My girlfriend somehow got acces to my email when I used her computer and read my email. Isn't that illegal? She found tha I had personal ads online and that t I emailed to one woman saying I wanted to meet her. I never talked to that woman and never met her. My girlfreind now has broken up with me saying that I'm a cheater and she doesn't want anying to do with me. My girlfriend has 2 girls 10 and 13. Girlfriend told me that she asked the girls recently if if was ok for us to merge together and they said yes. Means to get married. Then she told me that marrage would give them more time together that I could be doing my thing. I was shocked! I had asked my girlfriend for help with renovations and alot of legal matters and insurance problems and after Katrina and she refused saying I have to do it myself.I'm a vietnam vet with PTSD and can't get nothing done alone. She said I don't have any of comeback answers. I just don'tknowwhattosay except that I was sorry and it won't happen
2006-12-10 01:05:59 · 15 answers · asked by mustang172002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she was smart to leave you after reading that. Probably better to read it now than after getting married. If it was legal or illegal, I have no idea.
My husband pulled the same crap but I haven't been in a position to do anything about it, yet.
2006-12-10 01:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to make a grand gesture. If you love her so much, why were you on a dating site? In order to regain trust you are going to have to do some big time penance. You will have to dote on her and be there for the girls, and you may as well put a sledgehammer through that damn PC because doing anything fun on it is just going to get you in trouble. You know that any one of these women you spoke with on-line would have nothing to do with you if they knew how miserable it was to live with you, right? So marry this one.. and start doing right by her and her children.
PS - work hard at dealing with your mental issues better, you never know when you might have to rely on yourself.
2006-12-10 01:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Merelda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's illegal, but she for some reason must have thought something was going on to check your email. if you love your girlfriend you shouldn't have put personal ads on the net. it's your own fault, not hers for looking. let this be a lesson learned. if you're with someone you love you don't put personal ads on the net. you're gonna get caught some way or another!
2006-12-10 01:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is illegal, but I think the two of you shouldn't be together for two good reasons:
1. A commitment on your part involves not looking to meet other women and
2. a commitment on her part means trusting you and not snooping. As it turns out, her snooping was justified.
2006-12-10 01:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is illegal. if you find out that she sent anything to anybody under your name, you should call the police. tell her that she shouldn't be doing that because its wrong. if she keeps bothering you, break up with her. it doesn't matter if you are engaged, you shouldn't be forced to do something that you don't want to do. you shouldn't be the one saying that you are sorry, it should be her. you didn't do anything wrong. you should also ask her why she was on your computer. and does it really matter about HER kids. she is more worried about them than she is about you. she is using you, harassing you. as i said, if it gets bad, call the police. its not fair that you are being punished for something that you are trying to do right. and remember, don;t let her ruin part or all of you life, you don't get another life.
2006-12-10 01:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you have a lot of groveling to do if you want it to work. Why should she trust you if you're putting personal ads online? But then why should you trust her if she reads your personal mail? Sounds like both of you have trust issues that need to be worked out.
2006-12-10 01:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Hillaryforpresident 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she read your e-mails she should have been able to see how old the dates are on the e-mails. Did you forget to take your profile off of the dating websites or what???
2006-12-10 01:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by MsFancy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a girlfriend then why the adds? why would you want to meet someone else? she must have a keylogger on her computer if you cleared out your passwords...you hurt her made her feel like you were looking for someone better
2006-12-10 01:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by msmaxima2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but it sounds like you need a new girlfriend. It doesn't sound like she cares about you. I don't know about illegal since you let her on the computer.
2006-12-10 01:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by s_k_wilson1990 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should get some counseling so that you aren't dependent on other people to make you feel good.
2006-12-10 01:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by J. Bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋