together for 2 and half years.

2007-01-28 23:18:27 · 10 answers · asked by superchick 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband cheated on me while I was carrying our sceond child and got this girl knox up and her baby is only two week younger then my son and he name that lil boy JR. it hurt me so much because I been with him for 7years and My first son who IS his he would not let me name him J.R or the second. He had told me that he did not want any of his kids to be name after him and then this happen. He still want to be with me but I can't i told him how am I to trust him again.How would you fell and would you forgive him for this?

2007-01-28 23:17:29 · 18 answers · asked by ya 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We're actually planning to leave together after she finishes her studies in her country, then she would move and live and finish her studies and life (whole hopefully :) ) with me.

Now, I know that long distance relationships aren't simple, and often finishes badly.

But we do love each other and I'd like to know whether i should write to her everyday day and call her once or so a week or leave it until I really miss her and then calling her from time to time only...

Thank you for your help :)

2007-01-28 23:16:46 · 12 answers · asked by theonoshi 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-28 23:15:15 · 19 answers · asked by Soumen M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

what do you do when you been hurt so much you wont Let any one in your life cause you scared of getting hurt again but worse

2007-01-28 23:13:08 · 11 answers · asked by persian gal 2 in Singles & Dating

I don't think I feel jealosy(or however you spell it),I think I feel disrespect. He's 24 & I'm 34.

2007-01-28 23:11:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

says he will marry me when i provide a child.We currently live together in his house, but i fear if the ivf does not work he will trade me in for someone else as he desperately wants a child of his own.He says he will marry me when i get pregnant,but i feel he doesnt love me enough to marry me now,if i do get pregnant i have said i wont marry him and the child wont take his name.do you think im being unfair as he thinks i am.I love him very much and he says he loves me, we have been given a very good chance that the ivf will work but he still wont commit .

2007-01-28 23:11:15 · 23 answers · asked by happylove_bunny 2 in Marriage & Divorce

If you get on really well, make each other really happy, but argue regularly for what seems like no reason how do you know when enough is enough?!

2007-01-28 23:11:10 · 4 answers · asked by W 1 in Singles & Dating

I have two best friends and they are the only friends whom I can trust. But one of my best friends has told a girl, whom I hate, that I still like a tv program. But I don't want the entire class to know about this. It embarrasses me. I can't tell my best friend about this as she will think that I don't trust her. I am also not feeling like talking to them. This is because every one in our class likes them. But I don't think that all the class mates are as friendly to me as they are to my special friends. What should I do? Is our friendship going to break soon?

2007-01-28 23:10:37 · 9 answers · asked by musicinme 3 in Friends

when you ask where the relationship stands or if i should give him space or make an effort? my boyfriend is out of work and i think he's stressed and busy right now-confused. but not giving me a straight answer is not fair for me or for the relationship - ive tried to talk to him twice but got no straight answer. but he seems normal when we're together and sometimes sends me messages - though he is definitely not emotionally connected (meaning, no iloveyous or any mushy stuff) - just the usual hi's and hello's? is he just waiting for me to break it up? or he really cant figure out an answer because of the unemployed situation? he's 23 and im 28... we are having some problems with the relationship which we're trying to fix but i cant fix it when i dont know if he wants space or not. when im making the efforts to visit/talk to him he seems happy/appreciative but still remains emotionally disconnected. HELP!

2007-01-28 23:08:58 · 10 answers · asked by gr00vydavid 1 in Singles & Dating

i mean i have a friend who so close that she is next to my family to me.i like her somuch.she is the only friend i have in my whole life.she broke with me just few days before.i tried to convice her a lot but she so angry that she pushes me away infront of her friends.i feel very insulted about it.

2007-01-28 23:07:49 · 11 answers · asked by sashi 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay, so you would never cheat on your partner and have been in a very loving relationship for a very long time. But you lust after another man, even though you know you really wouldn't want to be with that other man, and are very happy in your relationship, and most certainly do not want it to end, and would never ever cheat.

2007-01-28 23:05:33 · 26 answers · asked by Wafflebox 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

I had a strong suspicion about him, and out of the blue I told my friends I thought my bf was into Satanism, I don't know why I thought that in the first place...he's the nicest guy ever. Yesterday he announced that he is into that stuff. Now I'm totally freaked out.

Can anyone tell me what's going on here?

2007-01-28 23:04:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

its my first month in a famous hotel ,front office work , i really like it here, its the place i always wanted to be in.but.a girl in the same office got jealous of me, i never did anything to bother her..all what i did was doing my work and treat people as its supposed 2 be , thast made everybody love & respect me..she keeps annoying me,
one day, she called me when i was out of my office, and it was already her shift, she asked me about a wrong bell or something...she made that up ofcourse as always !!..then while i was with her on phone, she claimed shes having another call , & its our supervisior, i heard her clearly telling my supervisior that im doin alot of mistaks,and im sayin false things about her &my time here is short, i went crazy,calling my supervisior.to get shocked knowing that the girl wasn't even taking 2 her !!i kept swearing that she was pretending talking to her...well the next day..our general mgr.said she complaind of me,shes making things harder,what can i do?

2007-01-28 23:03:36 · 3 answers · asked by princess 1 in Friends

Ladies, does the old traditional "Wining & Dining" still impress you? I've gotten to see that the old methods, of entertaining a Lady. (nice clothes, ncie food, nice atmosphere, etc;) Just doesn't seem to impress as much. Am I off base, on this one?

2007-01-28 23:01:44 · 9 answers · asked by Goggles 7 in Singles & Dating

I am 39 years old now. I am not married yet. I have a good job to do. One old guy he asked me to sleep with him. And he will give me a house to live. A good small house. But i not asnwer him yet. I dont want to do it for money or house. I had house to live already. I had the answer ,That is " No" But i want to ask you about your comment.

2007-01-28 23:00:39 · 24 answers · asked by boathouse 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-01-28 22:59:34 · 12 answers · asked by stranger 7 in Marriage & Divorce

he propose to marry me before he travelled out side the contry though we have been comunicating, he will tell me he coming in 2 months time yet he will call me and tell me that he can't make it ,it should be next two months again.he keeps postponing it.And my family is worried about it but me i still love him so much.

2007-01-28 22:58:41 · 4 answers · asked by Babygirl 1 in Weddings

I have been single for almost 6 months and I want a boyfriend. people like me and ask me out but it is all the wronge one like they are only going with you for your body. what should I do???????

2007-01-28 22:57:00 · 11 answers · asked by mandy iz a cutie 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-28 22:56:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

a gal at work fancis me to bits we sent each other nughty texts, i a m reluctant to get into a relationship fearing "complications" at work. my mate 's gf resigned after they had sex saying she is embarrassed coz other people know. do u think it puts a gal in difficulty. is it healthy?

2007-01-28 22:55:54 · 3 answers · asked by kau la poo 2 in Singles & Dating

she is fond of chocolates but syas tht she might put some wt coz of chocolates, likes diamonds but 2 choosy..............

Pls suggest a better alternative to gift her somethng really gudddddddddd

2007-01-28 22:54:25 · 18 answers · asked by tejas_mjoshi 1 in Singles & Dating