My bf abused me in june coz he saw me dancing with another guy. He broke up n told me im a cheap gurl along with abuses . then he stopped contacting me. But after a month he started contacting through text mesgs.Again not very pleasant mesgs. but now on 14th nov he again abused me as he kept asking me through text mesgs if i had gone on a date with another guy. But i kept silent and he again abused me through mesgs tht im a prosti**te. He told me he wants to slap me n abuse me .When 2 mesgs were sent by chance to him by me,He abused me n mesgd tht if another mesg i send...he will break my hands n abused me.I replied tht im very much scared of him n to keep away from me .He considers me to be a very cheap gurl whereas i was with my parents when he thought me to be dating with some guy as his friends told him so.He only trusts his friends n they keep telling him im bad.NOW HE SENT 2 MESGS ON 2DEC.I MESG-HOW'S UR BF?2-I MAY B SILENT BT DEEP IN MY HEART I MISS U.NOW HE SENT 3 MESGS ON MY..
2006-12-21 03:31:35 · 23 answers · asked by ciendriella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MY BIRTHDAY, A VERY FORMAL MESG "HAPPY BIRHTDAY". THEN I CALLED HIM TO THANK HIM N HE HAD A FORMAL TALK N I HEARD HIS FRIENZ CALLING HIM N HE SAID E WILL TALK LATER. THEN AT 12AM AT NITE HE AGAIN MESGD HAPPY BDE. NEXT DAY I MESGD AROUND 2 NOON"THANX FOR UR WISHES N HAV A NICE DAY". BUT THE MESG WASNT SENT SO I SENT IT AGAIN. HE MESGD THT WAT IS THE NEED TO SEND SAME MESG AGAIN. I MESGD THT HTERE IS SOME PROB IN MY CELL N IM SORRY N CATCH U LATER. HE MESGD THT-"NO NO NO. THERE'S NO NEED TO CATCH ME AGAIN". I WANA KNOW Y HE MESGD ME THEN??? N WHY HE BECAME SO RUDE N SENT ME SUCH A MESG??? WILL HE EVER CONTACT ME AGAIN COZ I REALLY LOVE HIM . IM CRYING SINCE THT DAY. PLZZZ TALL ME WILL HE EVER CONTACT ME AGAIN?? WHAT SHOULD I DO???
2006-12-21 03:31:49 · update #1
It's time to move on. I don't know why you feel that you deserve this. I know it's easier said than done because I don't have feelings for this man. But he sounds insecure and controlling, I promise, you do not want that for yourself. I don't care how sweet he is to you after the two of you make up and how much he tells you he loves you after he apologizes for abusing you. He needs help, and you need to get away for your own sake.
You continue to say he abused you. Well, guess what... that behavior will not change.
Stop taking his calls, do not return his texts. Do not text him... Move on with your life and start to heal.
2006-12-21 03:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first is first, if i've learned anything through my ordeal is that STOP TALKING TO HIM. He is no longer worth the time, space and energy. Don't accept the messages. Don't even read them. Just once tell him straight up that you are done with him and never want to speak with him again. He is abusing you and he needs to stop. I almost want to say report it if you must or at least make him think you'll report it. By him making you feel like sh**t he has control over you and that's probably what he wants, and maybe just a little you like some of the attention he is giving you. I'm not saying thats true but mean attention is better than none from someone who you still my be in love with. PLZZZZzz just try to keep strong and it takes time...lots and lots of time for things to work out. Good luck
2006-12-21 11:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by razzmatazz2121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up! Why are you doing this to yourself...you said yourself he is abusive to you...it is time to let go and move on...just because you dance with someone else doesn't make you a cheap girl. He is a very insecure guy and now he is making you feel the same way...he is manipulating you to believe you are some horrible person and making you feel bad when you shouldn't feel that way at all...girl you need to move on and forget about him...there are way better guys out there and plenty of single ones for that matter that will treat you like a queen...FORGET HIM!!! Stop messaging him and if he sends you messages don't read them just delete them...he is starting to make you feel insecure and that is not fair.
2006-12-21 11:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all girl you DON'T need that kind of a man! And i'm guessing that you don't really love him you are just very emotionally atatched and you're afraid that if you admit to yourself that you don't really love him, then you will feel like nobody wants you and you will feel all alone. So gurl just do all the women in the world with the problem of an abusive man and leave it be where it is, he was just another chapter in your life and that's history.
2006-12-21 11:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by ArmyWife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r a masaquist arent u? or just reallly dumb and naive. Well i think may be none of those things just very young. well just move on if all you are saying is true how can u be crying for someone like that. get a guy that likes u and protects u not hurts u girl. Unless u have no father and u need a MAN next to u. looks like u might have a few issues. Move on now get help or your life will be HELL
2006-12-21 11:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hum....what you should do?!! Maybe....grow up, get a life, learn to care about yourself....any number of things. You started out by saying...he abused me....he said this to me.... It sounds like to me you totally panic if he's not constantly trying to contact you and you don't care if he's verbally abusive as long as he's communicates. You seem desperate & needy. I suggest you work on yourself and do what is in your best interest. You need to develop new habits and re-evaluate what you want out of a relationship and out of life in general. Quit being so inconsistent, one day it's I'm scared, the next day it's thanks for the b-day greetings and have a nice day.... If he was as abusive as you say you wouldn't be desperately wanting to know if he's going to ever call again. Can you live if he doesn't?!
2006-12-21 11:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope he doesn't contact you again... from what your saying, I would suggest calling the police and getting a restraining order... you didn't say how he abused you, but you implied that it was verbal, with a threat of physical.. I would say, get away from him, call the police, and don't go near him again...
2006-12-21 11:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he called you bad names, MOVE ON. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't have abused you in the first place. Find a guy who will treat you properly and won't play games with you. This guy obviously doesn't care about you, he just cares about hurting you.
2006-12-21 11:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop communication with him he doesn't want you, no more thanking him and maybe you should get some counseling, you need to get go more maybe change your number and get yourself under control go take a music boath and relax myabe even change your number
He is playing mind games and you don't need anyone playing games with your mind it will drive you crazy and don't let him drive you crazy
good luck
2006-12-21 11:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all dump him for good. Second change your # and don't give it out to any one you know would give it to him. Third get a restraining order against him if he violates it and he sounds dumb enough too he winds up behind bars. Run for your life girl friend.
2006-12-21 11:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋