Family & Relationships - 19 September 2006

I am not sure if he is the guy for me but only because he is a little wishy washy, its a month to month basis with him, hes good and then hes bad. But we have been together since i was 15. 5 years total and we also have a 2 year old son. and we live a pretty good life he has a good job i have a steady income we just bought a very nice house in Feb and everything could be good but of course hes still young and just turned 21. he has said something about marriage to me and i to him. I am just scared because we are so young and we have had some very difficult time together. more then a few. but we all in all are very good together. Do you think it is to soon for us? I hear once you get married everything slowly starts to fall apart i dont want that to happen?.Help

2006-09-19 06:06:46 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

hi i am 26 male from india and divorce.. i am in serious relationship with an american woman on internet from last 2 years.. first one year of our relation she didnt know i was married but when she know about it i told her that me and my wife is not happy with this marriage and we both wants divorce. she bitched alot on me but still she saying she loves me then and when i were in divorce procedure she met another man on net and start talking cybersex and phonesex with him.she starts ignoring me on net and she allways told me lies and keep cheating me. she keep telling me she loves me but all this time she was doing phonesex and cybersex with him and her some mails for him showed me she have feelings for him. i really love her from deep inside of my heart my divorce is over from last 4 months but she is cheating me from last 10 months. i fight with her on this, i begged her to leave him.. i requested her to stop all this sh**. but she is not stoping all this, what should i do?

2006-09-19 06:05:47 · 19 answers · asked by love p 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I was engaged 6 months before her (set my date then!), and now not only is she getting married 3 weeks before me, she's going on a 2 1/2 week honeymoon and coming back on the WEDNESDAY before my wedding. She's going to the same place I am going on MY HONEYMOON, because she thought it was a good idea. My question is, obviously, she's not going to be able to plan all of my bachelorette party stuff and bridal shower stuff, which is fine. My other bridesmaids are totally stepping up, even though my MOH hasn't even acknowledged anything. Should I still be expected to plan all of her stuff? I mean my wedding will be right around the corner. She had mentioned before that even though I'm not her MOH (her sister is, which is fine!), she wanted me to do all this for her, and I think I need to put my foot down this time. What do you think?

2006-09-19 06:05:18 · 45 answers · asked by Lisa H 4 in Weddings

Thanks for answering my question! Very good advice! I sent him a txt saying "I am at my friend's house now and we are going to the movies. Bye now because my phone is on low battery and I'll see you tomorrow" I then sent it and turned my phone off. Tomorrow mom and I will go and have a talk with him and his parents and hopefully all will be well. Thabks once again!

2006-09-19 06:04:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Some times it is hard to find "real" friends, the ones you trust and learn to love. What about gossip and not keeping secrets? How much you can tell a friend? I have a hard time finding friends whom I can trust and love. Why?

2006-09-19 06:04:42 · 12 answers · asked by chiquita 1 in Friends

I am 18 years old and in college my first year and i often baby sit for my younger cousins ages 10, 8, 6 months and 5. That would be 3 boys and a girl. I often am not geting paid either and with all of them at once it can be rather tiering. It is not all the time all 4 cousins at once but alot of the time it is. It can also be embarrasing to be seen with all of them in public To movies or something people tend to stare or ask if the one of them is mine. Plus they do not listen sometimes and fight alot amongst each other. How do i politley tell my aunts who i love and who used to babysit me that this is getting to be a bit much?I feel like they are kind of taking advantage of me.

2006-09-19 06:04:37 · 14 answers · asked by Elanor p 1 in Family

put out, should i go elsewhere?

2006-09-19 06:03:49 · 31 answers · asked by mrcusten2006 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

MY MATE IS ALWAYS LOOKING AT OTHER WOMEN WHEN WE ARE TOGETHER AND WHEN MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER WAS JUST 3 MNTHS OLD HE WENT TO A CLUB WITHOUT ME WITH HIS FRIENDS AND THE NEXT DAY I FOUND A NUMBER IN HIS PHONE AND I CALLED THE GIRL BUT SHE TOLD ME THEY NEVER HAD CONTACT ONLY AT THE CLUB SO NOTHING HAPPENED SO HE IS GOING TO HIS HOMETOWN TO VISIT AND TRY TO GET DISCOVERED AS A RAPPER IN HIS HOMETOWN AND PASS OUT HIS CD AND I KNOW HE IS GOING TO A CLUB TO DO SO BUT SHOULD I BE CONCERNED OR SHOULD I JUST LET IT BE AND RELAX I HAVE THOUGHTS EVERYDAY THAT HE IS CHEATING ON ME EVER SINCE I HAVE A HARD TIME SUPPORTING HIM ON HIS ALBUM CAUSE I KNOW WHAT RAPPERS ARE ABOUT THEY ARE ALWAYS AROUND WOMEN SO SHOULD I BE CONCERNED OR SHOULD I JUST RELAX AND SUPPORT HIM WHEN HE GOES TO DALLAS WITHOUT ME SHOULD I BE CONCERENED OR JUST RELAX HE IS TAKING MY OLDEST DAUGHTER WITH HIM WE HAVE TWO KIDS TOGETHER HE IS ALWAYS HOME WITH ME AND THE KIDS SO I DON'T THINK HE IS CHEATING BUT STILL NOT SURE

2006-09-19 06:03:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok me and my ex gf are talking again. we dating about two years ago and at the time i was 17 and she was 14. Her mom was cool with us dating but her dad wasnt so we broke up. but now they are cool with us dating. she came to me bout a month and a half ago and said she wants to talk again. we also work together now. Recently we havent been talking to each other lately so i had asked her to be honest and tell me if she still likes me. she said she does and wants to go out again but doesnt want a steady boyfriend right now. her last bf was a real jerk and they went out for like a year. they been broke up for like 6 months. i really want a steady gf but she doesnt want a steady bf right now but eventually wants to go back out. what should i do? i really love her but i dont know if i really want to wait cause there is no telling how long it could take. so what should i do?

2006-09-19 06:03:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We've been together for 2yrs. already going onto 3 in May. What are some of the sweetest or Romantic gifts a guy has ever given you?
* Im thinking of getting her a nice thick winter coat to keep her warm in the winter ( do u think thats a good gift?)

2006-09-19 06:02:22 · 8 answers · asked by DDR K 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My best friend is moving to Az to get a better job so her and her family can survive, I understand all that, I just wanna know how I will see her. See we've promised each other that we are going to keep in touch by internet and phone'cuz neither one of us like to write...I just wanna know how to deal with her moving...

2006-09-19 06:02:05 · 18 answers · asked by kat 2 in Friends

My friend azia always envites me to hang out with her and go do fun things,but then she always makes an excuse not to hang out anymore.we have been best friends forever.What is she doing to me?

2006-09-19 06:01:44 · 7 answers · asked by Tessie 1 in Friends

What's the best way to get a sweetheart (boyfriend/girlfriend)? I am 28 years old and I still do not have a girlfriend at all. I am starting to worry that I may never have a wife. What is the best "good" way to get a girlfriend??? I did not talk to anyone new when I was younger. Please help. What would you do if you were me??

2006-09-19 06:00:12 · 22 answers · asked by Surfer Dude 1 in Friends

2006-09-19 06:00:04 · 11 answers · asked by say wat? 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-19 05:59:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Me and my boyfriend are crazy in love and a lot of people say were not and we wont last...is this true?what should i do?

2006-09-19 05:59:26 · 19 answers · asked by Tessie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-09-19 05:59:20 · 18 answers · asked by vedita s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I need to have a conversation with my girlfriend about her table manners. She accompanies me to important business dinners in very nice restaurants and she has a tendency not to subscribe to the ettiquette that I would expect her to. What shall I do?

2006-09-19 05:58:56 · 28 answers · asked by Tulsa Boy 2 in Singles & Dating

I mean, sure it's a bad idea, but maybe they ARE just working on nuclear power! Even if they are working towards 'the bomb' who are we to tell them they can't?

How would you like it if your neighbor insisted you couldn't have a grill in your backyard because there is a possibility you could use the propane tank on a bomb?

2006-09-19 05:58:44 · 7 answers · asked by a kinder, gentler me 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am a 39 year old female. I have only had chemistry/sparks with one guy that I dated in my whole life. That was when I was 28 years old. In the years before that relationship and after that relationship, I have had several long term relationships where I had no chemistry, "loving feelings", attraction or even friendship with my boyfriends. My friends and family believe that since I was only in love with one guy that I dated, then love is just not something that is going to happen to me very often in life. I am being encouraged that I should give up on love and marry the guy that I have been dating for 1 year. There is no chemistry, "loving feelings", attraction or even friendship with him either. I am very unhappy when I am around him. Everyone says that I probably will never meet someone that I "click with". They say it would be better to have one empty marriage than a string of meaningless boyfriends for the rest of my life. Do you think I can be happy?

2006-09-19 05:58:27 · 12 answers · asked by Should I settle? 1 in Singles & Dating

spent at least 200 (it was on ATM) bank statements. He also took out an additional 100 somewhere else. 300 total. AND we are broke. Plus, I think strip clubs are only for single guys. I told him b4 we got married it was a dealbreaker. He also had some icky (blood? chocolate?0 substance on his shirt and it smelled like skank whore. How do I make him pay? And or beg for my forgiveness. Thanks! :)

2006-09-19 05:58:23 · 26 answers · asked by jenlovely01 3 in Marriage & Divorce

what came 1st the chicken or the egg but i want to know who comes 1st the lady or the man????

2006-09-19 05:57:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I've known the boy for 6 years and I know his parents, they are all good people. It appears to be innocent, like a first crush thing. But I dont want to encourage her to be dating on a whim, or let her think that I think it's ok to "date" at 11..

2006-09-19 05:57:31 · 46 answers · asked by Elisabeth 2 in Family

Is it ok for your boyfriend not to call you when he says he will and he does it all the time?

2006-09-19 05:57:31 · 17 answers · asked by Tessie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Question about closeness and moving from friendship to more!!!!??????
I have this best friend, I'm a guy, she's a girl, we are 15 and have known each other for 2 years. When we hang out in a group, we are always standing close to each other. We playfully fight with and mock each other all the time. She calls me Reilly, even tho everyone else calls me by my first name and if they call me Reilly she gets anoyed. We are very comfortable with each other. On a couch we sorta lean into each other, anyway, I am pretty sure now that she likes me, an I know I like her, A Lot, so what should I do next? Should I test the waters by hugging her? An arm round the shoulder or waist? Any advice?

Specifically I want to know what I should do next and how.

Also, sholud I make it apparant to her that I am trying to change our relationship?

2006-09-19 05:57:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

It seems like the career I wanted never arrived, the education i wanted never happened, there never was a relationship, car or home only cheap rooms and short contracts. So I never got the chance to even think about romance and relationships. Only trying to stay afloat. I'm now 38 and settled in a cheap flat with a NMW job and there's layoffs all over the place and few jobs above £6 within 30 miles. Should I bother dating and trying to start late or just spend my spare £50 a week on CHOCOLATE AND COMPUTER GAMES?

2006-09-19 05:56:30 · 28 answers · asked by Thx 4 All The Fish 2 in Singles & Dating

i'm seeing a midwife on the 5th of october. i just need to know what the differences are so i can choose wisely.

2006-09-19 05:55:58 · 8 answers · asked by littlfoot 1 in Family

2006-09-19 05:55:29 · 38 answers · asked by LJ 4 in Weddings

Ok I wasn't clear before so I hope this helps.

A close friend of mine told me that he's in love with me weeks before he moved to the same city I am at. (Job reasons not to stalk me!) My reaction was, OMG, why is he telling me this and I said. "Sorry but nothing can ever come of this and I don't think we should bring this up again." (He and my husband get along)

So anyway I was wondering why would he tell me!? He has a girlfriend, which I met yesterday, very awkward to say the least.

And if YOU were him would you have told me and if YOU were me how would have responded/reacted???

I am trying really hard to understand why he would do this??

Thanks

2006-09-19 05:54:10 · 45 answers · asked by Me 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I love him but there is someone who is pulling me away from this love and there is nothing i can do about it . My father is not wanting me to be with him and is causeing me alot of pain. My father is always telling that he only wants sex from me and thats it and that what i feel for him isnt love but infactuation but i know diffrent. This is really destroying me inside and i think about just letting go but its hurts alot inside and i dont think i can handle the pain. I need advice on what i should do ?

2006-09-19 05:53:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating