I love him but there is someone who is pulling me away from this love and there is nothing i can do about it . My father is not wanting me to be with him and is causeing me alot of pain. My father is always telling that he only wants sex from me and thats it and that what i feel for him isnt love but infactuation but i know diffrent. This is really destroying me inside and i think about just letting go but its hurts alot inside and i dont think i can handle the pain. I need advice on what i should do ?
2006-09-19 05:53:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've had the same problem and what ended up happening was I broke up w/the man I loved...me and I kept in contact and became best friends and when I moved out from under my parents we got back together and we've been together for a year now....so don't give up...if it's meant to be it will be
2006-09-19 05:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your father honestly, if you are sexually involved with the guy you need to admit it but assure him that you are being responsible about it (and live up to that statement as well by using protection ect.) and that you may very well end up getting hurt in this relationship but it's important to you that he respect your judgement enough to let you learn from your own mistakes. Also keep in mind that it's really hard being a parent and watching your child to something you feel will hurt them, you want them to learn from your own experience without ever having to go thru it themselves. Trust that your father really is only trying to look out for you and let him know how much you appreciate his efforts to protect you but also that you need him to let you go.
2006-09-19 13:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly can't tell if you are an adult or a minor, but I tell you this, your father has been around long enough to know how boys/guys/men are......... he is one himself and he was young himself too. He can see the signs and see the intentions before you can, your dad use to do and use the same lines once in his life. Your dad is not trying to hurt you, he is trying to save you from getting really hurt. I hope you look deeper into your dads truths and trust that maybe, just maybe.... he knows what he is talking about. blessed be.....
2006-09-19 13:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is this - your father loves you very much and if he's been a significant part of your life, he probably knows you more than you think he does. Your father is also a man and understands how men think. I think you should honor your father over dating some guy. If this guy is that important to you, bring him home to your parents so they can trust him more. If this guy isn't willing to do it, perhaps he doesn't really "love" you and you should back off and guard your heart.
2006-09-19 13:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just stay with him and prove to your dad that your boyfriend truely loves you...my dad doesnt like some of the things my boyfriend does but he knows that mine treats you real well because i didnt give up when he tries to keep me away from him...dont give up on him cuz you will regret it in the long run..or you can sit down and try to talk to your dad and make him listen and have your boyfriend explain to your father how he feels about you and that sex is not his intention at all. i know wut you are going through but it will get easier. email me and let me how things go i would like to give you more adivce if you ever need it and good luck!
2006-09-19 12:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by crazybayb20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Father is doing his job! Remember he was a boy once and they may have been the way you were concieved. Keep your pants up and let nothing in. Don't speak his name around your dad as much if he hates him!
2006-09-19 12:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by kimpierce76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parents are right,,but my mom and dad said that my boy friend then and hubby now for 6yrs:) wasnt worth a penny! Now we are married have 3 wonderful kids. He has a great job and take great care of us.But you have to go with your gut,heart and mind!(Feelings) Try to see if he only wants you for that. if he passes then try telling your dad how you feel, most parents dont change there minds.
2006-09-19 13:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, and why does your dad not want you to see this guy? It may be that your dad thinks that you are too young and he doesn't want you to be hurt. If you are an adult, you may just need to tell your dad that you are old enough to make your own choices and he needs to love you enough to let you make your own mistakes.
2006-09-19 12:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See him any way. Let your father know that he is a good guy and you still want to continue dating him.
2006-09-19 12:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit back and try to see where your father is coming from if it still doesn't make sense follow your heart.
2006-09-19 12:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋