how i can fulfil my wife's desire?

Question

about sex in our new marriage life

i can not **** her for a long time but she wants more

Answer 1

Although this question should not be posted here as it is more a health problem but now you have asked it I want to share with you some points that can help you two to enjoy more in your sexual activity. Read these:- 10 Things You Should Know About Lasting Longer
1. First some bad ideas for trying to last longer:

a. Don’t try to distract yourself during sex to make it last longer. That’s no fun and it’s mostly ineffective. Are you really having a great time if you are busy doing math problems in your head? Instead of tuning out, tune into your body and your feelings. Familiarize yourself with your sexual response. Learn to recognize how your body feels as it approaches the point of no return. Once you are tuned into this feeling, then you can make small adjustments to allow yourself to stay highly aroused without reaching the point of ejaculation.

b. Squeeze Technique: Similar to the Stop/Start Technique, but the penis is squeezed just below the head, between your thumb and forefinger just before the point of no return, instead of just stopping. Many therapists aren’t using this technique anymore, as it interrupts the flow of sex if you have to remove the penis and then squeeze and hold it. With the Stop/Start method, you stop the movements, but you are still inside her and can still kiss, touch, etc… It doesn’t interrupt the flow of sex to the degree that the squeeze method does.

c. Using 2 condoms: There are a few reasons this is a bad idea. First, if you are relying on desensitizing yourself to last longer, then aren’t you sacrificing pleasure? The second reason this may be a bad idea is that using 2 condoms at the same time can cause friction as they rub together, making it likely that they will break. So, if birth control or disease control is a concern to you, then definitely don’t do this one.

d. Anesthetic products: There are cream products on the market that have a numbing effect on your penis and claim they will help you last longer. There are several reasons this may be a bad idea. Again, if you are numbing yourself, then aren’t you sacrificing pleasure? And not just sacrificing your own pleasure, either, as the cream rubs off on your lady’s vagina, too, rendering it numb and insensitive. It also makes oral sex taste horrible. There’s also the possibility of allergic reaction. Who wants to have an allergic reaction on your most private areas? The application of these products must also be timed properly so they are not put on too early and start to lose their effectiveness. This can create stress that helps to increase anxiety that may actually contribute to the very problem that the product is trying to fix. These products are also very expensive.

2. Relax during sex. This will help you last longer. Many men tend to tense our muscles during sex. We clench our butt muscles, tense our abs, contort our face, flex our thigh muscles, etc… Muscles contract easier when nearby muscles are contracted, therefore by tensing up and contracting so many of our muscles during sex, we may also be making it easier for the muscles that control ejaculation to contract.

3. Vocalization may help you last longer, also, as it helps to rid your body of tension. So, don’t be afraid to moan and groan.

4. Stop/Start Technique: Focus on your level of arousal. When you are just short of your point of no return, stop moving and breathe deeply until the urge to ejaculate passes. Then start moving again. When you are stopped, you only need to stop pelvic movement so you don’t come. Don’t stop all movements. This would be a great time to kiss, touch, etc… Sex expert, educator, and author, Sari Locker suggests an easy way to do this. She calls it, ‘5,6,7,8, Now’s the Time to Stop & Wait’ Here’s how it works. Imagine a scale from 1-10, where 1 is un-stimulated and 10 is orgasm. Begin intercourse as usual. Gauge your level of arousal on our imaginary scale. When you get to a level of 8, “Now’s the Time to Stop & Wait”. Pause for a few seconds to bring your arousal level down a few notches. Then continue until you reach level 8 again. Do this as many times as you would like before you eventually let yourself reach levels 9 and 10. And again, remember that when you are at the “now’s the time to stop and wait” part, you should still be touching, kissing, and stimulating your partner so the flow of sex is not interrupted.

5. Slow insertion: If you insert your penis quickly into the vagina, it can receive over-stimulation, causing you to ejaculation sooner than you would prefer.

6. Rocking Rhythm: Instead of pumping in and out of the vagina, where your penis receives a lot of stimulation, try inserting your penis deeply and then using a side to side or circular rocking motion to establish a rhythm. Many women may prefer this, anyway, as you may be able to stimulate her clitoris better this way.

7. Try the Altered Depth or Altered Speed Technique.

Altered Depth Technique: This technique alters the "normal" single depth intercourse stroke. Instead, try the following: 1 stroke deep and 9 strokes shallow. Then, 2 strokes deep and 8 strokes shallow. Then, 3 strokes deep and 7 strokes shallow. Then, 4 strokes deep and 6 strokes shallow. Then, 5 strokes deep and 5 strokes shallow. Then, 6 strokes deep and 4 strokes shallow. Then, 7 strokes deep and 3 strokes shallow. Then, 8 strokes deep and 2 strokes shallow. Then, 9 strokes deep and 1 stroke shallow. This technique has a few benefits. It alters the depth of the stroke and provides your lady with stimulation variation. Another benefit is that it may make you last longer. The reason for this is you are making yourself take mostly short, shallow strokes in the beginning. The deeper strokes don't come until later. If you still have a tendency to *** too early with this technique, then repeat each phase twice before moving on to the next phase.

Altered Speed Technique: This technique alters the single speed intercourse stroke. Instead, try the following: 1 stroke fast and 9 strokes slow. Then, 2 strokes fast and 8 strokes slow. Then, 3 strokes fast and 7 strokes slow. Then, 4 strokes fast and 6 strokes slow. Then, 5 strokes fast and 5 strokes slow. Then, 6 strokes fast and 4 strokes slow. Then, 7 strokes fast and 3 strokes slow. Then, 8 strokes fast and 2 strokes slow. Then, 9 strokes fast and 1 stroke slow. This technique has a few benefits. It alters the speed of the stroke and provides your lady with stimulation variation. Another benefit is that it may make you last longer. The reason for this is you are making yourself take mostly slow strokes in the beginning. The faster strokes don't come until later. If you still have a tendency to *** too early with this technique, then repeat each phase twice before moving on to the next phase.

8. Wearing a condom can help you last longer.

9. Masturbation: Another tip for boosting your staying power is to masturbate once or more before you meet up with your lady for intercourse. Subsequent orgasms will usually take longer to occur than the first one, so get it out of the way before intercourse and you may last longer than a pack of jolly ranchers.

10. Valsalva maneuver: Try using the Valsalva maneuver to prolong intercourse. The second you feel like you're going to orgasm, bear down as if you were trying to have a bowel movement. This relaxes the muscles that contract during ejaculation and may buy you a few more minutes, according to Dudley S. Danoff, M.D., a urologic surgeon at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles. There are also Kegel exercises for strengthening the PC muscles, which will help with ejaculation control.

Answer 2

No. Just the reasonable desires. I don't think that abandoning is the way to handle upset. That just reinforces rejection and makes a bad situation drag out and become more memorable. Cutting off the phone is unduly harsh. Discussing things and moratoriums work better. Stay and support. Go to bed each night under a truce and take as long as is needed to work it out during the day. You are married. False pride (proving you are right) is not worth killing love. C. :)!!

Answer 3

By trying to win the place in her heart. She afterall needs ur attention, love affection. She feels secured only when u spend maximum time and take her out, here and there so that she should not feel insecurity in you. If u do then u are the greatest person in the world to fulfil both desires. See sex is only not the thing in life, it is only a routine thing in married persons which ofcouse gives u hapiness, but apart from it the vital role is ur life which has to be led with your life. Try to see her happy then inturn the same would reap for you.

Answer 4

Ask her what it is that she desires and wants sexually. Then fulfill those requests and wishes of hers. The goal is to always make her happy, so do everything that you know makes her happy and every now and then add a little spice to make things in the bedroom diffferent, hot, and passionate for the both of you.

Answer 5

First of all, better contact the psychologist Dr., who can surely cure you.

By that time, please understand that the lady can be satisfied, if the play is given sufficient time by getting engaged through various love- games. So try to take more time in playing sex with your wife. I fully hope that her desire will be completely fulfilled.

Answer 6

Ehhh that would depend on what her desire is. Do you know? If not ask her me and my wife have talked over alot of things that are "Taboo" to most and can say with honesty that we are now closer than ever

Answer 7

You can love you wife in different ways other then penetration. Try bathing her without her touching the sponge( do this in an ****** way) Try touching her softly over her body, kissing her in ever area gently, caressing her body with your tongue in ways that she would be amazed. Use your fingers gently over her her body, kiss her soft and slow whisper in her ears sweet nothings.
Good Luck

Answer 8

it can be tricky if you haven't had many sexual partners, but my husband and i we were virgins when we started out. we learnt together what we wanted during our love making first of all ask her what she wants done, then tell her what you want done. i play with my husband first before we make love, i kiss and suck his penis, his balls, i lick his nipples kiss his back and sometimes get rough with him. he licks and kisses my Virgina, kisses my breast licks my neck slaps my bottom we do many many different positions. if I'm on top then it takes him longer to come if his on top or from behind then he comes very quickly. just experiment it will be exciting for both of you. ENJOY.

Answer 9

By listening to her and finding out what she wants. Then take steps to try and materialize them or fulfill them.

Answer 10

you can start by asking her what her desires are. and then if you are not sure as to how to go about fulfilling her desires...ask her to show you how to do it.

Answer 11

ask her and possibly she would be very happy to explain what it is that she enjoys and maybe you can tell her what you like. communication is a great glue for a marriage on many subjects.