Ladies, does the old traditional "Wining & Dining" still impress you? I've gotten to see that the old methods, of entertaining a Lady. (nice clothes, ncie food, nice atmosphere, etc;) Just doesn't seem to impress as much. Am I off base, on this one?
2007-01-28 23:01:44 · 9 answers · asked by Goggles 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah.... Southern Charm!
You must be dating the wrong "Ladies" if they don't appreciate "wining and dining." (just kidding!) Then again, ask yourself... "is this what SHE really likes... or what I really like?!"
Most good, old fashioned women love wining and dining with nice clothes, nice food in a nice atmosphere... but some of us old fashioned women enjoy simpler things (such as picnics by a lake) more!
Let me explain something that may seem obvious, but isn't always the case. I was raised to appreciate the finer things... my father was the perfect gentleman and taught me to look for that in my potential dates. I once suggested a nice restaurant for my date, but once there, he was purely uncomfortable with all the forks, spoons and meal courses... so the evening went miserably for both of us! I assumed that everyone would appreciate the finer things in life... but obviously I was wrong!
Research your potential date for their likes and dislikes before you go through all the effort to "wine and dine." It may be that it isn't a matter of the lady "not being impressed" as much as it's her comfort level with the situation.
I hope that helps!
2007-01-30 09:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're off base. Wining and Dining is lovely, but it can be boring/uncomfortable. I think honesty and integrity is the most impressive on a date.
A few things can set a bad tone right away: If I sense a guy is not really up front, it pretty much wrecks it. Whining about past relationships really sets a bad impression as well. If the man doesn't respect or trust women, the date is pretty much shot. I wonder if it is the date itself that is not impressive, or your attitude? Are you frustrated/detached/bored yourself? (Not a criticism, just a thought for consideration.) Sincerity combined with outings that show a little more of who you are and what you like to do would impress me more. For example, sailing, snorkeling, tai-chi, massages, mystery night, and active dates combined with food would be fun. I think we all get bored with the same old same old, don't you?
Hope this helps. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-28 23:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have found women that aren't impressed when you spend money on them then you are lucky. There are many women that only want a man to take them out and buy expensive things for them, then when that dries up move on to someone else. Going out to dinner is essential as a way to get to know one another at first but it doesn't have to be fancy. Going out of a pizza should be good enough for the most part. I view the type of women that fall for a man because of the nice places they take them and the great things they buy as shallow and just in it for a good time--the same with a man actually. Personally, I would prefer a man to "give of himself" and not his wallet, plus there are many men that will fork out cash for a limo ride, dinner, movie and then expect sex in return for money spent. This may not be you but it is a common mode of opperation for many men and you set yourself up for scrtiny when you overspend. I am much more comfortable when a man doesn't spend excessive money so that the old "expecting something in return" doesn't come into play. Getting to know the other person is more important than showing someone a good time. When two people are compatible, popcorn and a rental movie will be enjoyable. Save the fancy stuff for her birthday or Valentines Day and make it something special.
2007-01-29 01:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked Little Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only for us over 30's. I think it has nearly disappeared. I believe that some young men and girls do not even know it exists or existed. i think it is wonderful and I would be highly impressed if a man were to do that for me. But you can't just do it once or twice it has to be done more often than that...for a lady.
Anyway in this day and age youngies are usually in the sack by the end of the first night so men don't need to try so hard.
2007-01-28 23:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by kim c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think many women are still impressed by it, but it is a little outdated, and some women see it as the guy just going through the motions. Try something more original, or different, and see what kind of response you get. Here are some suggestions:
Horseback riding
sailing
hot air balloon ride
afternoon picnic at the beach
hiking
wine tasting
cook for her and invite her over.
2007-01-28 23:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love to be wined and dined just not all the time. Not all women want material things. If you're attentive, understanding and present, then you'll go a long way.
2007-01-28 23:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by st3psp8 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It dosent have to be fancy but hold the door open and being a gentleman is so refreshing.
2007-01-28 23:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Belinda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is more desirable if u r overly nice than being cheap or rude so i would stick to your strategy.
2007-01-29 01:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 03:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by gazdecki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋