My husband and I have been marrried 9 years. We have 3 kids, 3,5, 7. It was very good until 3 years ago. He then started working late late and on weekends, and then on weekends he was "too tired" to do anything (we have able and ready babysitter- 4 grandparents). Two years ago, I started going with my friends in Las Vegas twice a month. Vegas is 25 min, no nites away. It then became once a week and before you know it I had accumulated all of this debt. My husband moved out. Turned out that a year before he moved out, he started seeing another woman. He continued to see her after he moved out. Now he wants to come home. No, I don't bIame him. I have quit completely and participate in DA. He says that he realized that he was having a mid-life crisis, neglected us and wants his family back. My gut is telling me to move on, my heart says try again, particularly when I see how it is affecting my kids. Will he leave if I have cancer?Unfair, but I wonder. I worked full time, paying bills,too.
2006-12-05 01:58:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband wants to work things out. Before you end your marriage, make every effort to fix it.
2006-12-05 02:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is using mid-life crisis as a poor excuse for his actions. why woudl mid-life crisis make you want to hurt your kids and wife? he's had his fun and knows he wont' find anyone like you. if he appreciated you like how he should have, he wouldn't have been seeing another woman. when a guy cheats, chances are, he'll cheat again. you know deep down in your heart that you'll never trust him 100% ever again. you can deny it, but you'll never trust him and it won't be a healthy relationship. do not sacrifice your dependancy now. you're working, you are looking after the kids and you're on your way to to moving on. i know it's hard but if you are going to make a go of things, don't do it for the kids sake because in the long run, this will have an adverse affect on your children.
2006-12-05 02:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by Scorpio1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should follow your heart and give him one more chance. Maybe this time you both have matured and things will work out.
Good Luck.
2006-12-05 02:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i will give you this at least you are taking half the blame but the thing is you have to have trust and if you really want to work it out then he needs to get your trust back for the affair and you will have to get his back from going to Las Vegas all the time even if you did not do anything ....But if you want it to work it will but you both have to work at it not just one of you and you also have to find out if you still want to be with him and him with you and go from their ........If you want it to work out then go for it and don't let anyone stop you but it is up to you so good luck and i hope every thing works out for you .........
2006-12-05 02:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart
2006-12-05 02:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋