My husband cheated on me while I was carrying our sceond child and got this girl knox up and her baby is only two week younger then my son and he name that lil boy JR. it hurt me so much because I been with him for 7years and My first son who IS his he would not let me name him J.R or the second. He had told me that he did not want any of his kids to be name after him and then this happen. He still want to be with me but I can't i told him how am I to trust him again.How would you fell and would you forgive him for this?
2007-01-28 23:17:29 · 18 answers · asked by ya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It has happened to me, I do understand exactly how you feel emotionally also may be a little physically. Yes you are correct to say trusting him is done. I agree with you. I also understand the hurt and deep resentment that you could not name your son, for now, chuckles jr or the second of your husband. I would pray that you would forgive him put the past in the past. Let the deed end there, then concentrate on healing yourself by acknowledging that you did truly and honestly forgave his actions if not him. Essentially you are admitting that he acted and excuted a human error that is what he did. He hurt you yes but his actions did not take away your humanity or capicity to forgive and also my dear try not to hold a grudge, let it go year after year. Tell yourself whatever you have to, I am a good human being, I can do this, I am not going to get caught up in a petty situation like holding a grudge, do whatever it takes to help you help yourself to move forward emotionally and physically. Cos' baby gurl you are not going to die from this. It may feel like it, you may feel that you will never stop crying, feeling like the bottom has fallen out from under you. Yet you have to do something positive in view of this, do it for yourself and remember you have a beautiful child, ill regardless who the father is and that child will love you will assist greatly in the healing path should you start the healing process wright now. Do not wait to do this, I beg you. I am still healing myself. I am trying everyday to admit a lot of things surrounding my own experience, I was cheated on there is a child who did not come from my womb out there yet has a connection to my first husband. I am still working and I feel strongly that you should continue to work every day little bits and pieces. Succeed gurl, do not fail or let this failing of human nature cloud your life anymore then it already has please.
Tell yourself how beautiful and smart you are, try carrying hope instead of dispair. You will find strength, you will find love of self , you are still a mother after all,moving on is not as hard as you feel it is wright now. Good luck my dear.Many cherokee blessings!
2007-01-28 23:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by redwater_01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset.I would be devistated,hurt,angry and I would never forgive him.Trust is everything in a relationship without trust you have nothing.You have answered your own question hun of what you need to do.You definately need to divorce him and move on.You will never beable to trust him again.What he did to you was absolutely inexcuseable there is no excuse,reason or justification for cheating.He disrespected you in the worst way.You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.He is not the man for you.You will meet the right man and he will accept and love your children like his own.You need to file for divorce and child support make sure that he supports the children that you had with him that is still his obligation.You have to want better for yourself and if he cheated once he will do it again.I am sorry for what you are going trough I have been there before to but I made it and so will you.I met a wonderful man and he loves my child like she was his own.Get rid of that cheater and move on you deserve an honest man.Good luck to you.
2007-01-29 07:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though there are serious problems there. First is the fact that he cheats, gets the girl pregnant and continues to have contact with her. He acts like a spoiled child who never faces consequences for his actions. Secondly, he further shows that he cares not in the slightest for your feelings nor respects you by naming the child JR against your wishes. Perhaps it is time to leave him with her and move on. You will be happier in the long run.
2007-01-29 07:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by fly guy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would be hurt... and would consider moving out on my own. If someone cheats on you, you reserve the right to leave them.
This guy sounds like he is not worth spending the rest of your life wondering if he really loves you or if he is still cheating or if he is lying about where he is going when he is out and about.
As hard as it may be for you, whether emotionally or financially, leave him and sue him for child support. Then go on living the best life you can for you and your child.
There ARE men out there who know how to treat women with respect. You deserve nothing less.
2007-01-29 07:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can't stay with someone share the bed with me, i can forgive him if he reg-rate what he did... if he really loves u and need u he will love u alone not to share his love with other girl..
put the limited in your relationship and don't afraid from anything.... u are feeling in stress and angry and don't do anything, go away and tell him that i can't handle that or i will stop our relationship, let him feel that he did wrong tell him what u thinking why u sad.. the men sometimes or all the time is fool and stupid don't know what the women thinking.... so be aware and open your heart to him... u are not the game for him u are stronger than that... good luck
2007-01-29 07:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would forgive him,but HELL NO,I would NOT stay married to him.I know it is impossible to turn your feelings on and off because love is unconditional,but I would DIVORCE him A.S.A.P.
This is merely my opinion,the decision is yours and yours ALONE.You have to decide for yourself,which is more important(him or your sanity.Keep in mind that a man(or a person in general) cannot do no more than you allow them to do to you.I know it is hard and I cannot possible begin to imagine what you are going through.Just keep your faith in God and go to God for help.I hope this helps.Good luck.
2007-01-29 07:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by fnocentelli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope sorry i dont give 2nd chances . God is in the forgiving business not me . get a divorce and move on and get everything including child support,house ,car everything . Leave him penniless and then see if his little wh--- is willing to support his broke behind then . good luck .
2007-01-29 11:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would feel devastated as you probably do. You must have chosen to forgive for cheating if he is still there. but from experience once you have cheated on someone it just keeps comin easier and that is coming from a cheater ME!!
2007-01-29 07:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by aaaa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh these men they are going to kill us they are all the same give him a piece of mind and tell him to go to hell as far as am concerned he will repeat the same thing and tell u more lies god helps from these no good husbands
2007-01-29 07:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by chiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you are still there. What are you thinking. I don't know how I would FELL. But I do know how I would FEEL.
2007-01-29 11:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋