Family & Relationships - 10 December 2006

My nine year old stepdaughter was taken recently from my fiance and I to go back home to her mother. The situation was blown way out of porpotion (because his ex can't stand me though she could never tell me why) and basically his ex apologized to my fiance and said their daughter was not coming back here for awhile but at the same time I'm at a lost because my stepdaughter and I became very close and now I don't get to see her and her mother won't let her talk to me because she says she needs time apart from us. Though child support Is still being taken out (and we were paying It while his daughter was living here for seven months) should we say something or just give her some space. I know for sure that his ex didn't want her daughter In the first place but because she came over here like super woman and blew up over nothing now she has to take her daughter. It just seems to me that we are giving his ex whatever she wants.


Thanks for helping me through this again everybody!!

2006-12-10 01:28:25 · 9 answers · asked by passion 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I have lliked her for a long time but she is dating a guy in my scout troop. I don't want to hurt the guy but i really like her and I want her to like me more. I know this sounds really B****ey and selfish but I like her. Shhe is funny beautiful and crazy. Give a brother some love.LOL

2006-12-10 01:27:02 · 9 answers · asked by Roboito 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-10 01:26:34 · 25 answers · asked by praecino68 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Me, this girl I hate, and a friend always hang out. I pretend to like the girl I hate for the sake of my other friends. When us 3 hang out I tend to get left out cos the girl I dislike is a fat mouth who excludes me by talking about things I don't know about. Recently though she had this huge fight with my friend saying I was stealing the friend away from her. It's a load of rubbish cos the friend has known me for longer..and trust me I'm not doing no stealing! If I show my anger at the girl I hate it'll just bring up major tension between our friendship group, but I can't let this one go and pretend to be nice to her anymore. Enough is enough! What do I do? Aaaaany advice is welcome!

btw, my friend already knows I dislike her, my friend and the girl I dislike made up after the fight and talking to the girl I dislike about this ain't a option.

2006-12-10 01:26:07 · 7 answers · asked by Baby Doll 1 in Friends

On average, how close does an emotionally healthy uncle get towards a newborn niece and nephew? i.e. how often do they visit, do they get involved with the nitty gritty? (changing nappies) and what is the bond like? I'm finding it difficult to establish an emotional bond towards my new niece and nephew (they haven't done anything wrong to me). Its a horrible sensation as I feel I can't convey "family love" towards them. To me, they're just babies, and normally I try to avoid babies. I have tried to take an interest in them but I'm really struggling. It seems like a lot of hard work, and yet I'm not feeling anything.

One person says I'm normal, as they never got involved with their niece/nephews. Someone else says I need to play an active part e.g. babysitting, doing nappy changes, holding and cuddling them etc.

I hope the above makes sense!

2006-12-10 01:25:59 · 16 answers · asked by nemesis 5 in Family

Does a guy's job/profession influence your decision as to whether you would go out with him or fancy him?

2006-12-10 01:24:52 · 21 answers · asked by Aries 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-10 01:24:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-10 01:23:37 · 27 answers · asked by sassya_uk 1 in Weddings

Personally I don't have anything against it but what do u have?

2006-12-10 01:23:09 · 26 answers · asked by KaThErInE XoX KiTt XoX KaTt 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-10 01:21:17 · 11 answers · asked by nutan_nutty 2 in Singles & Dating

About two weeks ago one of my friends, not my best friend but still a good friend ( friend A), told be she was having a birthday party soon and asked if i could come. I agreed and then i forgot about it. My best friend (friend B) asked me to come to a christmas party at the same time and i said yes to that and i only remembered about the birthday party today when friend A gave me a map.
I really want to go to both parties but i cannot decide which one.
going to Friend A:
good: she's much nicer than friend B and I really want to be best friends with her and this is my chance.
Bad: If i go to friend A's party friend B might get upset and not speak to me and then I won't have anyone to work with in lessons becuase everyone else already has a partner
going to Friend B:
Good: She's my best friend and we always have lots of fun together
Bad: She's leaving at the end of this year and if I can be friends with someone else I won't be a loner.
Sometimes friend B is really mean 2 me

2006-12-10 01:20:44 · 7 answers · asked by cat_lover 3 in Friends

2006-12-10 01:17:36 · 15 answers · asked by klj 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-10 01:16:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My dad is nuts. He's too brash and whenever I'm doing homework, he tells me to stop doing it and start practicing the piano. I've been playing for nearly 6 years but this year was the time I started noticing my dad became very weird. Before, I practiced once in a while but now, he seems to be overcome with the sudden urge to make me practice everyday for 2 hours. I'm just an average teenager who is Grade 6 in piano. Isn't this a bit harsh? And my dad also says that he doesn't care if I pass my homework to the teacher or not.He says music is the most important thing and he seems to have it in his head that I'll become his "precious" musician when I grow up.My mom suffers because she's been yelled that she's good for nothing because he can't get me to play the piano and she can't do a thing about it.I love playing the piano sometimes but this is ridiculous.I want to become a doctor but he seems to think otherwise.Still in High School.He's already hurting people...what do I do?

2006-12-10 01:12:39 · 7 answers · asked by Emrys 2 in Family

I have a 30+ yrs old single mother stepdaughter who for the past 15 yrs has refused to spend Christmas day with her father and our family alway spending it with her Mom, Grandma or whoever is doing dinner on that side of the family, or her current boyfriend. This year both my kids are doing Christmas dinner (my son and his new wife with her family and my daughter, her kids,her new boyfriend, his mom and us) and I'm not. She's kept herself closed off from both my kids (and truth be told from me) and they aren't really interested in having her and her kids around but this year she has no place to go on Christmas day. Should I change my plans and do a dinner for her and her kids. My kids wont change their plans for her.

2006-12-10 01:11:30 · 11 answers · asked by JustJaney 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

1. Other than the bridesmaids and groomsmen, who else gets a gift?

2. For showers.... do I give a gift to the hostess for every shower I have?

2006-12-10 01:07:53 · 8 answers · asked by lester 3 in Weddings

A guy he proposed 2 me a yr before & I was luving him but due 2 sum problems v got broke up & now 2 days past a guy who was just my gud frnd proposed me even though knowing abt my past. I never thought tht he can do such a thing I'm just hating him like anything & yesturday he called up 2 my house & his saying I L U & missing me then I said I H U the person whom I thought as my frnd is looking me with such a dirty look I really hate him & now I even dont consider him as my frnd his calling me everyday & troubling me & 2morrow is my exam I'm not able 2 concentrate pls help me. I'm not able 2 sleep at nites, I get sleep at 1 or sumtimes even at 2 & I get up early in the morning at 6 or sumtimes at 7. Even during afternoon time I try to sleep but I can hardly sleep 4 1hr or 1/2 hr. Wht is this happening to me I never had such problems anytime in my life. I always remain tensed God knows wht is gonna happen 2morrow in my exams I'll surely fail in dis exam. I dont want 2 fail pls help me.

2006-12-10 01:06:49 · 15 answers · asked by nutan_nutty 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My girlfriend somehow got acces to my email when I used her computer and read my email. Isn't that illegal? She found tha I had personal ads online and that t I emailed to one woman saying I wanted to meet her. I never talked to that woman and never met her. My girlfreind now has broken up with me saying that I'm a cheater and she doesn't want anying to do with me. My girlfriend has 2 girls 10 and 13. Girlfriend told me that she asked the girls recently if if was ok for us to merge together and they said yes. Means to get married. Then she told me that marrage would give them more time together that I could be doing my thing. I was shocked! I had asked my girlfriend for help with renovations and alot of legal matters and insurance problems and after Katrina and she refused saying I have to do it myself.I'm a vietnam vet with PTSD and can't get nothing done alone. She said I don't have any of comeback answers. I just don'tknowwhattosay except that I was sorry and it won't happen

2006-12-10 01:05:59 · 15 answers · asked by mustang172002 1 in Singles & Dating

For ages I have been feeling sad and lonely, because most of my friends have gone away travelling.
But last night, another friend came over to visit from Ireland. We went out clubbing, and instead of being the timid, nervous wreck I have been for a year or more, I WENT WILD.
I had the best night I've had in years. I danced like a loony, sang till my throat hurt, and actually felt young and alive again. I got in at 4.00 this morning and I'm still buzzing.
I even left with a guy's phone number. (though I don't expect much will come of it, but it was great fun for an evening)

This is not so much a question, as wanting to share my (actually quite rare!) happiness with you all. Why did I leave it so long before I had some fun?!

2006-12-10 01:04:27 · 12 answers · asked by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 in Singles & Dating

There is this guy, who is two years younger than me and has a crush on me, I asked him to go to this drama thing with me. He has other plans, what should I do next?

2006-12-10 01:04:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have this friend. We were best friends up until now. At first, we hated this one girl, and she would annoy us so much! We would always say mean things about her behind her back and everything (not that we are proud of doing that)! Well now, we are like, best friends with her because we have seen how nice she can be. One problem: My best friend forever likes this girl more than me! Now she never calls me, only this girl. When we have partners, she alawys picks THIS GIRL! I havnt done anything mean to her so I dont know what her deal is. I really just want to forget about both of them and move on. I mean, I have plenty of other friends! I have tried to do that, but it just doesnt work! I have known my best friend since I was a baby and we have been best friends ever since! I cant just give her up like that! Its too hard! I really need some good advice that I can really work with. I really need to deal with this fast! please help me!

2006-12-10 01:02:41 · 8 answers · asked by Annabelle 1 in Friends

theres this guy right? and i really like him and he doesn't know and we are like really good friends to...we hang out every single day that has school but i want to be more then friends any suggestions!??

2006-12-10 01:01:33 · 5 answers · asked by KaThErInE XoX KiTt XoX KaTt 2 in Singles & Dating

ok i have this not so popular friend that i used to ALLWAYS hang out with but now ive been hanging out with the populars how shuol i show her i still want to be her friend?
PS (she has a b-day coming up)

2006-12-10 01:01:31 · 4 answers · asked by Airhead 1 in Friends

I married the love of my life 11 years ago. (Our anniversary is 12-30, but close enough). We both had children coming into the marriage. My son moved out when he was 18, but her daughter--now nearly 20--has no motivation to move out. She stays out all night and slinks in with her boyfrieind in-tow at 6 or 7 a.m. She drags in all typical teen "drama" that is "her life." And she doesn't contribute ANYTHING to our home. No housework; no rent; no NOTHING! She's basically a leach.

I feel myself growing more resentful every day. It's gotten to the point where I can't stand the sight of her and I feel badly about it. But it is what it is. She's had good examples (her mom and I) but has turned out to basically be a "slug."

Am I wrong to want her to move on with her life so her mom and I and her younger sister (who is the exact opposite of her) can live in peace?

Thanks in advance for your insights.

2006-12-10 00:59:22 · 49 answers · asked by mrvid2002 2 in Marriage & Divorce

ok i have this not so popular friend that i used to ALLWAYS hang out with but now ive been hanging out with the populars how shuol i show her i still want to be her friend?
PS (she has a b-day coming up)

2006-12-10 00:58:56 · 8 answers · asked by Airhead 1 in Friends

She stops me and won't let me touch her for around a minute and will only continue with conventional love making. She enjoys me givening her oral sex but these intense sensations bring an abrupt end to a mutally pleasurable experience. Is it that she is about to come an feels inhibited to do so?

2006-12-10 00:54:14 · 29 answers · asked by AJ Baines 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I started dating a guy who is separated (16 months). 3 days ago his ex asked about trying to make things work for the kids (she cheated on him), so, I 'let him go' to decide what he wanted (this was Th. night). We texted each other back and forth a little on Friday, then when I wouldn't call him, I think he got upset, my reason was, what really is the point. I miss his voice so much, and I've been crying my heart out. Then last night he sent me 10 messages including "i'm lost" "can i c u one day next week" "i've been trying to tell you my feelings but you're not answering, guess the saying is true 'you snooze you loose' and "i miss you beautiful." I responded to his messages and stupidly tried calling, yet, he didnt' answer the phone, nor has he responded to my messages. What do I do...don't respond the next time (if there is a next time), go see him? tell him he has to decide? i know he doesn't love her but thinks it's best for his kids - what would you all do???? Please help

2006-12-10 00:53:57 · 21 answers · asked by GreenEyedLou 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-10 00:53:54 · 4 answers · asked by ANTJOHN 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My boyfriends name is Tanner. But a girl named Rachal is my best friend and she likes Tanner too.How do i Get closer to him???

2006-12-10 00:52:46 · 10 answers · asked by amber c 1 in Singles & Dating

He's got like this major crush on me. He texts me like almost everyday, but sometimes, I delete em , even without reading em. He keeps telling me he 'loves' me, but I don't feel anything between us. I'm crushing badly on his good friend, and he knows that, but he refuses to give up. Whenever I see him, I get really depressed and unhappy. I totally ignore him too. What should I do?About him and his friend; my crush.

2006-12-10 00:51:59 · 15 answers · asked by Jayden 3 in Singles & Dating