Some times it is hard to find "real" friends, the ones you trust and learn to love. What about gossip and not keeping secrets? How much you can tell a friend? I have a hard time finding friends whom I can trust and love. Why?
2006-09-19 06:04:42 · 12 answers · asked by chiquita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is difficult to find real friends. You must keep in mind that your best friend can also be your worst enemy. You tell that person everything and God forbid, one day something goes wrong, that will be the person that can tell it all. No secret can come out unless you tell it to someone. You only need to tell it to one person and you are taking a chance that it will come out. It is kind of like sex. You have sex once and something can go wrong, but if you don't have it at all, you are 100% safe. There are some people, however, that can be pretty good friends, but it is difficult to find such a person. I have had a lot of people find it so easy to talk to me and they tell me things that I would never expect, but no matter what they tell me, I don't pass it on to anyone else. I always think it is a great compliment and honor to be looked at in that way. For others to actually think that they can trust me that much and I cherish that. So, if at any time you wish to talk, you can contact me any time. Just click on my avatar (picture) next to my answer, then click on where it says to contact me. Take care of yourself.
2006-09-19 06:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends can be trusted... unfortunately there is no quick way to determine who your true friends are. The best solution is to choose what you tell them. In time you will know which of your friends likes to gossip, which will keep secrets, and which don't really want to know your secrets.
There are many levels of friendship, and if you understand this, you will be in a better position to open up.
2006-09-19 13:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some friends are trustworthy but others are not. If you have friends you tell a secret(s) to and they tell everyone, then he/she can be trusted a little and you can still love all your friendws. If you have a friend you've known since daycare days or Pre-K, of course you can trust him/her. I have friend whom I've know since those days and I trust him with all my heart. You just kind of have to follow your gut feeling. If your gut tells you that your making a mistake telling him, then listen and tell someone else. You can also trust your parents, teachers, co-workers, everyone that you know.
2006-09-19 13:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are a friend they will be trustworthy. Note the word friend; which is a person that will be with you, no matter what (good, bad, sad and glad). Even if you don't agree at times, a friend will stay by your side. Therefore, you should ask yourself is or are the person(s) mentioned friends or just associates (people that come and go in your life) .
2006-09-19 13:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, as we grow up we tend to learn who is out real friends and who is not a friend.. Usually I think it is hard to find a true friend that remain loyal and trustworthy..... I'm 20 and the only one that I really consider a true friend and even worth to spare my feeling is my husband.... As I grow older I realize all the so call friend sI have will come and go and when I got married I realize what kind of friend they are .....
2006-09-19 13:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends aren't good for anything but stabbing you in the back and making sure to stomp on your heart more than twice! Don't tell your secrets to anyone, especially a "friend" they will make it a point to tell everyone they can and humiliate you at any cost. Stick an animal, husband, or your mother, those are people that always have your best interests at heart.
2006-09-19 13:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whom your friends with. When it comes to making friends, you have to have the cautious approach. What I mean about that is don't tell that person certain things about you yet. Get to know that person and see what that person is all about. You'll find out as you get to know that person that if you can trust, be honest, that person being honest with you and always be there for you. It takes a while to get to know people and they will always be a part of your life, in most cases. Once all of that happens, you'll love that person and you'll always be friends. Always.
2006-09-19 13:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting the right persons as friends is one's job and only if this is done, one can confide in them. When such is the case, one cannot raise the bogey of trustworthiness later.
VR
2006-09-19 13:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by sarayu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOMETIMES IT IS VERY HARD TO FIND TRUSTWORTHY FRIENDS BECAUSE WHEN YOU DO IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO
KNOW HOW MUCH TO TELL THEM WITHOUT YOU FIGURING OUT THAT THEY TOLD SOMEBODY ELSE WHAT YOU TOLD THEM.
2006-09-19 13:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by IRIS M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should hang around with a lot of poeple.That way you will learn about their behaviour.you will know who you are comfortable with and who you can trust.you can get close to that person.
2006-09-19 13:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by ambika v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋