Family & Relationships - 29 October 2006

Okay, we all know people of both genders who are our age can be tired, stressed, have variations in their level of sexual desire. But is it normal for a man to say his marriage is great but almost never want to have sex, like once every couple of months, and when the wife initiates or asks about increasing the frequency, he takes the stand that sex just isn't important to him any more? Am I mistaken to think many men like, want, and try to have sex well past 40? Don't guys these ages, er, have occasional glitches, but can usually perform, and if not, they would try again soon, and/or get help? Don't a lot of guys in their 40s, 50s, sixties still want sex "often", say, usu. a couple times a week or more? My guy basically just quit our sex life altogether. He is 51, I am 46. No sex for almost two years. :-(

2006-10-29 08:33:43 · 9 answers · asked by catintrepid 5 in Marriage & Divorce

ppl criticize her. She cant seem to get organized and she breaks things when she gets angry. And when things are misplaced ppl blame her. I am her sister and I have Add as well but I seem to be doing better in school. she tried meds but it made her more angry. I want my sister to be happy confident and successful. How can I help? My parents are already paying for all the schools she went to and left without finishing them. They dont have money. Its really affecting me bc i cant be happy if my sister is not happy and I hate when ppl talk about us bc we learn differently. I just hate when ppl doubt us What can i really do?

2006-10-29 08:33:33 · 4 answers · asked by girl 1 in Family

My husband has been acting weird, and whenever i ask him what the problem is, he just says that he only wants some time alone, what's going on?

2006-10-29 08:33:24 · 12 answers · asked by La Morena 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is in charge of my home. He's a minor hoarder and loves to bring anything home that's free. He's not physically abusive but I feel emotionally abused when he doesn't care what I want. He feels bad and gets affectionate but nothing changes. I can't fight about it anymore. I just want to live alone, but how can I do that when I'm all he has? What's wrong with me when I let his life be more important than mine? That's how it's always been. We've been together almost 30 years, and I'm so torn. What can I do?

2006-10-29 08:32:33 · 7 answers · asked by nobackbone 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I’ve heard both sides of the argument to the point where I’m totally confused. Some guys say they prefer virgins for all kinds of reasons; certain graphic sexual related aspects I won’t get into and the trust issue. And the obvious being "the first one." But, I’ve heard probably more negative remarks. For example, why waste your time with her if she won’t “put out,” she’s full of herself, she won’t be “good in bed” and she’ll become dependant on you, “too prudish” and many more, but I can’t type them all down here. I haven’t had a chance (or the guts) to ask any guy I know, but with all honesty and from your experiences, do you think guys prefer virgins or sexually experienced women? When I say sexually experienced, I don't mean promiscous by the way. I've heard that it is difficult for guys to withhold sex, so I have always wondered. I've never had a boyfriend, so I'm cluesless about a lot of things in this nature.

2006-10-29 08:32:26 · 8 answers · asked by Maureen T 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-29 08:31:36 · 5 answers · asked by MICKEY M 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I was w/Amy for 2 years while in a long dist r'ship with Kate. Amy wanted me to commit to her, to move in, etc. She was totally in love with me, but I could never return her love in the same way because I still had feelings for Kate. Amy begged me to cut off contact with Kate, and said we could be happy together forever. I could never commit to Amy. Now Amy has met someone else-her dad's friend, 20 years older, married, has a daughter in her 20s, and Amy tells me she loves him. He lives in another country, but she thinks it can work with him despite the complications. I have finally gotten over Kate, and want Amy back desperately, but she says she cannot give me what i want. Still Amy and I hang out and she acts like my gf, we sleep together, she calls me at 2am when drunk, says she misses me, says she thinks of the "possibility" of us together. Is this the behavior of a girl in love with someone else? Can i get her back? should i cut off contact and see if she comes back to me?

2006-10-29 08:30:43 · 12 answers · asked by James S 1 in Singles & Dating

ok my friend is absolutely in love with this guy. hes one of our friends that lives in our neighbourhood but anyway.... she wants to get his attention but she's ran out of ideas for flirts. girls cn you think of flirts you've used in the past that might have worked???? if you're guys can you think of a flirt that drove you crazy?????

2006-10-29 08:29:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What was it?
What was special about it?
How did you feel?

2006-10-29 08:28:18 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

That song with Bon Jovi earlier this year ("Who Says You Can't Go Home") really struck a chord with me. I have been living in the big city. I've reached the top of my career and met all my goals. I've been away from "home"--- my family and hometown for two decades. I really feel like I want to go back, but something is holding me back. I feel like I'm "selling out" if I go home. I feel like I will not be seen as successful if I return home to my small town. Should I go home? What are people's thoughts about this dilemma?

2006-10-29 08:28:01 · 5 answers · asked by nido_tr3s 5 in Family

me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now and he lives with me he always seems to start arguments for no reason?i am a plus size girl and when we go out he is always stearing at other slim girls with short skirts on and then when he is not at work he is on the internet watching porn he says he loves me the way i am but why does he do this if he did not love my then why is he staying with me i feel really depressed

2006-10-29 08:27:50 · 32 answers · asked by HARLUN S 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Whenever im around my girl or anyone for that matter, I cant relax and just play it cool, I cant keep under control and just be chill, I just wanna act cool and stuff you know how it is. How can i calm down and be confident in myself in social situations?

2006-10-29 08:27:12 · 3 answers · asked by Yume Kid 3 in Friends

Most of the people I know are not close to their brothers and sisters as adults, even if they get along with them or like them. It seems like siblings are so very different from each other that as adults, they grow apart or even become estranged. Are you really tight with your siblings or are they too different than you for you to be truly close?

2006-10-29 08:25:30 · 10 answers · asked by nido_tr3s 5 in Family

2006-10-29 08:24:53 · 11 answers · asked by rani 1 in Singles & Dating

My friend ill call him (J) are always acting sorta attached to eachother. Just resently I relized I have feelings for him. We talk on the phone EVERYNIGHT till like REALLY late like from 9pm to 3am. We talk about our life and sometimes he teases me and I tease back and we are always being really sexually talkitive. He will be like "so when do u wanna come over so we can get down and dirty" and stuff but like I dont kno if he is just teasing because I always thought he was till he said "(my name) Your so cute" "I love u your awesome what are we gonna do with u" "you talk so cute" ect...I think he does but I dont kno how to imply I like him back without being like I LIKE U ALOT! back at him have any ideas on ways I could flirt or imply I like him without actually saying it stright up?

2006-10-29 08:24:45 · 10 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

This happened to me when i was at the movies with my friend, she looked at me sweetly, and i was just about to kiss her...i was about to laugh cause if she kissed me, i was going to gag out loud

2006-10-29 08:24:10 · 6 answers · asked by atlantacatcrimson 1 in Singles & Dating

Wife is deceased

2006-10-29 08:22:21 · 16 answers · asked by weesle_36467 1 in Family

me and ma bf has ben together for 4months and as of january it will be 7months im goin to skool where he lives and im working at a hospital as a nurse tech...do u really think its agood idea to move wit him?? he lives wit his sister and her fiance..but he pays full on rent..if i move in i guess were spliting it or im payin ma own rent as well... i dunno but i jus need some advice..PLEASE HELP ME!!
thanks a bunch ..

2006-10-29 08:22:07 · 5 answers · asked by Mrs.Durossndamaken 4 in Singles & Dating

the guy i like is now my boyfriend and we have some dances comin up should i kiss him on the lips, cheek, or not even kiss him??

2006-10-29 08:21:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

does this mean he hates me or likes me ??plzzzzzzzzzzz help me!!!!!!!!!

2006-10-29 08:20:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-10-29 08:19:17 · 15 answers · asked by MICKEY M 3 in Singles & Dating

i have heard a lot of rumors that my brothers gf did bl*w job on my brother. i could have never imagined my brother doing this!! his girlfriend is really rude to me. she has a really bad reputation of being a total sl*t. what should i do?

2006-10-29 08:18:47 · 9 answers · asked by deliasgirl24 1 in Singles & Dating

okay so theres this girl i already know right and im freinds with her brother and when i was talking to him hes like u have met my sister right and i was like yea we met before and she turned and looked at her brother and she just started giggling and i just looked at her wierdly so does she like me or what

2006-10-29 08:18:03 · 12 answers · asked by Luis 4 in Singles & Dating

Okay so there is this girl that likes me and I think she looks pretty good. The thing is that she just broke up with her ex boyfriend. Her ex is friend of this other dude called Julio that goes to my school and goes out with another girl named Martha. I tried to go out with Martha in the past and she kept all my notes, and it seems like Julio found the notes and got pissed off at me. So if I go out with her they will think that I'm just trying to steal their girls (because I already tried with both of their girls)

Also, on the other side the girl I'm telling you is black. This other black girl wanted to go out with me but I said no cause she's ugly as freak and don't like her attitude. So if I don't go out with this girl they might think it's because they're black. And this is not the case.

2006-10-29 08:17:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

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I think i am in love?

there this guy who i know about 2 years ago we went together (meaning slept )
and when i kissed him my lips tingled i think iam in love i keep getting this love glaze
from him when he looks at me and another time i wore a new top
and he looked at me straight at me then looked away why did he do that
and everytime i see him he always say hello but the thing is he is my mum boyfriends son and she stop me seeing him and he had a girlfriend and i had a boyfriend and he said lets brake up with them and we get together
i am 21 and he is 25
so the questions are please answers them
do u thing that love glaze is importamt meaning when we meet eyes ?
Do u think that guy had the t ingle in that kiss as me ?
why did he say lets brake up with are partners
sorry for my grammer or spelling

2006-10-29 08:15:48 · 7 answers · asked by yates1239 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm just checking......??? FUTURE ADVICE IF NEEDED!!!

2006-10-29 08:15:29 · 22 answers · asked by D'antwon ;-)~ 2 in Singles & Dating

Would you blame yourself? for being a crap lay, or would you go out and pull the next man and have mad mind blowing sex?? Or would you just lock yourself away for the rest of your life and live a life as a hermit? Serious answers please this is a delicate question!!

2006-10-29 08:15:21 · 39 answers · asked by jules 4 in Singles & Dating

A lot of people-mostly my siblings- have a tendency to "drop in" on my family for visits. It's not that I don't want to see them- but they seem to drop in a lot while we're getting ready to eat dinner or getting ready to leave and I really wish they would call ahead- how can I ask them to not drop in anymore without hurting their feelings?

2006-10-29 08:14:45 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Family

Is there is any nice woman(good character) out there who likes to date a divorced black man of 35 that lives in Europe?

2006-10-29 08:14:31 · 14 answers · asked by devout_kindhonest 1 in Singles & Dating

if you read my stories " i didnt do anything but..", "in times of crises", " is this headed for splitsville" you guys know that life recently has not been kind to me. well, today i just talked with the guy who i thought was my bf and then he tells me that we should take a break: him giving me time to get over what i am going through!it is like he planned this on purpose since he knows that i have a long and hectic week with lots of tests anq quizzes-almost every day. i was taken back but i guess that is how he feels: he hates me! he told me that once i stop putting myself down-which i am doing right now- as well as act more rational as well as to act more like myself and to stop pitying myself and feeling sorry for myself as well as to get rid of what is holding me back and is making me a mess. i want to do all those things, not to make promises to anyone except to myself and then to get those things done. any ideas on how to accomplish those things or what i should do besides skool?

2006-10-29 08:13:36 · 1 answers · asked by icycrissy27blue 5 in Singles & Dating