Would you blame yourself? for being a crap lay, or would you go out and pull the next man and have mad mind blowing sex?? Or would you just lock yourself away for the rest of your life and live a life as a hermit? Serious answers please this is a delicate question!!
2006-10-29 08:15:21 · 39 answers · asked by jules 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So none of you would actually physically harm them for the betrayal? Like chopping of their hair or GBH? Oh dear
2006-10-29 08:24:26 · update #1
I would rip his dick off then shove it down his boyfriends throat (would probably be the best deep throat ******** ever given), then I would dance on his head a few times and tell them both to go ****.
Once I got that out of my system I would fix my hair, make sure my clothes are looking respectable and turn and walk out with my head held high and find a better man.
2006-10-29 08:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, don't blame yourself. He obviously has bisexual tendancies that you didn't know about. Secondly, regardless of his choice of sexual partner, he has been unfaithful. Do not do anything in retaliation or go out and sleep with the nearest guy that fits the bill. Do you have safe sex as a couple? If not, I'd be asking some serious questions that need some bloody serious answers from him, check out your health...this is an issue regardless of his sexual persausion. Take some time out to come to terms with his cheating ways !!!, just because it was another man doesn't mean you are a crap lay !!!
2006-10-29 08:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by minitheminx65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do any of the above, cos they're all far too irrational. I actually had a similar situation, when my ex whispered to me whilst I was asleep (so he thought), that he wanted to kiss a male colleague at work. I "woke up" and asked him what he was talking about, and he said he was just having a joke...hmmm, with someone who's asleep!? Yeah right! We split up soon after and I heard from others that he was hanging out with lots of gays, and that's the last I wanted to know really.
We didn't split up because of that reason, and if I'm honest, it didn't bother me one tiny little bit. If he's gay, he's gay, and that has nothing to do with me. I guess I should be grateful that he spent 4 years pretending to be straight, rather than leave me and follow his "dream". I can understand that if you were insecure you might actually be upset by this, and if I'd have witnessed the act, I'd have probably felt sick, but other than that, it would bother me much much less than finding him in bed with another women, cos lets face it, she would have to have something you didn't, and that's more soul destroying. You can't ever compete with a man, no matter how hard you tried...simple cos you're the wrong sex!
2006-10-29 08:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't realistically answer this question as my husband is very homophobic and I know there is no way this could happen.
I don't know how serious your relationship with your boyfriend is but I'm 100% sure this has noting to do with anything you could have said or done. People are more experimental and curious today than they were a few years ago and it's "normal" to experiment.
If I was in a serious relationship with a man and found him in bed with another man... I would be disappointed that he hadn't told me about wanting that because actually I would have asked to join in ;) (hope no one reads that)
2006-10-29 08:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by IC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that since i never told him to sod off with another bloke, i know i am not a crap lay and the likelyhood of me living as a hermit is slim and none, I would have to go for mindblowing sex with next man and if i was really pissed at him i would make it his brother or his dad (or son if he was alot older).
2006-10-29 08:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would not blame myself whatsoever, I would blame him, as he has been lying to his girlfriend all along - and by virtue of cheating with a male or female opening up the possibility of exposure to STDs - he is therfore a loser, and you should forget him instantly and never speak to him again, and go and meet someone else. I would not go and pull the next man for sex though as you might find yourself again in another difficult situation - find a man you like and who treats you with respect first.
2006-10-29 08:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bumblebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id cry for days on end wondering where the hell did that come from? Then i'd go out and get extremely pissed and have a one night stand, I 'd probably go pretty wild because im a lunatic as it is already - so what hope have I got if I found out some devastating news?!
2006-10-29 08:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do hope this hasn't happened to you. If this happened to me, I would be devstated, however I would pack my bags and walk out the door and never return. I wouldn't make a scene, being silent would have a far greater impact. Incidentally I would do the same if he was in bed with another woman. I hate cheats. I would eventually find the strength to re-build my shattered life.
2006-10-29 08:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being a little dramatic with your possibilities. You might want to consider how attached to this guy you are and whether you can accept the competition and do what the answers to those questions tell you. So, none of the above would be my response.
2006-10-29 08:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would be history, dipping his wick else where and with a man for that matter makes it worse. I have nothing against gay people, but don't agree with cheating. It's a definite no no. Personally, I would get tested, if you know what I mean. Then move on and forget all about it.
All the best.
2006-10-29 10:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by bizzybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋