Her boyfriend is over about 7 days a week and when the other roomate comes home, she does not feel comfortable because she feels like the third wheel and has to sit there while the other two are constantly kissing and grouping each other. So, the roomate without the boyfriend asked the roomate with the boyfriend if the boyfriend can come over less, and the roomate with the boyfriend got all pissed, saying that she pays half rent and that she can have over anyone at any time. Is this right or should there be some compromise here? Which roomate is in the wrong?-the one with the boyfriend who is over all the time or the one who wants the boyfriend over less?
2006-12-05 01:58:31 · 13 answers · asked by noel1426 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think both housemates should be considerate for each other. The one with the bf can try not to behave too intimate infront of another housemate, while the other housemate can try to be-friend with the bf.
2006-12-05 02:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by dories 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it makes it hard since the roommate with the boyfriend does pay her share of the rent. I once had a similar situation but it ended with me having my roommate move out. In my case though my roommate would bring a different guy in all hours of the night and wake me up and I had to be at my job at 5am, which I was working around 12 hour shifts, 6 or 7 days a week. Roommates have to have some consideration for each other or it will not work out in most cases. good luck.
2006-12-05 02:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she insists that the boyfriend stay over every night, then he should be paying a third of the rent. But it honestly sounds like you may just be feeling a little left out of the mix. Before you start making demands for equal share of rent ask yourself, what you would do if you were in a serious relationship? It really is the right etiquette for him to be paying rent also!
2006-12-05 02:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by stacey h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sticky situation. Things like this should be addressed before anyone moves in. Both people are right, considering they each pay half. Doesn't this boyfriend have his own place, that they could spend time at? Perhaps they can alternate being at his place and then the other or go into another room for their touchy feeley sessions.
2006-12-05 02:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by beeotch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have said to her "yes, you do pay half the rent, which means you get half the privileges, which days do you want him over this week, you have three days this week two next week, one week-end is mine, one week-end is yours. And, by he way, there are curfews, not before seven or after ten in the evening. If you don't like it, find another place"
If that doesn't work, make arrangements to have your friends over for pizza three or four days a week he's going to be there for a study group.
If that doesn't wake her up that you'll have to find a place of your own somewhere else.
2006-12-05 02:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would put down some house rules. Starting with, if you two want to play house- get your own house! either that, or learn to play an instrument. Something like a big horn, and just remember it always sounds its best at 2 in the morning, inside her bedroom door. Hey- you can go anywhere you want- cuz you pay half the rent, right?
2006-12-05 02:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by big mommasweeta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is wrong. You are just mad that she has someone to spend all of her time with and you don't. Think about it if the shoe was on the other foot. Your are being selfish and unreasonable.How dare u ask her, if her bf could come over there less. It is her house as much as its yours. Thats why she is not living with her parents, so she won't have to her bs but no, she still hearing it.
Tip of the day: grow up
2006-12-05 02:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gross! It's totally inappropriate for them to be kissing and groping in front of anyone. It's common courtesy and manners. Hey, I'm all for PDA when it's tasteful but it sounds like they're displaying way more than affection here. It's just a matter of decency and she should respect her roommate enough to know that.
2006-12-05 02:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by jackie_jackie_bo_backie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thanks to make it extra efficient? first of all you want to parent out why your roomate is performing the way he's. might want to or not it is he's time-honored with something about your B/F that he's not telling you? might want to or not it is your roomate is contained in the closet about his sexuality and is performing the way he's to wrestle the urge to leap your B/F's bones? yet in case you may't/received't locate out why, then do not carry you B/F over to the living house anymore, bypass to his position.
2016-11-23 18:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be some compromise. Maybe the room mate with the boyfriend could 'entertain' him in her room or something so she's not in the other room mates face all the time.
2006-12-05 02:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋