Family & Relationships - 5 December 2006

My husband and I have been marrried 9 years. We have 3 kids, 3,5, 7. It was very good until 3 years ago. He then started working late late and on weekends, and then on weekends he was "too tired" to do anything (we have able and ready babysitter- 4 grandparents). Two years ago, I started going with my friends in Las Vegas twice a month. Vegas is 25 min, no nites away. It then became once a week and before you know it I had accumulated all of this debt. My husband moved out. Turned out that a year before he moved out, he started seeing another woman. He continued to see her after he moved out. Now he wants to come home. No, I don't bIame him. I have quit completely and participate in DA. He says that he realized that he was having a mid-life crisis, neglected us and wants his family back. My gut is telling me to move on, my heart says try again, particularly when I see how it is affecting my kids. Will he leave if I have cancer?Unfair, but I wonder. I worked full time, paying bills,too.

2006-12-05 01:58:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend lives in north carolina, i live in texas were both 16, nad i wanna do whatever i can to keep us together i mean were good and all i just wanna keep it that way we've been going out since august

2006-12-05 01:58:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Her boyfriend is over about 7 days a week and when the other roomate comes home, she does not feel comfortable because she feels like the third wheel and has to sit there while the other two are constantly kissing and grouping each other. So, the roomate without the boyfriend asked the roomate with the boyfriend if the boyfriend can come over less, and the roomate with the boyfriend got all pissed, saying that she pays half rent and that she can have over anyone at any time. Is this right or should there be some compromise here? Which roomate is in the wrong?-the one with the boyfriend who is over all the time or the one who wants the boyfriend over less?

2006-12-05 01:58:31 · 13 answers · asked by noel1426 2 in Singles & Dating

Which is better?

2006-12-05 01:58:28 · 18 answers · asked by whydiduaskthis? 3 in Singles & Dating

well..i was out with this guy once, he used to go after me while i was still with my bf and after i broke up with my bf, i went out with him, intending to catch a movie or something..he turned up in just three-quarter pants, t-shirt and slippers while i was nicely dressed up because i had to attend a class gathering after that..

this was the first time meeting up and i guess he was really shy because he did not even dare to look at me and his voice was so soft that i can hardly hear what he was saying, well..we didn't catch any movie but ended up walking ard and going to a book store, after that, he said he was hungry and we decided to go grab a bite but everywhere was packed,then i suggested another place but he said he was tired and wanted to go home and then he left me stranded alone in the mall...!!!till now, i was still wondering why.....can anyone enlighten me?

2006-12-05 01:58:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-05 01:58:09 · 4 answers · asked by Ajay B 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-05 01:58:06 · 2 answers · asked by abcpimpz 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-05 01:57:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i met this girl over a year ago we are both married with kids etc but I have never really felt like i mean anything to her as a friend. She is always rude but calls herself a ball buster. She sent me a nasty email because i told her son he couldnt use my sons swim bands. On top of that any time i tell her kids no she has to call me and demand to know why. She gets mad if my kids have a friend over but hers cant come over that same time. ugg. what would you do?p.s it wasnt like i was being mean when i said no about the swimmies. its just that he was bigger than my son and i already told my own kids no. She is always bragging about her rich friends and how much they adore her etc..iam annoyed would you be?

2006-12-05 01:56:55 · 6 answers · asked by private n 2 in Singles & Dating

I was recently diagnosed with Herpes. So needless to say I'm not really in the "mood" for any sexual activity yet.

But even though my guy is totally understanding and has no problems waiting until I am ready again, I feel really bad that I'm not.

Can you give me some ideas of some sweet/nice or even sexy things to do for him that will make sure he knows I love him and that I think of him constantly??? And that my not being in the mood has NOTHING to do with him??

Thanks in advance for your answers!

2006-12-05 01:55:45 · 8 answers · asked by Jessie D. 3 in Singles & Dating

my ex wants to be friends with me and hang out and stuff. but my g/f now seems a little worried. i love my girlfriend now and i know i wont do anything to hurt her. but i dont know what to do.

2006-12-05 01:55:19 · 7 answers · asked by teddy 2 in Singles & Dating

Wife says she fantisizes about having another women in bed when we are having sex should I find one.

2006-12-05 01:55:14 · 14 answers · asked by Bad Dog 1 in Family

I am not getting the logic behind their responses. Yes, I know there are two sides to every story and we are getting only one, but some of the female and a few male responses justify that it is okay for a man to not play a strong father figure and blame it on the woman. I just read a response that defended the absent father, the responder justified it by saying, maybe the ex makes it difficult when he tries to contact the child. So what!!! Who cares if the ex is difficult to deal with, it is about the child. No matter what the circumstances their is a child's life at stake and nobody has an excuse for not being a participating parent. Could somebody please tell me what they are thinking when they make excuses for dead-beat parents.

2006-12-05 01:54:34 · 9 answers · asked by stacey h 3 in Family

If you didnt get home til 8-9pm and your partner had cooked for you every night.... would you appreciate it or after a while take it for granted....

2006-12-05 01:54:17 · 33 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Singles & Dating

my bf is still in love wit his ex and i'm tired of being number 2 in his eyes how do i leave without hurting myself and my 8th month old baby, ( he is not the dad)

2006-12-05 01:53:57 · 13 answers · asked by yourgirl1517 1 in Singles & Dating

My partner & i have been together 6yrs,he has been taking drugs on & off for most of that time,he always promise's me it's the last time & gets clean for a few months but then starts again,i'm ill myself at the moment & feel i have no suppport,i spend all my time worrying about him rather than looking after myself.Will he ever stop or should i just give up hope? He's 35yrs old.

2006-12-05 01:53:20 · 9 answers · asked by Andrea C 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I told him I was going back to another guy..he knows that we are impossible and I love him but now he is really ignoring me and I can't stand it because I want to at least be good friends I tried contacting him through his clasmate but he still leaves his cellphone off and won't come online...I think he did love me alittle he is 15.

2006-12-05 01:52:51 · 11 answers · asked by andinghsiang 1 in Singles & Dating

Do bipolars have problems with the following issues:-

-Trust
-Loyalty
-Truth

2006-12-05 01:51:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

why is it that when you meet a guy in a online dating service and they say that they want to get to know you better,and they are interested in you, they dont write back for several weeks? why does it take a man sooo long to write back? they cant be that busy can they??

2006-12-05 01:51:26 · 19 answers · asked by laura s 3 in Singles & Dating

its this time of the month that most of her family members have died and she bottles up everything inside i ask her all these questions but yet sh can open up to me her step dad treats her bad her mom and brothers are overprotective and she grew up around guys (her brothers) so she has the mentality of one (no she is not a tomboy she just likes things like guys she is into action movies and loves doing extreme sports so what should i do????

2006-12-05 01:50:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-05 01:50:07 · 19 answers · asked by cooper42 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-05 01:50:06 · 6 answers · asked by lucky_stars_28 1 in Singles & Dating

we can meet up about 1 pm?

2006-12-05 01:49:59 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My girlfriend told me the other nite that her friend has invited her to a party. I thought that she would want me to go aswell but she said that her friend had only invited her. Im not happy about her going to a house party coz i know guys will be trying to put the moves on her. I told her i wasnt happy about it and she said she wouldnt go if it upset me. So should i ask her not to go or should i let her do her own thing and trust that she'll be faithful?? If she really wanted me to go and to be with me she wouldve asked me to go anyway, wouldnt she???? I mean if i was invited to a house party shed be the first person id think of asking to go........Does this mean she doesnt feel the same way about me as i feel about her? Thanks

2006-12-05 01:49:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

turkey and i live in texas and ayways i was very attracted to him i guess it was love at first sight well anyways i asked him to join me and my freinds and he did and i started to talk to him and at first he seemed shy and busy but he asked me if i could take a walk with him and i said no i was with my freinds at thetime but he askedmy freinds who were sitting near me and one of them said "yes, have fun" ! and he got up so i got up and then we walked together and started to talk he told me about his country and he told me he was a pilot and that he was only in this country for a little while hes only been in usa for two months and he was leaving soon so anyways we talked some more and heldhands and then we kissed for a while and then i had to go because my freinds were leaving..well hes 24 and im 21 and i now we talk on the phone since then and he is on base here in texas and he wants to know if i can be with him (if you know what i mean) before he leaves on friday should i???

2006-12-05 01:49:25 · 6 answers · asked by Lauretha 3 in Singles & Dating

i have this ex boyfriend and he is really sweet but we split up but i dunno if he will ever have feelings for me

2006-12-05 01:49:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok, here's the deal. I'm the secondary minister at my church. there's this girl i attend church with that i've known since i was 9. i've found that over the years i've grown feelings for her. the only issue is that she's 14 and i'm 19.

i've been praying for God to show me what to do. i feel that a relationship between her and myself would work out, and it would be a relationship to honor God. the only problem that keeps coming up is our age difference.

So here's the question...is it wrong for me (a 19 year old) to have feelings for her (a 14 year old)? is it also wrong for me (a minister) to have feelings for a girl in my congrigation at church?

2006-12-05 01:49:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what means when a guy says ' I don't love you but like you' comment?

2006-12-05 01:48:37 · 19 answers · asked by Queenbee 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm only 23 but i'm married to the love of my life.We have a great relationship.But,I'm not very interested in sex.My husband wants to have sex all the time and I don't.I've talked to him about it and told him how I feel and he's supportive.But,I think it secretly bothers him.I was wondering if you have any suggestions that could make me want to have sex more?I've tried lingerie,talking to him,and even herbal supplements.

2006-12-05 01:48:19 · 16 answers · asked by katzgto67 2 in Marriage & Divorce

lol...well nearly...my question actually is...

What would you compare yourself to in the natural world...would you be a rose...a wolf...a tornado...rain,fire,earth...whatever...and what are the qualities you believe you share with your choice???...

2006-12-05 01:48:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating