2006-12-05 01:50:07 · 19 answers · asked by cooper42 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Run away as fast as you can. You have no business being anywhere near a married man, let alone getting so involved with him that he falls in love with you. Shame on you!
2006-12-05 01:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK, but I warn you, my opinion is just that. You need to make an assessment as objectively as possible. Assuming you love him... first and foremost, I would NOT reject him solely on the basis that he's married. However, you do need to find out if a divorce is going to happen; do not blame yourself. Understand that his marriage is not working and in the end, he'll get a divorce with or without you. In other words, it's an accident waiting to happen.
Next step, get on line and find out as much as you can about the man and his history. Are you giving him a "second chance," or an "8th chance?" My rule for men and women allows a 3rd chance. And that's very generous by most standards. Most everybody deserves a second chance. I digress. Bottom line, protect yourself. You don't want to get hurt in any way. Find out about his current wife. People are capable of anything and her actions will be your number one worry if you hook up with him. But you know that. It's the degree of ego she has that you need to worry about more than anything. Remember, if there are kids involved, you will have to deal with her.
2006-12-05 10:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lightbringer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GUARANTEE: It won't work.. If he leaves his wife for you...that's a BIG IF.... do you really want to have a relationship with a man who can do that to his wife? He's a cheater, plain and simple... Ask yourself if you could ever REALLY trust him. I am sure he tells you what he tells his wife, excuses and all that... He must be pretty good at it or she would have caught on by now, seeing you're at the "LOVE" level. He loves the sex, he loves the attention, and he loves the confidence boost. It's easy for him...no committment to you while having the security of a wife and ?family? at home...GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN....COLD TURKEY....It will be hard, but you deserve better. DOn't you wan't your OWN man?
2006-12-05 11:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by TRE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is do you love him to? If you do then come clean, tell him. But you two can not do anything until he comes clean at home. This is important because:
1. If you two act dishonorable then you can never stand with a clean conscious infront of others.
2. The other women deserves the trust and truth. If he is not truthful with his wife, how can you be sure he will be with you.
But if you are not in love with him, then tell him and dont let him suffer.
2006-12-05 11:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by eidunotno 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can a married man have spent enough time with you to be in love? Unless you have spent a lot of intimate time with him it can't be love. That he would have considered it love in the first place or did that to the wife he loved (?) should make his love suspect.
Run away. Run away fast.
2006-12-05 10:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Married and in love? More like "Married and in lust". I think more often than not you'll find that this is the case. Steer clear. Unless of course you just want a casual, physical relationship. But expect nothing more than that.
Now...that settled and knowing where you stand the decision is in your hands.
2006-12-05 10:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Woman run for the hills. Never subject yourself to that. You will find that it is very degrading and so much against what you would want for your life. That type of love is nothing but a cancer. It will consume you and anything in its path. Don't do it to yourself. Tell him to take a hike. Beat it! Take a flying leap off of a really high structure.
Good Luck
2006-12-05 10:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get away and fast! I just went through this with my hubby. He had an affair, and not only was it sex, he had an emotional connection to her. You dont want to be in the middle of this love triangle, he will never leave his wife for you, most men dont. mine didnt. and do you want that on your conscience that you were responsible for destroying a marrige? I wish the woman that was with my husband would have snapped him out of it and told him to go home to his wife, but she didnt, and men are weak and think with their d*cks. speaking from experience, reject him and send him home to his wife. its too painful and if you were married, you wouldn't want some woman seducing your husband. what comes around, goes around, and if you pursue this and accept his advances, you will get your someday. LEAVE HIM ALONE AND REMIND HIM HE HAS A WIFE!
2006-12-05 10:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Remind him that he is married. He needs to either keep his committment to his wife or get a divorce. You can't have both! Don't let yourself get in the middle of this! It will only turn out bad.
2006-12-05 09:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
although you may be flattered,stay away from him,he
might be having problems at home and feeling the need for attention,he probably still loves his wife,in most cases
they dont leave their wives for the other person,even if it seems like they love you,they usually resolve their problems,even when she finds out about you
BOTTOM LINE find a single guy whos only interest is you ,you deserve it1
2006-12-05 10:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by jewel 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋