Family & Relationships - 6 September 2006

I've been married for a year and a half and together with the same man - i mean really together (living with, etc) for three years prior to the wedding. i am unhappy - pretty much have been a good portion of the relationship - i feel stiffled and humiliated and all that bad stuff. i know i am not perfect - it takes two to tango - but i know that it is time to leave.... so now what? where do i go? who do i contact? how long does it take? How much does it cost? who is responsible for the fees? so many questions. thankfully, even though we had been pregnant many times, the lord did not bless us with earthbound children. i still love him - but i moved into our guest room last week - one can only take so much rejection before they just quit. it wont be easy getting him to agree - i've tried before to get him out - i had to call the cops (i just wanted to be alone!).
suggestions?

2006-09-06 14:32:24 · 11 answers · asked by Amber S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I don't have a lot of money to spend on it (about $20) so do you have any ideas?

2006-09-06 14:31:53 · 10 answers · asked by ♥iluvfoodnetwork♥ 4 in Family

2006-09-06 14:31:52 · 3 answers · asked by doogie1221 2 in Friends

my ex is coming round to drop some stuff off to me and asked if i could be there. When i said i'd rather not she said she'll be out of my hair by tea. The whole thing is she asked to not see me for a while and when i questioned that she replied its not an issue for her but she can understand why i would not want to see her.

The thing is i still want her back and feel like she is playing all cool with me because she knows that. Am i best telling her i wont be there and trying to show her i dont care either? i just want to play my cards as best as i can to keep her guessing a bit too.

2006-09-06 14:31:17 · 15 answers · asked by whitey 2 in Singles & Dating

would like to retire some where and be accepted .no im not retiring now but where do i start

2006-09-06 14:31:11 · 15 answers · asked by frankie baby 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

(I saw this posted awhile ago and really couldn't help but agree.)

it seems like non-white women love their men more and are more proud of their race and heritage, even though historically, their men have failed them, since virtually all non-white countries are poor (except Japan, which became rich through western education).

And why is it that white women are so often ungrateful and often turn their back on their men and their heritage(feminism), even though the white men provided them with a life of wealth and personal liberties (compared to non-white women)?

I truly think its time white men expand their horizons, Asian women for instance usually are appreciative and have the qualities men like.

2006-09-06 14:30:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

The Junior College is 2 miles away and little Derwood Jr. has suffered some serious damage to his cranium in his 32 years on this planet.

I am afraid to take this risk!!!

2006-09-06 14:29:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Me and my boyfriend don't fight at all. I know that's good in a way but I feel he's not telling me everything that bothers him. Neither do I tell him what bothers me about him. I don't feel like I need to but right now our relationship is a little dull... Is it because we don't fight? I'm serious... I don't understand...

2006-09-06 14:29:34 · 5 answers · asked by Athena 4 in Singles & Dating

Has anyone ever has anyone ever had a physical attraction to one of your wifes sisters? did you act on it or keep it secret? if you did act on it what happened?? did the sister tell or did she give in to your advances??????

2006-09-06 14:29:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2006-09-06 14:26:53 · 27 answers · asked by answerb4midnight 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-06 14:26:46 · 10 answers · asked by c c 1 in Singles & Dating

He's another customer who's married, but whose marriage is on the verge of over. We went to lunch about 3 months ago, and he poured out his heart to me about his loneliness and disappointment in his wife. He also said that he found me irresistible. I guess it's because of his situation at home, too. We went to lunch again last week, but I brought a co-worker with me. Today I saw him in his office, and told me not to bring a chaperone in the future. What do you guys think?

2006-09-06 14:26:15 · 9 answers · asked by Confused_Rep 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is a very supportive father to his child's mother. Sometimes I think he tries to over compensate (monetarily) just to make sure his son it well cared for. He sees him every other day, attends all of his football games, helps him with homework, hangs out, gives him allowance, and the whole nine. The way I see it you couldn't want more if you were the child's mother. However, his son's mother is always asking him to do more. Although he pays child support FAITHFULLY, if his son's mother asks if he can buy more during the month he feels he needs to. She is always asking if he can contribute more financially... buy him clothes, shoes, pay for this football uniform, etc. On top of that my husband gives her 500 a month for child support. Which I think she just uses to pay her car note. I would like to hear from a GOOD/RESPONSIBLE single mother. Tell me how much money it really takes OUTSIDE of child support to take care of a 13 yr old boy? If she puts in HER OWN $500 that's 1k mo.

2006-09-06 14:25:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My daughter came home from school today and told me that she and another girl cut themselves on the wrist, thumb and leg (just for fun). It wasn't a serious cut, so I don't think they were trying to commit suicide, but I do think it's a cry for help. My daughter is 13 1/2, has been treated for depression for a few years, gets good grades, doesn't get into trouble ( I know cause she doesn't go anywhere but to school), her teachers love her and she has lots of friends. Why would a child want to cause self destruction? This isn't the first time she's done something like this. She's made eraser burns on her hands, sewed her skin with needle and thread, lately she's been starving herself and drinking only energy drinks for lunch. What should I do about these situations. She's been in counseling for about 6 years and its not getting any better. Any suggestions?

2006-09-06 14:24:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My mom thinks that I am to young to date any boys. I am seventeen in six months I will be eighteen. She saids I can date then. I would really like to consider that at my age you should be able to have a boyfriend. Who agrees? What should I do?

2006-09-06 14:24:19 · 63 answers · asked by Dora 1 in Singles & Dating

Our divorce was final a year and half ago, my ex is telling me that it's against the law to live with your boyfriend when you are not marrried with a minor child.

2006-09-06 14:24:00 · 9 answers · asked by MasterJ 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Everyone i know hates me. Really. They say so all the time.

And pls don't say something about god. i don't believe, and never will

2006-09-06 14:23:57 · 10 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I've heard stories of people who have abused drugs in their youth and their spouces have learned to deal with it and forget. My girlfriend has recently started to drink and I don't know how to get over it. We've been together for several years and I do not fear her being unfaithful, but this makes me very uncomfortable. Any help is appreciated.

2006-09-06 14:23:30 · 5 answers · asked by John S 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I had sex with a old freind who had her tubes tied 17 years ago and I am for some reason worried she could of gotten pregnant. She had her period a week after we had sex and I still talked her into taking a home preg test just to calm my nerves (she said I was nuts but did so I would leave her alone) it was negative. Am I just nuts like she says and have nothing to worry about?

2006-09-06 14:22:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My two year old angel is the first and only child me and my wife has had. (We might be too old now for more.) I'm so scared sometimes, when she falls, when she scratches or bumps her head. I know it's normal. Also, when I take her to the park or the play-pen, I always check for loose swings or nails, then look around for suspicious men, who could be pediphiles.

Is there any way to keep her a two year old? I don't want her to change from Miss Tea party. My wife says I spoil her (which I probably do.)

How do I know she won't become like the Hilton sisters? How do I know she will talk to me when she becomes a teenager about peer-pressure or boys? I feel so self-consious sometimes that I might be parenting all wrong. Is that normal?

2006-09-06 14:22:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

is there anyway i can get the guy i want?

2006-09-06 14:21:54 · 6 answers · asked by D L 1 in Singles & Dating

When I am intoxicated I like my bf to beat me during sex. I love to be spanked after I drink. I don't desire it when I am sober. Is there something wierd about that?

2006-09-06 14:21:15 · 16 answers · asked by smp1000_1999 2 in Singles & Dating

im just writing this to make myself feel better.
this one day i fianally told a guy i liked him, and he says he likes be back, but turns out he likes 3 other people, and all of them are more popular than me. i just know hes gonna pick on of them, today he avoided me so i wont talk to him about this situation. i feel bad, i really do want him, and i want him to be happy. he says hes my best friend, and he is best friends with cass too, but he treats her better and i feel like im not part of the group, and that im left behind, and he likes this girl who writes peoms, and he says he likes girls who are writers, and i have been writing peoms for 7 years now, and he says he likes a girl to be pretty and smart, and he will ask them out no matter waht, and am i not pretty, am i not smart? am i not what he wants. am i not good enough for him. am i just a loner waiting to die and rot right there in my place? am i not human? dont i have any feelings? i love this guy, i love him!

2006-09-06 14:21:12 · 6 answers · asked by sad but cute 2 in Friends

how can i write to my friend from my computer to her cell phone? she has samsung t-moblie ....

2006-09-06 14:20:54 · 5 answers · asked by <3 3 in Friends

2006-09-06 14:20:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Does any one know where I can get a wedding cake under 300 dollars in birmingham alabama.

2006-09-06 14:19:15 · 10 answers · asked by april j 2 in Weddings

HI everyone. here's the problem. i had a crush on a guy last year. but nothing special ever really happen between us. once i told my friend to tell him that there is a girl who likes him without saying my name. and he though that it was immature. but he doesn't know it was me. but anyway, i like him and would want to first start of as friends. but i barely talk to him.... i don't know what to do.. i mean how can i initiate a good friendship with him. i have tried to talk to him before as brief as it may be. but none of those have had an effect.
and also is it true that a guy freaks out when a girl tells him how she feels straight out?
please guys it would be very helpful to hear your answeres.
thank you

2006-09-06 14:18:55 · 6 answers · asked by pat 1 in Singles & Dating

that u have stretch marks?

2006-09-06 14:18:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

joke pick up lines

2006-09-06 14:18:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i start school tomorrow so me and all of my friends went out for dinner as our last summer fling. we had all of our guy-friends there because we're all going to an all-girls school so we're not gonna see them often during the year. it got really late and i had to get home so i asked if anyone could give me a ride and no one answered so i told them that if i don't get a ride i have to walk home by myself in the dark. in less than three seconds, about half of the guys there offered to walk me home. i was really surprised because they'd usually be like, "have a fun time walking home." as a joke, though. should i be wondering about this or should i just forget about it? are they just being nice because they're my close buds or is there some sort of other feeling that they ALL seem to have???? its weird!! what's happening to my friends??

2006-09-06 14:18:10 · 9 answers · asked by jgmice 2 in Friends