I JUST found out that my 21year old co-worker has an affair of sorts going with on 50somthing boss. Now I could bag them but that will hurt my rep as well. I just want them to stop cuz sh'e gonna get hurt feelings. He's not the right guy for her anyway (WAY possessive) did I mention she's w/ someone too. What can
I do to curb this before it gets out of hand By the way there is no special treatment or anything I'm just a VERY concerned male friend to her and him(my age is in between theirs) and if I out their secret they will both lose their jobs
2006-12-21 03:37:19 · 14 answers · asked by CamPIL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well let's start off by asking why does this concern you? If it's a friend thing well that's easy. Talk to them one at a time, not around others. Start off by saying these are my concerns. Do not let out the secret. It will give you more of a chance to leveel with them if they trust you. As far as them getting fired, I do not believe in all cases that will happen. Some companies do allow alternate forms of solutions. Do try to talk one of them into maybe getting a transfer or even leaving if this continues. If she is with someone else, she's in the wrong. Age doesn't make a huge difference in all cases. This may just pass over and be done with soon.
2006-12-21 03:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mind your own business. no one likes a busy body... not to mention, you have no solid relational ties to either of them since this isn't a work-related issue. what it really looks like from your message is you've got feelings for the girl and basically what you're doing is c-ck blocking. i'd leave it alone. the girl is an adult and can handle this herself. and if she can't then she and the boss will get fired. consequences for their actions.
2006-12-21 11:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First i say are you wishing it was you instead of him hmmmmm
well if not and you are just really concerned i say mind your business because if you interfere you will look like you were jealous so let them learn on their on you never know whats really going on you are not with them all the time
2006-12-21 11:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by supergrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are old enough to know the consequenses of their actions. She's gonna get hurt, he's gonna look like a gross pervert. Stay out of it and maybe you'll get a promotion when they get fired!
2006-12-21 11:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
bagging them could result in backfire. she knows if he's the right guy for her or not, she don't need your advice. let the two of them handle this, you have no right to be in their business. if their relationship comes to light-don't let it be b/c of you. YOU might be the one to lose his job.
Mom of B & D
pst..do you want her for yourself??
2006-12-21 11:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of B & D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your just thinking about what's best for her? How do you know what's best for her. Stay out of it.
2006-12-21 12:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by gbgnick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope.
just leave them alone, it's none of your bussiness to be frank about it.
if you feel you just HAVE to say something, talk to one or both of them privately.
2006-12-21 11:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it --- they are adults and know the consequences of their actions and if you get involved it will only make matters worse
2006-12-21 11:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try talking with her privately.
2006-12-21 11:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn you head, You will get more hert then she will. Let her know how you feel. Then it is up to her.
2006-12-21 11:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by karli 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋