is compromise the way to successful marriage.love or arrange marriage which is better?
2006-12-22 17:53:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keys to a successful marriage are compromise, respect, love, laughter and faith. Marriage is not always easy, but if you stay committed and have faith, it can last.
2006-12-22 18:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats for asking this question.
If both partners want to make marriage a success then they can achieve it.
All marriages go through good and bad times. If people stick through the rough times they are likely to emerge into a stronger relationship in future. So i would say your reaction to a rough weather in your marriage will make it better. Wait for a difficult time which will eventually come and then live through it manfully/womanfully.
A marriage can be better if:
1) Both husband and wife have incomes. Extra money helps.
2) Your parents serve as role models. If they lived a happy married life then the chances are that you will also have a happy married life.
3) Avoid pre-marital cohabitation. Couples who cohabitate prior to marriage report more problems and are more likely to think about divorce. That's opposite to what you'd expect.
4) Equality of husband and wife leads to happier married life. Do not dominate. Reach decisions together.
5) Avoid risky personality traits like "flies off the handle," "won't talk about it," "has irritating habits" and problem behaviors (trouble with the law, infidelity, drinking or drugs, child abuse.
6) Communication is the key. Be a good listener.
7) Appreciate the benefits of a compromise.
8) Pay attention to children's need first. They need secure married parents. Don't be selfish.
It does not matter how you got married. The problems after marriage will eventually have to be faced. There is no scientific research to prove that one form of marriage is better than the other. Many people think that love marriage is better but statistics paint a dismal picture with 50% of marriages ending up in divorce. Ther is no harm in an arranged marriage if you are going to have the final say.
2006-12-23 08:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we've been happily married for 36 years, and we've seen a lot of marriages go down the toilet.
I will begin by assuming the obvious ~ mutual respect, communication, physical attraction.
Beyond that, here are the reasons why a lot of marriages fail:
1) Not enough shared interests. He does "his thing," she does "her thing." So what's the point of getting married? Just to have safe sex? When you start hearing phrases like "my friends/his friends, my money/his money," you're circling the drain and just don't know it yet.
2) Too much selfishness. Too much "me-me-me."
A long term relationship is about the TWO of you being a couple. Yes...you can both have your "space," but if you don't enjoy just BEING together, there's a problem.
3) Not enough tolerance or patience. Too many couples that get married just aren't mentally, emotionally mature enough. They're still kids and haven't yet learned how to be adult about things.
4) Unrealistic expectations. Haven't you heard the bit about,"He thinks she'll never change and she thinks she'll change him ~ both are fools." Some people think they'll change the other person and they're just wrong. Other people have too high of expectations and will always be disappointed.
2006-12-23 01:43:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cultures' traditions are to have arranged marriages. I have a friend (that is only 17 now, but does have a betrothed), and her parents are giving her no choice. I didn't know people still did this, here, at least.
anyway- I can't believe they still arrange marriages today, when the original purpose of them was to eternally connect two kingdoms for peace and allies. (unless I'm wrong- which I very well could be)... honestly, LOVE is what marriage is about now.
The passion, the mystery, the process of dating and finding quirks, and the joy of finding out that he is the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with. ....worth all the "hassle" haha. wayyyy worth it. ;)
2006-12-22 21:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by truelovewaits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compromise is important to keep a marriage strong. if u love ur mate, u wont mind compromising with them every once in a while. i think a marriage based on love is better than an arranged marriage.
2006-12-22 17:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by alm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be love before anything else. After that you need friendship, mutual respect, consideration of each others feelings, compatibility, mutual dreams and goals, honesty and constant communication. I would say these things would be near impossible to achieve with an arranged marriage.
2006-12-22 18:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication, communication, communication. Don't be afraid to tell each other what you want and always show compassion for the other person.
2006-12-22 18:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION!!!!!!!!! Arranged marriages???? You can't MAKE someone love you. Communicate and express your feelings, desires, what bothers you, etc.
2006-12-22 17:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compromise is a must..communication is the key
2006-12-22 18:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Sxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always treat your wife with love, and respect..
Be passionate with her and care for her needs...
Always treat her the same way you treated her when
you were courting her and trying to win her love.
2006-12-22 18:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋