Hi all I am prity here. I am having one huge problem that is taking up all warmness and color out of my life.
I am divorcee from my husband because due to emotional blackmails from his family side, it was very much bad so in those days I came to know one lady friend who also divorcee, she got thru her problem and that with two kids so she initially reached out to me giving support and phone calls and all when I was suicidal and in misery.So we become fast friends and at some point I feel she is saving my life. She has got married and that with two kids from previous marriage so I felt some hopes for myself.
These days I am spending lot of time in her house, and I slowly slowly came to see what a great guy her husband is. He is very emotional with her and attached, loving guy that I haven't seen in long time, and brave coz he fought with his parents to marry her even tho she is divorcee, and very much emotionally attached wtih her kids like they are his own. They only been togehter some two years. Now I am looking at him in whole new light to see, what kind of great guy does all these? And they had only one child together so he is supporting four people and buying his wife expensive gift like ipod, HP notebook, new cell phone, ect. Treating her so good! It's making me want him and althogh initially he was not attractive to me but now I find him irrisistable.
She calls me over for dinner and lot of things I notice- 1. she cannot keep totally clean house as she suffers from some illness related to her pregnancy 2. she is very much overweight and fat - yet he still seems to show much affectionated for her. I don't know why.
I know I am hiding this feeling in my heart but I cannot resist much longer. I don't want to get hurt in any way. Sometimes I think, if he is such a good guy he can accept this lady and her kids then he can surely accept me and I with no kids even! And I keep such clean house and have great figure too. So maybe deep deep in his mind he is ready to go for better relationship, ie with me. I lay awake at nights thinking on this, that how can I approach him, what should I say? I am sure if he compares me with his wife he will find me much better and more suitable. All the color is come out of my life since I got to know what a great guy he is. Now I feel direct need to approach him and show him how I feel. Can I please get some advice, how to fix this problem? What can I say to him, I don't want to look bad but I must step up as his wife is very much overweight and I am sure we are much better match than that. What words can I use?
2007-11-15
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