It's always the something.....my back is killing me, my knee hurts, I hate my job and on and on. He has had 5 jobs within a year. I have had the same job for 4 years. My paycheck does not cover all the bills and food for my 3 kids and us plus all the extras, like gas. He has now been out of work for 2 months because of his back and I am at the point where I just want to SCREAM at him to get a job. I even switched to 3rd shift for the extra money, only to wake up one afternoon to find him chatting with women on the computer. So I switched back to days. I am not sure what to do anymore, he says he loves me, but I am not sure since he hasn't kept his promise to stop talking to these women. He has even called them and one woman only lives 20 mins from us and about 5 mins from his brother's house (who he seems to be visiting a lot lately). I know I have a lot of issues going on here, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.
2006-12-22 17:52:00 · 13 answers · asked by kikibaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The truth is that until you stop supporting him he will continue his childish behavior. What incentive does he have to work when right now he has someone willing to work for him and put up with his laziness? He sounds like a whiny, lazy little baby. Does he have a car? If so, who buys the gas for it? If I were you I certainly wouldn't! Who washes his clothes? Who cooks his meals? Who pays for the internet? I would get online and tell those women they can have his lazy butt! Just tell them to come on over and pick him up because you're tired of supporting him and they can have a turn. See how quick they are to "chat" with him then! I believe you are enabling your husband to be the way he is. I'm not saying you caused it or encourage it but because you are working and obviously paying for everything if I were you I would make sure he didn't have a way to travel or eat or ANYTHING! You are NOT his mommy! If he wants a mommy send him back home to her and go get yourself a real MAN!
2006-12-22 18:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate saying this normally, but this guy is a loser.
Tell him the stress of him not having regular work at one job for 3 years or more has stressed you out so much, plus he keeps chatting with women, that adds more stress -- so no more p*ssy until he gets a job, works at it for 3 months w/o a single missed day, then he'll get a little, then at 6 months, then at 9, then at a year.
This f*cking slob is a freeloading irresponsible bum. Pull out all the stops - no sex until he has a job for 3 months and doesn't miss a single day.
That or his worthless no-paycheck-havin a s s will never see you again, because you are leaving him holding the rent bill to pay on his own.
2006-12-23 02:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Someday, I would call him with a really good excuse not to come home. Then me and my three kids would find a new life for ourselves and leave that loser in the tail winds. He is a worthless heap. And if you keep putting up with it, you are going to be supporting FOUR children for the rest of your life.
Give him ONE ultimatim. He either gets off his rump and starts supporting his family, or you are history. And one more step in the wrong direction, you are oughta there!! Find someone who can be a man, not a SLUG!!
2006-12-23 01:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a difficult situation. Your children should always come first. If your husband is good to the kids then you need to not rock their world by making them fatherless. Second you need to discover the truth about him cheating. Then you need to address the problem of him not working by telling him to either help out or get out. Dont give him any pocket money and see how he likes that. Sounds like he is a bum, too bad you chose him.
2006-12-23 02:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, it sounds like you continue to allow him to be and think he's king of the castle. You know how to fix it.... Tell him to get off his hiney and get a job or take a hike.
With his extra activities, it sounds like he's content with his relationship at home and away from home.
You've given him the world and then some.
2006-12-23 02:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by hot single mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with him?Isn't it obvious he doesn't love you.Love doesn't hurt,doesn't cheat.Honestly you will be better off without him.Well,i don't care if i have ten kids,their father doesn't work ,he is out.Personally i would never work to feed a man.I don't care who that man is.The mans place is out there working for his children,not in front of computer talking to another woman.He doesn't deserve you,really.Just talk to him and give him one month to find a job.If not kick his cheating behind out.
2006-12-23 02:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. Have the papers served while you are at work. When you come home and he flips out, look him in the eye and say "You are unemployed, living on my money, talking to other women. Pack up your **** and leave."
2006-12-23 02:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he doesnt get a job You're going to leave him n pretend ur gonna do it, pack ur bags n ur kids or even better pack his things n leave them outside the door so he knows ur being serious about him getting a job.
2006-12-23 01:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well most times I would not give this advice but you have really had enough. With all that is going on with him I would say things are unlikely to change. I would be looking for a way out. Most likely Adultery. Sometimes divorce is inevitable.
2006-12-23 02:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by 93octane 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He just don't love his job as much. Tell him to look for other jobs that he'll be likely to enjoy more, or transfer to a company that offers better working environment.
For the mean time, make his life worse when he's at home so he'll always hurry to get to work. :)
2006-12-23 01:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by shexy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋