put out, should i go elsewhere?
2006-09-19 06:03:49 · 31 answers · asked by mrcusten2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sit her down and ask her how she feels. Whay isn't she "putting out" anymore? Is she seeing someone else? then once you know you can make informed decisions.
2006-09-19 06:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your wife no putting out. There is some wrong, and it needs to be address. With the amount of STD I would tell you to fix what's at home, or divorce and start a new life with new problems. Maybe you can buy her this book. " The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" http://www.amazon.com/Proper-Care-Feeding-Husbands/dp/0060520612. I know this book has save several marriages. (Mail the book to her, do not give it to her personally). Buy her some roses and sent her a love card it the mail. Come home from work an hour early, and start cooking in the nude. She will love it. Some soft music in the back ground, roses, a hot bath drawn, and a glass of wine. While dinner is being made by her husband (you will win some many points). You will be sleeping in late for the next few weeks.
2006-09-19 13:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it aint worth it going elsewhere, discuss this problem you are going through with your wife,let her know how you are feeling about her not putting out and if u did try and it didn't work, try seeing a marriage counselor. You got love for her if you didn't you wouldn't never married her in the beginning. Don't waste your time trying to go elsewhere, Use your time wisely working on your marriage. Hope all gets better for you.
2006-09-19 13:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this answer might sound harsh to other women coming from a woman....but I'd say YES!!! if she doesn't wanna be physical with you she should give up her rights on demanding you to be faith-full, why should you live like a monk? I have a very good friend on line and he's wife won't let him touch her for the past two years! that's a long time for a man! but remember communication is the key to having a healthy relationship, try to work it out before doing something you might regret later. maybe is just a phase she's going through...don't know how long you've been without it....Good luck!
2006-09-19 13:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by spanishqueen39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think marrage is worth throwing a way then do what you want!
but i don't know why you don't ask her why she isn't putting out!
maybe it hurts her! maybe she isn't in the mood!
maybe you don't do enough for her to get in the mood!
for my self i love to put out for my partner however i know by the end of the day of doing dishes cooking dinner cleaning the house on top of my normal job! I get tiered! and sometimes a man "pitches a tent" hint that don't turn us on well not most females!
I just hope you didn't marry someone because they did put out and if so talk about it!!! the best thing to do is to go to the source.
remember the hardest thing to do is the right thing to do!
so good luck!
Mad luv
2006-09-19 13:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO sex is not everything to a relationship. yes it's important. but you should NEVER cheat. just talk to her. ask her what's wrong. it could be a medical reason. you should never go elsewhere! if you truly love your wife... you wouldn't of even asked the question. but my advise to you is if you don't want anyone to get hurt you talk to her! Shame shame
2006-09-19 13:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Work out your problems and keep your marriage vows. Ask her why she doesn't want to have sex. Explain that you feel unloved when she doesn't want to make love to you. Romance her and love her. Go to counseling. Divorce before you go else where. Yes, it is horrible that she doesn't put out but you are only making things worse by cheating.
2006-09-19 13:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. Why isn't she? If you married her, isn't it worth it for you to work at it and figure out the problem? If you can't do that then isn't the marriage dead anyway? Then why not get the divorce and find someone more suited to your needs instead of hurting her. Because she would find out. One way or another.
2006-09-19 13:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not as long as you are married. You need to find out why your wife doesn't want to have sex with you. Try some new things to make your sex life exciting and new again.
2006-09-19 13:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want a devorce! maybe she is bored in the bed room, spice things up. Try some romance, love notes on her pillow, phone calls during the day. Hell maybe some porn, phone sex sex toys. blind fold. Theres all kinds of things you can do to spice things up
2006-09-19 13:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋