Family & Relationships - 21 December 2006

I JUST found out that my 21year old co-worker has an affair of sorts going with on 50somthing boss. Now I could bag them but that will hurt my rep as well. I just want them to stop cuz sh'e gonna get hurt feelings. He's not the right guy for her anyway (WAY possessive) did I mention she's w/ someone too. What can
I do to curb this before it gets out of hand By the way there is no special treatment or anything I'm just a VERY concerned male friend to her and him(my age is in between theirs) and if I out their secret they will both lose their jobs

2006-12-21 03:37:19 · 14 answers · asked by CamPIL 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend left me after 6 months together. In that time I thought we were happy and he never said otherwise. Now I find out (from his ex-girlfriend) that he cheated on me twice with her during our relationship.

I also found out she is a Dominatrix and he is a submissive and thats how they met 8 years ago!!!

Her ex emailed me to tell me all the disgusting things they did together and he denied it and I believed him!!!!

Then she called me and told me it was all true and I still believed him!!

Then finally he confessed when I asked him again to his face.

I am more upset about him constantly lying to me than about the cheating. I feel humilated and betrayed.

What can I do now to move on, I still love him!

2006-12-21 03:36:09 · 18 answers · asked by imalandamcuteasabutton 1 in Singles & Dating

Do WOMAN really like guys that are FUN to be with and are smart versus gorgeous guys that leave something to be desired personality wise? I'm not talking raging dork here, cause I'm not. But, wait, we're not talking about me. I just mean in general. Most woman SAY substance over style, but I SEE style over substance. What are your thoughts. And if your a raging dork with a hottie for a mate, guys, feel free to chime in.

2006-12-21 03:36:04 · 25 answers · asked by Doug Church 1 in Singles & Dating

me and my boyfriend been togather 7months now but i been Qustioning his feeling's toward's me he said i look like NEW YORK and BUCK WILD from flavor flav although i look nothing like them ,and he kept calling me them.i'm a very pretty girl it's a couple of good looking guy's who's just waiting to be with me but still i staywith him.i worry if he's just playing me, and if he's just waiting for someone better and someone who will give it up. he have broken up with me 3 time's now. he can really say some mean and hurtful things to me but i love him and i don't know why so i broke up with him it's been a month and 2 week's now, something i never saw myself doing but it seem like he really changed but i don't know if he really love me and care for me the way i care for him....

2006-12-21 03:35:40 · 13 answers · asked by light_beautiy 1 in Singles & Dating

Should i go with him , HELP???
i met this guy randomly and we already went out to 3 days, i really like him and seems like he likes me too.....recently we asked me to go to atlantic city with him for 2 days.....and i really wanna go, but i am not sure, if i should........especially now that he knows that i am a virgin.........i think the main reason i wanna go with him is because i really wanna try sex, and i am 22 now, so i think i could be a great start to my adult life,.....i know we probably wont be together for long, but i am very attracted to him now....so what do you think? should i go or not?? and how should i stay it to my parents , i am still living with them.....and they still think of me as if of a very good cathlic virgin girl.

2006-12-21 03:35:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend has seen a lot of people die in the matter of a few months (especially his neighbor that he grew up with), and then 2 nights ago cos he's a maintenance guy for some apartments, he had to open an apartment for a relative, and he saw a dead person, blue in the face, dead for like 1and half days.
We had a small arguement yesterday, whereby I told him he had hurt my feelings... and it escalated, we were outside his mom's house so I said I want to go home, and then he was being mean, so anyway I told him I'd like to walk home. And he basically forced me to stay inside the car and was driving crazy and shouting at me. So I hit him, because I wanted out, and he HIT ME back hard.
When I asked him why, he told me he's confused.
What should I do?

2006-12-21 03:35:23 · 15 answers · asked by Apricot 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Does anyone have any kissing techniques? My boyfriend says I'm a good kisser, but I want to try something new, something unexpected that will drive him wild... please help.

2006-12-21 03:34:43 · 21 answers · asked by ♥Spirit♥ 3 in Singles & Dating

weve been going to school for bout 4 months now and we havent spoken to eachother until now. he came over to my house and we did something (but we didnt go all the way with it.) I dont want him to think im easy, but its hard to decide because he wanted it on the first day but i was scared. i want to know if you think he was here for the moment or because he's starting to like me?

2006-12-21 03:34:22 · 9 answers · asked by ya_dad_want_me 1 in Singles & Dating

My parents have been divorced for many years, but still treats me sister and I very badly. I am 20 and my sister is 13, the holidays are always very hard because he always acts like nothing is wrong, and that we are all one big happy family..Well, we are NOT...How can I be considerate over the holidays without losing my cool? thanks so much

2006-12-21 03:34:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

SO im chillin with my friend and two girls in my car i was honestly wasted and stoned beyond repair. so one of the girls decides that she wants to go hang out with a couple mexican guys for a while so i go to drop her off and i get to her house and the guys pull up next to me. the driver starts talking **** because the other girl i was with was talking **** about him while the girl i was droppin off was on the phone with him. so he starts yellin and i jump to her defense and me and this guy start yellin....and we are both wasted as hell.and keep in mind i never saw this kid before. so before i could realize what was goin on, this guy jumps out his car and starts wailin on me until his friend jumps out and stops it. so he talks to me and calms me down for about 10 minutes, and i was so drunk i still didnt know if he punched me or not...i couldnt tell. so both the mexicans apolagized and the girl went to go hang out with them, the other girl was scared so i dropped heroffwhat should i do

2006-12-21 03:34:07 · 3 answers · asked by Tj M 3 in Friends

to day dec 21 is my birthday. would anyone like to wish me a happy birthday?

2006-12-21 03:33:38 · 16 answers · asked by ken s 6 in Friends

Eid is around Christmas time but closer to New Years.
What should I do?

2006-12-21 03:33:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i met this guy randomly and we already went out to 3 days, i really like him and seems like he likes me too.....recently we asked me to go to atlantic city with him for 2 days.....and i really wanna go, but i am not sure, if i should........especially now that he knows that i am a virgin.........i think the main reason i wanna go with him is because i really wanna try sex, and i am 22 now, so i think i could be a great start to my adult life,.....i know we probably wont be together for long, but i am very attracted to him now....so what do you think? should i go or not?? and how should i stay it to my parents , i am still living with them.....and they still think of me as if of a very good cathlic virgin girl.

2006-12-21 03:33:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-21 03:33:24 · 4 answers · asked by casslady16 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

that their husband is "bad" and just wants to be wild and have fun ?

2006-12-21 03:33:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have been through a lot to day can i have a hug i really need one

2006-12-21 03:32:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my wife is sleeping with our neighbor, and i know about it, but she doesnt know that i know. But i am sleeping with a nurse i work with, so should i just leave things as they are? its going well for us, and i dont mind her sleeping around?

2006-12-21 03:32:37 · 19 answers · asked by olzap 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm so sad...I listen to our song...mine and my exboyfriend's. I know I should deal the situation and forget about him. It was a long distance relationshiip and I still did.n recover. He keeps telling me that he won't forget me. Even if I do forget about him, sadness has crossed every bounder of my soul. I'm always sad. When I'm with friends I'm happy for the moment but get sad very fast...As in one song of my favourite band-when will this end-?

2006-12-21 03:31:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

say we were like going to cinema. aged 17. she's your first girlfriend or would you just expect tp go halves?

2006-12-21 03:31:45 · 19 answers · asked by ♪ Jackielynn 3 in Singles & Dating

My bf abused me in june coz he saw me dancing with another guy. He broke up n told me im a cheap gurl along with abuses . then he stopped contacting me. But after a month he started contacting through text mesgs.Again not very pleasant mesgs. but now on 14th nov he again abused me as he kept asking me through text mesgs if i had gone on a date with another guy. But i kept silent and he again abused me through mesgs tht im a prosti**te. He told me he wants to slap me n abuse me .When 2 mesgs were sent by chance to him by me,He abused me n mesgd tht if another mesg i send...he will break my hands n abused me.I replied tht im very much scared of him n to keep away from me .He considers me to be a very cheap gurl whereas i was with my parents when he thought me to be dating with some guy as his friends told him so.He only trusts his friends n they keep telling him im bad.NOW HE SENT 2 MESGS ON 2DEC.I MESG-HOW'S UR BF?2-I MAY B SILENT BT DEEP IN MY HEART I MISS U.NOW HE SENT 3 MESGS ON MY..

2006-12-21 03:31:35 · 23 answers · asked by ciendriella 1 in Singles & Dating

should i tell him? its been going on for over 3 months, and i just dont want to ruin it, cause she is hot hot hot!

2006-12-21 03:30:58 · 46 answers · asked by olzap 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Oh yeah especially on New Years Eve or day? planning to surprize my wife (in spirit only) we were gonna get married 3 years back just a civil ceromony but the license expiered the day before and so we just told everyone we were married cause we did not have the money to pay for another license so we have put it off since then.

2006-12-21 03:30:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I'm so depressed, btwn xmas, and being alone..its every year the same dance..alone. I've been dancing alone for 4 years now..he's ignoring me and my daughter as if we don't exist..why me, I'm a good person all I've gotten in life was pain andmmore pain and one little piece of happiness (my daughter) I'm really depressed, I'm drowning in my own self pity cause I don't know how to stop thinking about the past...help.

2006-12-21 03:30:31 · 5 answers · asked by Wendy 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Like before someone is about to hit on you, or may be still wanna hit on you, or just to find out how happy you are with your current girlfriend.
Then they start asking about your girlfriend and say stuff like "if I was he I would feel lucky etc"
I find this move amusing coz it always happens..so its classic to me!

2006-12-21 03:30:24 · 6 answers · asked by Pudge_Monsta 3 in Singles & Dating

She flirted before I told her. I told her I could see myself with her, and she freaked. We remained friends, and she flirts heavier than ever now. Now, I like her a lot! Is it a good idea for me to tell her? If so, how? I see her tonight, and I could pull her aside...

2006-12-21 03:29:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

A girl who I had a relationship with for two years and "claimed" to be my soul mate comes to see me from Canada and all she does is complain that I didn't wine and dine her and she made fun of my studio apartment???

2006-12-21 03:28:46 · 10 answers · asked by michael h 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-21 03:28:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He and I have been together for about 6 months and are planning on getting engaged around July (Im 23 Hes 27). We are very very happy. But his ex (who dumped him last June or so) will NOT GO AWAY!
She texts all the time. He was ignoring it until about a month ago when he wrote something like "Please leave me alone. We cant be friends right now, Im in a new relationship and very happy". Well, it worked for awhile but on Monday she wrote him saying she knows she mesed up and was sorry. He didnt write back \. (Im not mad at him for this, he cant controll her actions). Then she wrote AGAIN last night and said "I know I mesed up. I was really sh*tty to you and Im sorry. Please give me a chance to appologize in person." He told me to write back as myself and I wrote "Hey, this is Amber, Alan is asleep but I will tell him you said so". She didnt write back yet, but I know she will.

What can we say (nicely, shes nuts) to make her finally just leave us alone? Do we have to be mean?

2006-12-21 03:28:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my b/f of 3 yrs has two other email address' and i got into them and found out he's using them for dating. how should i confront him?

2006-12-21 03:27:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My gf his so picky, she doesnt want roses, she doesnt wear jewelry much, she doesnt like t.v. much, she likes to read but i already bought her 2 books for our anniversary. Is there any other ideas on what to get her?

2006-12-21 03:27:30 · 10 answers · asked by S man 2 in Singles & Dating