He and I have been together for about 6 months and are planning on getting engaged around July (Im 23 Hes 27). We are very very happy. But his ex (who dumped him last June or so) will NOT GO AWAY!
She texts all the time. He was ignoring it until about a month ago when he wrote something like "Please leave me alone. We cant be friends right now, Im in a new relationship and very happy". Well, it worked for awhile but on Monday she wrote him saying she knows she mesed up and was sorry. He didnt write back \. (Im not mad at him for this, he cant controll her actions). Then she wrote AGAIN last night and said "I know I mesed up. I was really sh*tty to you and Im sorry. Please give me a chance to appologize in person." He told me to write back as myself and I wrote "Hey, this is Amber, Alan is asleep but I will tell him you said so". She didnt write back yet, but I know she will.
What can we say (nicely, shes nuts) to make her finally just leave us alone? Do we have to be mean?
2006-12-21 03:28:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She sounds like stalker material. Maybe once the two of you are engaged she'll finally back off. Wishful thinking, huh? Even if it continues through your engagement, once you're married and she realizes she doesn't have a chance in the world anymore she'll probably move on.
...And if she doesn't leave you alone and it gets more stalkerish--restraining order.
2006-12-21 03:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of like a band aid, ya got to pull it hard and fast or the pain just lingers. If he continues to try to be a friend to her, then she will continues to hang on. She obviously thinks that he doesn't mean it when he says it's over, b/c she sees his actions as saying it isn't. (Though I commend him for trying to be nice to an ex that has hurt him, and he seems to be doing it in an open honest way) But she is not at a point that she can mantain a friendship w/ him. Good luck.
2006-12-21 11:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her to back off nicely and she still doesnt move on its time to take drastic measures! Telll her to back the f**k off! She needs to seriously get over! Usually they finally get the picture when their feelings are hurt. But you also could just ignore her. It may take awhile but Im sure she'll finally get bored, realize he is no longer interested as lover nor friends, and leave you alone. You could have already scared her off when you texted her back
2006-12-21 11:37:01 · answer #3 · answered by diamond_rain369 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best for you not to get involved really,,it isnt your past and she knows that,,he has to get her to leave him alone and as she is at the minute,seemingly wanting him back he has to be clear and tell her NO!, we dated and then broke up,,i am now with someone else and thats it! after that,,best to ignore everything.at the end of the day some people can misconstrue any contact as good contact and if she is like this,,,"he does keep replying so i must mean something to him"she wont go away,,no contact...nothing given from him,she will get the message
2006-12-21 11:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest you let your boyfriend handle his ex all on his on. It was his relationship, not yours, and I don't think I'd do his dirty work. It might be easier for him to let you respond to her messages, but it's not your place to do so. If he's serious about staying away from her, let him show you. It's been this long and she's still contacting him, don't you wonder what has led up to her text messaging?
2006-12-21 11:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO Bang him on her CAR and see if she gets the message loud and clear!
2006-12-21 11:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ITS UP TO HIM. HE MUST BE RESPONDING TO HER AND GIVING HER ATTENTION. AS SOON AS HE STOPS SHE WILL STOP.
2006-12-21 11:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by LUIS C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋