its this time of the month that most of her family members have died and she bottles up everything inside i ask her all these questions but yet sh can open up to me her step dad treats her bad her mom and brothers are overprotective and she grew up around guys (her brothers) so she has the mentality of one (no she is not a tomboy she just likes things like guys she is into action movies and loves doing extreme sports so what should i do????
2006-12-05 01:50:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be serious in ur comments please.....
2006-12-05 01:55:58 · update #1
I can understand how confused you must be, a dead end. Perhaps she needs some time and space then you when the time is right you need to talk to her and tell her she must learn to move on, thats just a part of life, and she will see her family members again one day. Good luck,
2006-12-05 01:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you are there for her; dont push her into talking to you b/c that's not any better than how her family treats her. if you let her know she can talk to you, then she will find the right time to open up. depending on how long you have been together she may also be waiting b/c she isn't sure how serious the relationship is; she probably doesn't want to make herself too vulnerable too soon. give her a journal, tell her that while you would prefer to be her soundboard, but if she wants to keep things private she can write it in her journal.
2006-12-05 09:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by cami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO, from my experience it took 10 years for me to open alot of things up to my husband, because there are somethings that you can't trust everyone with. I am sure she wants to make sure that you are that trusting person that she needs. No one wants to be vulnerable and naive, it's painful and makes you go into your shell even more. She probably doesn't want to run you away with her problems, alot of men say they don't want someone with alot of baggage so you try to deal with things on your own because you think that if you let them know your issues they will think it is to much and leave.
Please be there for her, give her reasons to trust you and things that allow her to know that you would never breach her trust. It is important to have someone that you can confide in and you know will not tell anyone else or bring it up in an arguement later on down there road.
2006-12-05 11:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tri-trippin-Nelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about herself, like what she likes, her hopes and dreams. Here's a good question.... If you won the million dollar lottery, what would you buy with the money? Who can pass up this dream!!!
And this is for the LITTLE boy above - 8 inches - yeah right ha ha. You ARE dreaming! You are NOT impressing anyone with your vulgarities.
2006-12-05 09:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I've learned is that women all have this little girl inside who desire to be loved unconditionally- meaning love her through her pain and when she trust you enough she will disclose. Do not push or pull just be there.
2006-12-05 10:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by daloveman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and do something romantic with her like a nice meal in or something and during your meal start to talk about your most intermitt things together and if you start to open up to her she might begin to open up to you, but dont rush her into telling her anything as this is a hard time 4 her, but she needs to know that you are there to talk to if she needs you!!!
2006-12-05 09:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO, JUST BE THERE FOR HER. DON'T KEEP PRESSURING HER. WHEN SHE IS READY SHE WILL OPEN UP TO YOU, CONSTANTLY LET HER KNOW THAT YOU ARE THERE FOR HER NO MATTER HOW BAD THE SITUATION IS. COMFORT HER. YOU SAID THAT SHE LIKES ACTIONS MOVIES, MAYBE RENT A MOVIE AND SPEND SOME QUALITY TIME. FLOWERS AND A HUGE TEDDYBEAR IS THOUGHTFUL. WOMAN LOVE TO BE PAMPERED.
2006-12-05 09:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by Lillo Brancato 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesnt want to talk let her coemt o you..she cant blame u if shes madd and maybe she doesnt want to burden u wtih her problm,es. But it is a god thing that you do care and want to know whatsup!!! just be there for her and help her even if she doesnt tell u what the problem is!!!
2006-12-05 09:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by kellydarcey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take her away from all that drama no matter what her peoples say okay you deep inside you dont wont her to be hurt.
2006-12-05 09:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by zambreisha t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just except her the way she is. about opening up. she might when she's ready until then don't push her. just give her support that she needs.
2006-12-05 09:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋