My dad is nuts. He's too brash and whenever I'm doing homework, he tells me to stop doing it and start practicing the piano. I've been playing for nearly 6 years but this year was the time I started noticing my dad became very weird. Before, I practiced once in a while but now, he seems to be overcome with the sudden urge to make me practice everyday for 2 hours. I'm just an average teenager who is Grade 6 in piano. Isn't this a bit harsh? And my dad also says that he doesn't care if I pass my homework to the teacher or not.He says music is the most important thing and he seems to have it in his head that I'll become his "precious" musician when I grow up.My mom suffers because she's been yelled that she's good for nothing because he can't get me to play the piano and she can't do a thing about it.I love playing the piano sometimes but this is ridiculous.I want to become a doctor but he seems to think otherwise.Still in High School.He's already hurting people...what do I do?
2006-12-10 01:12:39 · 7 answers · asked by Emrys 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like dad is controlling and abusive. You might want to talk with your family doctor or another member of the family to try and get you father some help. I'm not sure where you are from or what your customs are, but I believe each of us has in our heart a journey in life that we must follow. Please don't let this imped your journey in medicine. Music is wonderful and provides a staple in life, but medicine can cure ill's. Hugs
2006-12-10 01:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems your dad has serious problems and you and your mom suffer because of the way he is. I am glad you realize that. I came from a very dysfunctional family in which I am the ONLY one who realizes that. The other members seem to live in a deep, terrible denial. I am so glad you realize that, because it is time for you to fight and stand for what you want. I did, but I was rejected. They don't talk to me anymore, they wanted me to be part of their "group" which I have always refused because their standards are not mine, so, even if you sufer now, go for what you want, FIGHT, FLY HIGH, if you want to be a doctor, GO FOR IT, nobody on Earth, I reapet: NOBODY ON EARTH has the right to tell you what you should do with your life or not. They might advice you but never force you. Is it easy to get some counseling? That would help a great deal. I know it will be hard not to do what your father wants you to do, but it is YOUR LIFE, and my dear, we only LIVE ONCE.
Good luck and GOd bless.
2006-12-10 09:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by Butterfly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a tough situation. Just make sure that you get your homework done before your dad gets home from work. Than maybe you can be practising on the piano when he gets home from work. Good Luck.
2006-12-10 09:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always have game plan.
we can't change people... but we can change our reaction.
first of all, always complete your home work in school ( during your lunch break and and after school disguise of extracurricular activities)
Get closer to your mom. You may feel like she is useless right now.... but believe me she is a strong woman cause shes sticking through that (marriage) for you.
Find your spirituality. Read this book; its called the "purpose driven life" by Rick Warren.
Good luck.... and hope things get better.
2006-12-10 09:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by venom! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the previous answer...It seems that he is trying to outlive his dreams through you. It does sound like your father could use some counseling but he will have to be able to admit that. Maybe try talking to his mother and let her know the situation. Parents can often times sit down with their adult child and tell then here is what I think.
If it continues then maybe you need to talk to a guidance counselor at your school.
2006-12-10 09:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey welcome to the typical American family life!
First of all, I want to be a doctor too and I know how it feels to have "unsupportive" family. The only thing I would say to you is to "talk to your family" and let them know that your interest is else where. And if they cared about your feelings then you could probably do better in all your activities.
Maybe your dad is trying to live out his dreams through you!!
2006-12-10 09:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lovely*~*Layla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him calmly that you need to get good grades in EVERYTHING to get a good job. You can practice one hour a day. If you have a guidance counsler, you can talk to her/him. Tell him in an calm way, for now this is what I plan to do. Tell him, your Education and how well you do NOW- determnes how well you do in the future.
2006-12-10 09:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋