recently i became a team leader. one of my team members thinks that she knows it all. she is rude and too aggressive as well. one time she was talking about religion and i told her that we have people in our team from different background and religions and i would really appreciate it if she would not bring this topic because it causes problems and we do not need that in our team. she kept arguing and saying that this is science and that it is education and that there are too many topics that are sensetive and that we cannot stop talking about this and that she wanted to talk to others about that and i said to her nicely this is not about education this is your opinion and your are imposing it on others and many of them do not like it and yes other issues sometimes are senestive but this specific topic can cause a lot of fraction and problems in the team. she also does not turn to me when she is talking to me. what do you think i need to do? how should i deal with her?
2006-12-22 17:54:18 · 10 answers · asked by DD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tha'ts just a part of many challenges when you are working with a team and especially for you that you happen to be the team leader. Talk to her, just tell her how you feel. Try not to hurt her feelings though, people like that are quite sensitive. Be friendly. Instead of pointing her out like YOU're so rude! Tell it this way, WE feel bad when we argue on these issues... WE are disturbed when... WE are not interested in... It makes US ___ when you ____. And WE hope we could work more smoothly together without these. Assert your point without being aggressive, its your responsibility to keep everybody together and not to worsen the situation by acting like a kid. Goodluck!
2006-12-22 18:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by shexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can truly be selfish and real assholes sometimes. Sadly you can't always get them to turn around. Do your best to remain calm if she has a problem with you, that way if she ever comes back with some sort of complaint on your end, she has nothing to use against you. I don't know if there is someone above you for this team but if they are, they notice people's attitudes toward the job if you realize it or not and she will eventually get kicked out the door..by your boss..or by karma. Otherwise, if she continues being rude and YOU are in charge, step up for the right thing. You obviously have good morals and they always come above career so boot her *** off the team if she gives you more trouble. Assertively, but nicely of course. good luck to you
2006-12-23 01:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by citygurl8503 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her privately and maybe give her another warning and tell her if she persist than you will have to take some affirmative action. It is very important that all group members feel comfortable in their groups so that your team or group can be cohesive. The more cohesive the group the better progress and group productivity will occur. Hopefully it will work for you in the end and merry x mas
2006-12-23 02:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by Emery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should just put your foot down with her, and use your position to enforce it. You can tell her that when she is at work, then she needs to keep her personal comments to herself, and restrict the conversation to work related issues.
You are new to your position, and how you deal with issues that challenge your authority will set the tone of respect or disrespect with the other employees you are in charge with, not to mention your own superior.
Use tact, but be firm and no nonsense with her, and make it clear that if she persists then you will be forced to take disciplinary actions with her.
Good luck.
2006-12-23 02:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by kamikaze_4021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things you dont talk about in the workplace....politics and religion. If your employees feel uncomfortable with this issue, they are entited to claim harassment and she can, ACCORDING TO LAW, get written up or even fired.
I suggest you look up your harassment policy in your company and relay this message to her. Since she is too aggresive about this, then I am willing to bet that she has already crossed the line. I suggest having a meeting with her about this and have your entire group have a meeting about this and your harrasment policy. If you dont have a harassment policy in the company...GET ONE.
You insurance will depend on it and she may end up suing you for harassment. But since you have a harassment policy of your own, you can be protected
2006-12-23 02:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by sk20007623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first off, that is a subject that is offensive to some and just better off not being discussed in mixed company, so you were right, inform her that if she keeps this up, that you will be taking her to your human resources because you are taking preventative actions from other people reporting her. or take her to your OM and try to have him/her resolve it. Good luck
2006-12-23 01:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by dreamzindigital_20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her there is no "I" in team----she needs to button up and be part of the team OR move on and be on her own SOMEWHERE else--and you can remind her that she is not being paid for her PERSONAL opinion if it is not work related---
2006-12-23 02:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fire her, that should boost your ego shouldn't it ? Make you feel superior and more powerful than others. Oh, and lets not forget your life is more valuable too !!!
2006-12-23 01:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ask her to leave your team, she is disruptive.
2006-12-23 02:40:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD LUCK.................MERRRY CHRISTMAS
2006-12-23 02:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by that girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋