My mate is always looking at other women, is it a sign he may cheat?

Question

MY MATE IS ALWAYS LOOKING AT OTHER WOMEN WHEN WE ARE TOGETHER AND WHEN MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER WAS JUST 3 MNTHS OLD HE WENT TO A CLUB WITHOUT ME WITH HIS FRIENDS AND THE NEXT DAY I FOUND A NUMBER IN HIS PHONE AND I CALLED THE GIRL BUT SHE TOLD ME THEY NEVER HAD CONTACT ONLY AT THE CLUB SO NOTHING HAPPENED SO HE IS GOING TO HIS HOMETOWN TO VISIT AND TRY TO GET DISCOVERED AS A RAPPER IN HIS HOMETOWN AND PASS OUT HIS CD AND I KNOW HE IS GOING TO A CLUB TO DO SO BUT SHOULD I BE CONCERNED OR SHOULD I JUST LET IT BE AND RELAX I HAVE THOUGHTS EVERYDAY THAT HE IS CHEATING ON ME EVER SINCE I HAVE A HARD TIME SUPPORTING HIM ON HIS ALBUM CAUSE I KNOW WHAT RAPPERS ARE ABOUT THEY ARE ALWAYS AROUND WOMEN SO SHOULD I BE CONCERNED OR SHOULD I JUST RELAX AND SUPPORT HIM WHEN HE GOES TO DALLAS WITHOUT ME SHOULD I BE CONCERENED OR JUST RELAX HE IS TAKING MY OLDEST DAUGHTER WITH HIM WE HAVE TWO KIDS TOGETHER HE IS ALWAYS HOME WITH ME AND THE KIDS SO I DON'T THINK HE IS CHEATING BUT STILL NOT SURE

Answer 1

He IS a cheater and kids make NO difference to a man who is predisposed to cheating.

Answer 2

I will not say he will never cheat. That's the fun part of life, because you'll never know what's coming up next.

But I think,at this stage, you are the one having the problem. Being oversensitive sometimes kills a marriage. You should learn to trust and let go. Think about it,no matter how much you would and could control, when one wants to cheat, is there anything you could think of that would help stop it from happening? None.

You should just start supporting him and hope that he would be successful and rich. At least if he ever leaves,you've got some money to dig from him. :P Bad,but practical.

Then again,if you could never learn to trust,I suggest you get out and never enter another relationship.

Good Luck!

ps. you should try adding punctuations in your sentences...

Answer 3

Just because he looks at other woman and you found one number does not a cheater make.... Men are just that men they like to look. And getting numbers at a club is just a boost to his self- esteem. As long as he comes home to you and does what needs to be done at home why would you worry. Don't make things an issue because it will push him away. Plus all the woman he is around is to help boost his promotion, if you flirt a little bit you and give some girl those bed room eyes the more likely they are to buy his CD... Just relax and let him try and do what he needs to get his dreams off the ground.

Answer 4

Some of these people had pretty harsh answers. We can't really tell if he is cheating on you but if you found a number and it was a girl, you should definetly have a talk with him and hopefully he isn't a good lier. Honestly, if you suspect he is cheating, i would move on. I know it's easier said than done but why wait around for the truth to come out? That girl you called could be lieing. I know how hard it is but there are still some nice guys out there and i don't think your boyfriend/husband is one of them. I wish you the best of luck ..i know how hard this is. Good luck and for your sake i hope he is not cheating but follow your heart and if you truely believe he is cheating -- just leave him. Good luck!

Answer 5

I read a response to your question which said that all men cheat, that is not true. All men do not cheat, but to be honest with you, I think that YOUR man is cheating, SORRY. I think you know that he is cheating but you don't want to believe it and you want to trust him but don't keep fooling yourself, deal with the truth and you will be able to figure out what you really want to do, stay or leave. He is a player, either accept that and deal with it, if you can, knowing who he is and knowing that you are number 1, and that there are probably numbers 2&3&4, OR go your way and hopefully you will find someone someday who will live up to your expectations.

Answer 6

Not currently cheating but has the potential. Just wait for the inevitable but must be strong. Don't accuse...it will push him to cheat. Just sit back and wait for "what's in the dark to soon come to the light". And then don't cuss him out...just look him in his eyes with disgust and walk off. Pack your clothes and children and stay at a friends for a day or two...DO NOT contact him or try to reason with him while you're leaving... He has no Justification for cheating. So just stop worrying until it happens and when it does...don't fuss about it.. Your silence alone will put him in place. Got it!

Answer 7

He's a rapper, eh? Getting phone numbers, going to clubs, hanging out with his boys, making Cd's? I haven't known any rappers to be monogamous. Eminem, Dr.Dre, Snoop Dog, Ludicris, etc. I'm sure they've all cheated on their wives/girlfriends. You get bet yours is, too. I'd move on. You and your baby can do better. Good luck!

Answer 8

I would normally say that guys just look, but this one want to rap. Seriously, how many monogamous rappers are out there? I'd wager the answer is zero. If he's getting phone numbers, he's looking elsewhere.

Sorry to say it, but your best bet is to move on without this guy.

Answer 9

he's made indications to you that he would have the tendancy to cheat. he may have and you just haven't caught him yet. i'm not sure of the circumstances between you two, but there's a way that men tend to look at other feels that makes the woman they're with feel jealous or ok with it. the club thing that u mentioned saddened me. i would be concerned if i were you...i wouldn't trust him, but that's just me.

Answer 10

why did you ask the queston once you already be responsive to the solutions. Your suitable women cheat for many motives. revenge,no longer being happy,bored,no longer getting interest from husbands.some women even have emotional affairs by way of fact there no longer getting that emotional connection at abode.