Family & Relationships - 22 December 2006

I have been dating my current girlfriend for about 2 years and she has gained a significant amount of weight since we started dating. I told her to lose it a long time ago and that she was "Starting to look rediculous" but she has only lost 5lbs in the last 3 months even though she runs every day and still has like another 35lbs to lose to get back to the 110 she was at when I met her (that might seem low but she is only 5'3") and frankly I am not sexually attracted to her. I told her 3 weeks ago I wasn't going to sleep with her anymore until she started loosing more weight and now I think she is actually gaining weight it's distgusting.

Anyways I have started a relationship with someone else now and I really don't want to be with her anymore. It's very sad I love her to death, but it's embarassing to my friends and family her weight. I do NOT to make her mad. How do I tell her this so she won't get upset. She said she wants a "ring" for xmas. She has no idea and I feel bad for her.

2006-12-22 18:16:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-22 18:15:10 · 8 answers · asked by missprissy1004 2 in Marriage & Divorce

he told me he loved me and were only 15!!!i thought it was so cute!!!what do u think??.....

2006-12-22 18:14:08 · 19 answers · asked by roxygirl 2 in Singles & Dating

We are getting married and we really dislike my fiances mums new boyfriend. Trouble is they are getting really serious and have been together for about 8months now. Both my partner and I hate him. But is there a way of having her come to the wedding and not him? It would really p*ss me off to have him there. He tormented my cat. Made snide remarks about my partners cooking and plays the guitar at every opportunity (even when we are having breakfast!) He's the most annoying person I've ever met. His mum is such a sensitive thing and I don't know how to tell her or even if we should. AAaargh! Any advise is appreciated.

2006-12-22 18:13:21 · 11 answers · asked by ? 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I lied and told my Mom, Aunt, and sister that we had planned on going out of State for Christmas and that I won't be around to celebrate with them this year...that we could do Christmas another time. My family never agrees on anything and Christmas always seeme "fake"....like no one wants to see each other anyway. Today, I called my sister and told her that the trip got canceled and if my Mom stays overnight with her (she resides at a group home for the mentally ill) that we're free to either have her over for a few hours Saturday night or we could come over there. My sister didn't like this idea....not at all. That I should have my Mom over too since she wants to see my 17 month old daughter. So...I agreed and planned a small lunch on Sunday and also agreed to take her back to the group home which is 1 1/2 hour drive each way. Then, later in the evening, my sister calls and says that my Aunt called her stating that she will come Monday to my place and pick my Mom up, but there's

2006-12-22 18:12:44 · 11 answers · asked by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 in Family

this gut told me he loved me but he doesnt want a relationship right now...but i really do...how can i kinda ask him or...idk...i know that if he doesnt want to i shouldnt push it but i <3 him so much and want to be iwith him.what do u think??

2006-12-22 18:12:06 · 9 answers · asked by roxygirl 2 in Singles & Dating

this guy is my best friend. lately he's been spending more time with my brother. also he has been teasing me about this guy that likes me that i don't like very much. also he told me that if anything ever happened to me it would throw him off the edge. He also seems to stare at me a lot at school and always smiles and looks into my eyes when we talk plz help me does he like me or is he just being my buddy?

2006-12-22 18:09:26 · 12 answers · asked by confused 2 in Singles & Dating

i am curious as to what people will say.

2006-12-22 18:09:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-22 18:08:06 · 20 answers · asked by anafeeafrica 1 in Singles & Dating

one my best friends moved away to a different house/school thats about forty minutes away and the only way i can visit her is by bus, which im usually not allowed to take alone THAT FAR.
okay so there were four of us.
me, danica, courtney, and teresa.
me and danica were BEST FRIENDS . but danica was best friends with courtney and teresa, and well i was close with courtney and teresa too..but only about 90%.
we always hung out together, except teresa has another best friend but they never hang out because they get on eachothers nerves(but they've known eachother since forever)
and courtney and danica(mybestfriend) are like REALLY REALLY REALLY close/best friends too.
but now that my best friend has left i am afraid that teresa will just go off with her other best friend and it'll be just me and courtney...
im not mad about it but what if we fall apart? what happenes then?

2006-12-22 18:08:03 · 6 answers · asked by felisia m 1 in Friends

2006-12-22 18:07:16 · 25 answers · asked by ssmithy 1 in Singles & Dating

ok so...he's mentioned something of a ring, also said something about me living in his house on base (which you cannot do unless you're married right?) and he also has said that he wanted to keep me forever then asked ok?, but he has not said that he loves me. What does this mean?

2006-12-22 18:05:50 · 17 answers · asked by TerribleTina 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and i split up a few months ago,he started dating people that very week.I later found out he was with someone/relationship,and now i beleive he could have got her pregnant.I filed for child support.It was the only thing i could do to show him how seriouse this was,we are back together now.The thing is i dont want some girl coming along next year saying its his baby,i wouldnt be able to accept it peirod.I think if i drop the case now and then found out later that it is his,i have lost my chance.Is is first come first surve?He has an appointment on the 5th and we are currently trying to buy a house,yes i know stupid me but we have lived with my mother for almost a year and it was what split us up in the first place.Should i drop it now? or will i not be able to apply again? I am afraid i will end up with whats left for our two kids and it wouldnt be much.I may sound selfish but i wasnt that one that desided to have a relationship so quickly.

2006-12-22 18:05:35 · 5 answers · asked by Samantha 1 in Marriage & Divorce

there is this guy who i thought was a friend, everytime i would have my dialysis treatment he would talk to me, we are both married, we like the same movies etc. well lately when we talk there is a dialysis tech who always just happens to but into our conversations, and flirts with him , and now its to the point we hardly talk. the other day this girl was taking care of me and my guy friend asks me if i got his email, isaid no and he comes out with, i know,cuz i didn't email you. loud enough so that a few of the other workers laughed. i was so embarassed, another thing that happened the same day, he asked this girl to go out to dinner with him right in front of me. anyway, he is acting really weird. i am married too,my husband knows we talk, but i think he thinks i want something more, which i don't, i am happily married. anyways i don't know how to act when i go back to my treatment on tuesday. i mean part of me wants to slap the crap out of him

2006-12-22 18:05:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I like this guy, Josh. I just found out that he knows that I like him. Another girl who's one grade younger also likes him, but he's known that for a year.

I used to talk to him a lot, but that stopped when a conflicted arose last year. We stopped talking and he said he hated me. Then a few months later he said he didn't really care anymore.

Well, he recently said something extrememly rude to me, and acted like he still hated me. So later I told him a story: [short version] I used to be crazy about this guy, but as I got to know him better as a person, I stopped liking him. You know why? I realized he was an asshole.

So a mutual friend later asked if he got the point of the story, and he snapped at her in mid-sentence and said: Yes, I understand the point! Now stop talking to me!

A few days later, he asked the younger girl out. She obviously said yes because she liked him, which he knew. Is there a connection here between what I said and him asking her out now?

2006-12-22 18:04:01 · 8 answers · asked by abcdefgh 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-22 18:03:45 · 30 answers · asked by ssmithy 1 in Singles & Dating

me and my bf have been together for 6 months now. we've lived together since day 1 of our getting together..wild i know. he doesn't go anywhere at all. he wakes up beside me and goes to sleep with me. we're around each other all day every day, since he does not work yet. I get mad when i see him talking to other people online. they dont talk about anything sexual. i know because i've hacked into all his accounts, myspace, yahoo, everything and have checked up on him. its just that some of these females he talks to he once was infactuated with and wanted to sleep with at one time but has told me since us he has those feelings no more and they're just friends. am i over protective. should i just ease up on him. and trust him.

2006-12-22 18:01:06 · 24 answers · asked by Happy Being Me 1 in Singles & Dating

He is so annoying

2006-12-22 17:59:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2006-12-22 17:59:16 · 6 answers · asked by unni kuttan 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a bf. and i tell people this but they dont seem to get it. my ex still likes me, and several other guys do too. how do i get them to just leave me alone without going evil on them?

2006-12-22 17:59:16 · 19 answers · asked by Luna W 1 in Singles & Dating

theres this guy i like but i don't think he no's im alive what do i do

2006-12-22 17:57:01 · 16 answers · asked by Evelyn S 2 in Singles & Dating

I met this really cool Hott guy online
nd after chatting with him we became really Close
He even asked me 2 be his gf nd i said no cuz i didnt want any online relationships but we're still very close as if we were together
1. Am i doing anything wrong ?(btw i m just 13)
nd well he never asked me to show or strip on cam nd he alwayz puts my needs first , But i dont trust him 100% cuz he sent me a picture nd i donno it kinda Loox old nd fake althought its Jpg...but he's sooo hottt
2.is there a way 2 find out if the picture is fake or not?
Thx Guys(sorry for the bad english , i m french educated)

2006-12-22 17:56:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-22 17:56:44 · 16 answers · asked by rickboston2006 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hello-first, I'm going to ask a general question:

In your relationship, is it appropriate for your signifigant other to (go out with/see/visit) (friends/ex's/people that there have been feelings for)? Is it okay for your guy to go have a Christmas visit with his ex girl & her family, without you there?

What do you consider the appropriate levels of interaction between your partner and thier friends/ex's? What boundaries, if any, should be set?

2006-12-22 17:55:17 · 10 answers · asked by anenkletos21 1 in Marriage & Divorce

recently i became a team leader. one of my team members thinks that she knows it all. she is rude and too aggressive as well. one time she was talking about religion and i told her that we have people in our team from different background and religions and i would really appreciate it if she would not bring this topic because it causes problems and we do not need that in our team. she kept arguing and saying that this is science and that it is education and that there are too many topics that are sensetive and that we cannot stop talking about this and that she wanted to talk to others about that and i said to her nicely this is not about education this is your opinion and your are imposing it on others and many of them do not like it and yes other issues sometimes are senestive but this specific topic can cause a lot of fraction and problems in the team. she also does not turn to me when she is talking to me. what do you think i need to do? how should i deal with her?

2006-12-22 17:54:18 · 10 answers · asked by DD 2 in Singles & Dating

is compromise the way to successful marriage.love or arrange marriage which is better?

2006-12-22 17:53:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

It's always the something.....my back is killing me, my knee hurts, I hate my job and on and on. He has had 5 jobs within a year. I have had the same job for 4 years. My paycheck does not cover all the bills and food for my 3 kids and us plus all the extras, like gas. He has now been out of work for 2 months because of his back and I am at the point where I just want to SCREAM at him to get a job. I even switched to 3rd shift for the extra money, only to wake up one afternoon to find him chatting with women on the computer. So I switched back to days. I am not sure what to do anymore, he says he loves me, but I am not sure since he hasn't kept his promise to stop talking to these women. He has even called them and one woman only lives 20 mins from us and about 5 mins from his brother's house (who he seems to be visiting a lot lately). I know I have a lot of issues going on here, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.

2006-12-22 17:52:00 · 13 answers · asked by kikibaby 1 in Marriage & Divorce

if this guy you like makes eye contact at you but you just ignore it. You do not response back in this kinda way cause your a little bit shy. What would he feel? who ever has the best answer 4 this gets the bounty.

2006-12-22 17:51:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I never realized this till now but whenever I come across someone who seems to be "better" than me..physically/socially...I just seem to feel resentment towards them. i really hate this about myself and would like to stop. Please help!! Anyone else relate?

2006-12-22 17:49:38 · 26 answers · asked by jessp 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-12-22 17:49:22 · 10 answers · asked by missprissy1004 2 in Marriage & Divorce