I have been dating my current girlfriend for about 2 years and she has gained a significant amount of weight since we started dating. I told her to lose it a long time ago and that she was "Starting to look rediculous" but she has only lost 5lbs in the last 3 months even though she runs every day and still has like another 35lbs to lose to get back to the 110 she was at when I met her (that might seem low but she is only 5'3") and frankly I am not sexually attracted to her. I told her 3 weeks ago I wasn't going to sleep with her anymore until she started loosing more weight and now I think she is actually gaining weight it's distgusting.
Anyways I have started a relationship with someone else now and I really don't want to be with her anymore. It's very sad I love her to death, but it's embarassing to my friends and family her weight. I do NOT to make her mad. How do I tell her this so she won't get upset. She said she wants a "ring" for xmas. She has no idea and I feel bad for her.
2006-12-22 18:16:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are an asshole and she deserves better.
2006-12-22 18:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sad ending to the 2 yr journey, what a waste! I suggest u break the ice in the new year, her spirits are probably too high right now. In the mean time find an excuse for you to be away over christmas. Hope she recovers, can't blame you though.
2006-12-23 02:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Another face in the crowd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a really bad thing to know someone dislikes u because of a flaw in ur physical appearance.did u date her because of her looks and wen she was gaining weight why didn't u let her know earlier?but there is no easier way it seems to me she would be better off without u but she might not be strong enuf to handle a break-up.u know her best so u can tell.
just let her know in a nice way hopefully she will move on and see the light at the end of the tunnel...though ur not fair at all
2006-12-23 03:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by mwm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a shallow jerk. If you really "loved her to death" then you wouldn't care about how it looks to your friends and family, and you'd be concerned only about her HEALTH. Ugh!
Don't keep leading her on! Just go ahead and break the poor girl's heart so she can get over it and find someone who genuinly cares about her, and who isn't some superficial moron!
You're never going to be happy, guy. No woman is perfect. All women gain weight. You should learn to appreciate us for who we are, not how much we weigh!
2006-12-23 02:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by piratewench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're not being fair to your current girlfriend. She may have her reasons for not losing that weight you wants her to. Besides, have your asked yourself what have you done to support her to lose those extra pounds besides asking. As a boyfriend you need to show your support and not just lip services. Dumping her for another because of weight is selfish! Bringing your parents in is nothing but another lousy excuse. You need to buckle up yourself before you start to comment about your girlfriend. I think you would be doing her a favor if you were to advise her that you want to call it quit because she deserves someone better than you!
2006-12-23 02:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you are a douche bag for basing your "love" on her weight, and secondly-you're a total *** for even letting the word love come out of your mouth-you have now clue what the word means. grow up. break up with her because ANY woman could do better than you-and make sure you let your new chick what she's gettin into. she has a right to know if she's wasting her time with a shallow little boy like yourself.
2006-12-23 02:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by stazia81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you love her to death....but it's all about her appearance, right? I can only imagine the garbage she's put up with from you all this time. Then to attack her emotionally by telling her you wouldn't be intimate with her until her weight came down.
You must not love her, and you'd probably be doing her a huge favor by moving on to someone just as shallow as yourself.
Gotta tell you, dude......from your letter, you're a jerk.
2006-12-23 02:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling her the truth!
Yes, you may hurt her...but if you continue to cheat her, it is "cruel" for her.
Man,if you really feel sorry for her. Then, you should tell her the truth the early the better. Giving her another opportunity to meet someone who can "value" her inner beauty instead of her appearance.
I believe sooner or later she will thank you for leaving her today. This is because true love can't be judge solely by appearance. :-p
2006-12-23 02:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by Melon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried honesty??? You say you have another girlfriend. You've gotten yourself into this by choice. Now it's time to be a man and be honest with her and your "new squeeze". If not, you're going to get caught and be the ***&*^% in the end.
2006-12-23 02:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by David P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just break up with her. She deserves better and you probably wouldn't like how she looked after she had your kids anywayd.. so just leave her now. Some people can control their weight easier then others... it is a physical metabolisim... not a choice
2006-12-23 02:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are an asshole. leave her sooner than later if you really loved her you wouldn't care. Do you know that a person who is her height should weigh about 130 135 to be healthy??? I should know my mom is a nutritionist.
2006-12-23 02:22:09 · answer #11 · answered by beachchic705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋