2006-09-19 05:55:29 · 38 answers · asked by LJ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is for my sister's wedding and friend of the family is bartending. Other's in the wedding party have asked me about whether or not they should put a jar out for them.
2006-09-19 06:09:39 · update #1
It depends. Are you having a cash bar? Dollar Dance? Money Tree?
A tip jar gives the impression they need to tip. Some people also do not bring cash to a wedding and it could make them feel uncomfortable. Especially if other people are tipping. Unless they are aware they will need money at the reception for some reason I would recommend you not have one.
If you decide to go with a tip jar use a plain vase or jar and keep it behind the bar. Do not have more then one. People who want to tip will tip regardless if a tip jar is present or not.
You said this is a friend right? He should be doing this to help; not to make money. Simply give him a small gift as a token of thanks.
2006-09-19 10:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by mbjwithouse 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It's a tough question. I've worked weddings where the bride and groom put out a tip jar on the bar for their honeymoon funds, so you would be competeing with that jar if that is the case. Second, some people may find it tacky (although not paying your bartender is tacky) Try and ask the person in charge, and see what they say. If you volunteered, you may just have to go the night sans pay. If it were my wedding, I would pay you, AND have a tip jar. One more thing...is it a cash bar? Cash bar means the guest has cash on hand. If it is not a cash bar, the guest may not have any cash on hand...
2006-09-19 06:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by hichefheidi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have been to weddings where the bartender was getting paid, and they still had a little basket out (which would probably look better than a jar).
Even when they DO get paid, it isn't much. Everyone knows that bartenders make their living off of tips, same as waitstaff. I say absolutely, she/he will deserve it!
2006-09-19 09:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work at a wedding hall and our bartenders always put out a tip jar. They make about 100 a day
2006-09-19 13:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by xo winter-angel xo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the booze is paid for and the bartender is volunteering his services then it is inappropriate to expect the guests to tip the bartender unless they are also paying for their own meals .. this is a private function, not a pub. it would be appropriate for the groom to give him an envelope with payment for his services as a gratuity( about $2 or $3 per head is reasonable). a tip jar is very not classy to do on the brides day at a wedding reception
2006-09-19 06:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. This is not a restaurant or a bar. You are the hostess of a party and guests should not pay for anything -- including tipping anyone. If you want the bartender to receive some compensation, pay him or give him a gift for his time. But, you won't expect guests to tip the servers, or the DJ, would you? Suggesting that people pay for anything during the reception (even with just a tip jar) is rude and crass and a breach of etiquette.
2006-09-19 12:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by Fall Down Laughing 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes - definitely. the bartenders at most weddings I have been to have tip jars
2006-09-19 06:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by neesy01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really this needs to be discussed in the prior arrangements. Is this a free bar? If so then I'd say no tip jar. If this is a paying bar then I'd say put the tip jar out.
2006-09-19 06:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by shugabam! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Even if the bartender is being paid by the bride and groom, it is customary (and proper etiquette) for the guests to tip the bartender.
2006-09-19 06:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely! People are happy and feeling good at weddings. Its the perfect place to ask for tips!
2006-09-19 06:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋