My two year old angel is the first and only child me and my wife has had. (We might be too old now for more.) I'm so scared sometimes, when she falls, when she scratches or bumps her head. I know it's normal. Also, when I take her to the park or the play-pen, I always check for loose swings or nails, then look around for suspicious men, who could be pediphiles.
Is there any way to keep her a two year old? I don't want her to change from Miss Tea party. My wife says I spoil her (which I probably do.)
How do I know she won't become like the Hilton sisters? How do I know she will talk to me when she becomes a teenager about peer-pressure or boys? I feel so self-consious sometimes that I might be parenting all wrong. Is that normal?
2006-09-06 14:22:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My precious angel is now 21 years old, and married. I am the Mom, but I can relate to your worries because, God had me wait 5 long tearful years for her. You have every right to be protective of your daughter, please keep looking for loose swing and nails. Please look for suspicious men and women that have evil thoughts in their heads. You can spoil your daughter, and you can protect her, but their is a fine line there because like you said you don't one day to open up a magazine and have her spread eagle for the world to see.
Most important thing is to be there for her, no amount of money can replace a Daddy or Mommy from not being there for her. If she has a play, be there. If she has an activity, go. If you promise her to play house or throw the ball with her, do it. Don't promise her something, and then not come through with it. Use the word try if there might be a problem. Tell her things, talk to her, tell her you love her.....Give her a good example to follow. Show her how to respect people and their things. Don't let her go to Grandma's and tear stuff up. You say thank you and please, and she will follow suit. Children learn by watching the most important people in her life. Daddy and Mommy.
My husband is very close to both of our children. We have been open and honest with them from birth. My daughter is just as comfortable talking to him about boys and sex, as with me. When she is older tell her the truth parents do make mistakes, all parents do at one time or another, but explain that you are trying to raise her with a loving heart. She's needs your time. That's the key to it. If she is with you, and she sees that you really care and love her no matter what, then you are going to raise a fine young woman. My daughter and son are both studying to be teachers, and neither my husband or myself went to college. How's that! We might have never done anything right other than raising two fine and healthy loving people, who want to give their lives enriching children. Had to brag a minute! sorry!
My kids are spoiled to certain points, but they know I couldn't afford to give them everything that they wanted, but they appreciated what we were able to give them. We are very very blessed.
And I think you are going to do just fine, Daddy...why, because you love your daughter and are worried you may do the wrong thing. That's true love, and you can't teach that. You have that! Just remember to talk to her, and when she talks listen! Don't judge....listen with your head...and advise with your mind....
God bless us all..............
2006-09-06 14:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is once you become a parent so many thoughts come to your mind about what could happen to your child. I used to have these images of my son being kidnapped and seeing the car drive away with him screaming in the back window... scary eh?
You do have to step back and give her space through out her life. She will not like being crowded all the time. I know how hard it is and it is different with each child. I have a daughter that is 11 and I'm afraid for her just being a girl, but I don't let her know and I give her the right amount of space she needs.
Sorry to say she will not stay a 2 year old and you cant make her do 2 year old things when she is ready to move on.
2006-09-06 14:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by pink9364 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal to be like that. My husband and I have a 1 and a 1/2 year old lil girl. We're like that with her also. However, I am one of six kids. My parents have 4 girls and 2 boys. A teenage girl often takes to her mom rather than her father. She will be going through changes that she might not feel comfortable with you cause you're a male. That is normal, but that doesn't mean that she won't love you and take to you in other ways. There's a spot that a mother feels that and father doesn't and a spot a father feels that a mother doesn't. Don't worry, you're prolly doing a great job with her. I think every parent questions their parenting skills. If they didnt it wouldn't be normal. Be sure to give her good morals and values and she should turn out great. Just relax and enjoy her baby years..they grow up fast!
2006-09-06 14:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal to question your every move! That mostly means you're concerned and are trying to be a good parent. Give her a little wiggle room- she'll get scratches which will help her learn what not to do. Don't stress out about 14 years from now! Take it one day at a time (on the other hand- it's never TOO early to start telling her about the differences between right and wrong- including peer pressure and independence)
2006-09-06 14:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by sherdencutiepie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to worry about your child's well being but you are becoming obsessed with her safety.
Listen, you're trying to be a good father and you don't want her to get hurt... but all life's lessons are learned through pain. Your daughter needs to get a scratch on her leg, a broken heart (when shes a bit older LOL), or a bump on her head.
There is nothing wrong with making sure your daughter isn't around any men that look like they're child molesters; that's just precaution... but you can't be over protective of her like this when she gets into her teens.
You know she won't become the Hilton sisters because I am pretty sure your daughter isn't a Hotel Heiress. Your daughter is going to have pain in her life, she is going to go through struggles and obstacles and she is going to make mistakes.. but that is what is going to make her a better person.
For now, it is okay to be precocious, but one day you're going to have to let your baby girl become a teenager and you're going to have to let her think and do for herself.
2006-09-06 14:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I want to say your daughter is very lucky to have a father who cares so much about her well being. It's normal to be overly protective, especially when it's your first child. It's your responsibility to make sure your daughter is safe,healthy and loved. I think every parent should always be aware of unsafe people, such as pedophiles. But remember make it your responsibility with a 2 year old. Don't let normal parent anxiety keep your daughter from experiencing life.. In order for a child to grow up happy, secure, and well rounded, they need to develop good self esteem. This will be in part from what your daughter learns by example and part by what she learns from her own life experiences.
2006-09-06 15:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by Charlotte's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i'm a 14 yr. old girl and of course she'll understand. My dad and me can talk like best buds. Just keep calling her princess and tell her whenever she has a problem that you're right there to solve it. Don't worry because usually my dad comes to me so I can answer his problems. My parents had 4 girls and 1 boy including me (i'm a girl and the oldest). All my sisters can talk to my dad. You have to let her go one day but until then even when she is a teenager just do what is right. :)
2006-09-06 14:26:54 · answer #7 · answered by baby_green92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your daughter becomes a teenager, she'll probably go through a period of not wanting you to know about everything going on in her life -- that's natural. Don't get all crazy when she does this.
If you can just exercise patience and convey to her your unwavering support through anything she must endure, it'll all work out. As I did, she'll eventually grow out of that privacy-obsessed stage teenagers are famous for and open up to you. The key is to make yourself available for her to talk to without being overbearing and annoying and especially without being judgmental. As long as she knows you're always there for her through thick or thin, she'll speak up without your prodding when she's good and ready. My dad used this approach, and we're still really close; I've always sought his guidance on issues ranging from interpersonal relationships to my educational and career choices.
Just be open, rational, and CALM -- you'll be fine!
2006-09-06 14:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think back to when you were a child, Did you respect your parents, If you grow up respecting your parents then you will have no problem talking to them or heeding their advice. And it will be the same for your daughter, If she grows up respecting you, she will grow to be a good person, and she won't want to disapoint you. Respect her and she will do the same for you.
2006-09-06 14:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am sure it is normal I am sure I will be like that when I have kids. You seem smart so I am sure if you teach your daughter right and wrong she will be just as smart as you. I have a smart dad and I know right from wrong and I am ok.
2006-09-06 14:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋