i met this guy randomly and we already went out to 3 days, i really like him and seems like he likes me too.....recently we asked me to go to atlantic city with him for 2 days.....and i really wanna go, but i am not sure, if i should........especially now that he knows that i am a virgin.........i think the main reason i wanna go with him is because i really wanna try sex, and i am 22 now, so i think i could be a great start to my adult life,.....i know we probably wont be together for long, but i am very attracted to him now....so what do you think? should i go or not?? and how should i stay it to my parents , i am still living with them.....and they still think of me as if of a very good cathlic virgin girl.
2006-12-21 03:33:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to be a good catholic and lie to your parents. if you want sex you can do it anywhere so why not in Atlantic City. Have fun and be safe. make him use a condom and be sure to be on the pill just in case it breaks or leaks.
wish I were the guy. lucky stiff.
2006-12-21 03:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't blow your virginity on someone you just met in what you already suspect to be a fling.
If you've held onto it for 22 years, you're doing great and if you are truly a "good Catholic girl" there should be no question in your mind the right thing to do.
I hate to sound like a broken record but you don't know him well enough to know his history and I'm not saying he has a disease, but you never know. Condoms aren't 100 percent effective in preventing STD's OR pregnancy.
Now how would you feel if you got pregnant by him? Being Catholic, I'm sure the thought of abortion wouldn't be an option, as being a single mother.
Hang onto it a little bit longer, sweetie.
There's a man in your future that will treasure and respect you for holding out...not to mention the fact that you'll be able to avoid a regret later on that you spent something so precious on a whim.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all about a woman exploring and enjoying her sexuality, but if you're a virgin, that's not a good time to go off on the expedition, if you know what I mean.
All in all though, it's your choice. On the other side of the page, it could be the most erotic and enjoyable experience of your life. Only you can decide what is right for you.
Either way, good luck and I hope you find the right answer for yourself!
2006-12-21 11:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chick-A- Deedle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you are ready for it then maybe you should go. I don't know the context of why you have remained a virgin but if you are able to clearly decide that you are ready without just basing this logic on temptation and can accept that you two might not be together in long run and are still ok with it all and still want to do it, then go for it. Just don't do the deed based on your hormones or because you want to keep him around because, you will definitely regret not waiting. I would also assess the reasoning why you have been a virgin for so long and decide whether or not forfeiting those beliefs is really worth it in the long run for someone who you might now ever be serious with. I commend you for not giving into the social stigma of having sex young and I hope that you really weigh the pros and cons to this before making your decision and if you still want to proceed, good luck :) As for your parents, you should be honest with them. No one said you had to tell them that you were going to have sex with this guy, just going to have a fun weekend with him. You are an adult and they cannot keep you from doing so but it would be unwise to lie to him in case there is an emergency and there is a need to get a hold of you or vice versa. Good luck and take care:)
2006-12-21 11:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get away with it, and you feel that you are ready then go. It's difficult if you live with your parents, because you will have to come up with a really good story. and if you are just doing this to loose your virginity, maybe try to stay local. like a few romantic hours in a nice hotel? You obviously will need to continue and live with mom and dad for a while, and this guy is probably a passing fancy and you are excited about your first experience, that's great. But don't disappear for 2 days. That will be impossible to explain. (Unless u have a girlfriend to cover for u).;
Just get a nice hotel room for a few hours. then come home and be a "good girl" so your parents won't freak out.
Good Luck
2006-12-21 11:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go, have fun. but I wouldn't have sex with him. I'm 24 and yes, a virgin. Its a long story, but I found a guy and I'm waiting untill we are in love with each other before doing it. If he only wants you for sex, then be very careful around him. if you want to talk more, email me at BluestarrKat@aol.com. I wish I had time to give you a better answer.
2006-12-21 11:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by Lady K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with him. Catholic girls still are allowed to have fun. If your parents aren't ok with it, try explaining to them that your an adult now. Just be careful with this guy. Bring a cell phone or even a friend with you if you can.
2006-12-21 11:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by xxbenchxxmarksxx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never regret doing what you feel is right. There is also a limit to how much a parent wants or should know.
2006-12-21 11:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jim7368 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you have found some one and you want to go with him to stay for two days i think you should go girl loseyour virginity
2006-12-21 11:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by nicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God for guidance sister.
2006-12-21 11:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with him and have fun in bed(having sex)but use a condom
2006-12-21 11:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by jovene_cunningham2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋