me and my bf have been together for 6 months now. we've lived together since day 1 of our getting together..wild i know. he doesn't go anywhere at all. he wakes up beside me and goes to sleep with me. we're around each other all day every day, since he does not work yet. I get mad when i see him talking to other people online. they dont talk about anything sexual. i know because i've hacked into all his accounts, myspace, yahoo, everything and have checked up on him. its just that some of these females he talks to he once was infactuated with and wanted to sleep with at one time but has told me since us he has those feelings no more and they're just friends. am i over protective. should i just ease up on him. and trust him.
2006-12-22 18:01:06 · 24 answers · asked by Happy Being Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think being together THAT close and so early (living with him since day 1) made you over-protective. you're always with him and that makes you want him to ONLY be with you. you should lighten up a bit, but still keep record. most importantly keep in mind that he's with YOU and NOT another girl.
2006-12-22 18:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by BLiNKK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman to woman, why is he not working.. None of my business right???
Well, please give him some room, b/c if he is always in your face, he feels that the Internet is his only outlet when you are away. If you do not trust him, in some way you do not really love him - you want to control him it appears.
Jealousy is a ugly thing.... and also love is patient and kind. If you want to know what he is doing ASK him - do not snoop around behind is back b/c if he finds out, he will start not trusting you and expect for trust issues to surface.
Talk to him about this and then help him to get a JOB. An idle mind is the devil's workshop!
Keep ya head up!
2006-12-23 02:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by KeraniBai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have trust in a relationship, then you truly don't have a relationship. There will always be times when we feel a little insecure, but if you don't have specific reason to mistrust him you need to back off. Jealousy can destroy a relationship, so do some soul searching and try to determine why you are so jealous.....do you not have confidence in yourself? Trust is a must, nothing is worse than being questioned constantly about what you are doing, who you are talking to, and why. Think about what is important to you, and follow your heart.
2006-12-23 02:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by travelnurse4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are on a screen---they are not in your bedroom---if you don't know how to communicate your feelings about this issue--it will turn ugly---forget it---better urge this guy to get a job---sounds like a freeloader or leech is stuck on your hip---POOR decision-- If he doesn't work, where does the money come from---if the answer is you then you need to smarten up. Get the picture? Only 6 months---get rid of him if he refuses to get a job---no one is that lazy or stupid unless they want to be---he will find another mommy type to take care of him---you need to find a NORMAL man with respect and appreciation for who you are. Get a grip.
2006-12-23 02:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot SMOTHER him you cannot be everything to him; we ALL need others in our lives, you too need to find others, for friendship or at least to keep sane. Why is it he is sitting on the internet anyway and not looking for work? will you be jealous when he is out at work? jealousy is a relationship killer, you better get it together because if you two remain isolated from the world wrapped up in only each other you can bet you are in for one very ill co-dependent relationship and these things have no pretty endings
2006-12-23 02:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by vilynblackthorne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If their conversations are innocent, I'd stop worrying about it.
I WOULD start thinking about whether he's wasting time he should be using to find a job to play on the internet, tho.
Some men get bummed out from not working, others are bums for not working! If he seems just too comfortable, you should start thinking about whether or not it's ok that you support him.
2006-12-23 02:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mona H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my bf was talking to girls online especially girls that have been interested in him before, I would not have it. I don't believe that guys and girls could be "just friends" simply because of the fact that it is human nature to be attracted to the opposite sex. Unless, of course you are gay or the person you are talking to completely not your type and you're not theirs. I don't think you are over reacting.
2006-12-23 02:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mokimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him now, what will happen IF you 2 get married? Computers can really tear alot of people apart. To be honest, I wouldn't like it either, but the more you harass him about it, the more he'll get defensive.
2006-12-23 02:05:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be over reacting. You should trust him especially since he told you about the girl up front. that seems to me that he is trustworthy and give him his privacy how would you feel if he looked through all of your personal accounts
2006-12-23 02:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by Emery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... I don't think you have anything to worry about because he was honest with you about his feelings. Jealousy and mistrust will ruin a reltationship faster than a internet fling so try to ease up on him.
2006-12-23 02:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by jamie kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋