This is so much longer than I expected it to be, so bear with me. Some background info on me first... I'm in the US military, and currently stationed in Germany, but I'll be separating soon, and heading back home to the states to go back to school. I was married a few years ago for two years, and it ended in a divorce that I didn’t want. Since then I’ve been afraid to give myself to someone. Until recently, I had been single for about two years. I'd been out on plenty of dates, and hadn't met anyone who I felt a connection with. I recently came back to Europe after a four month deployment to the Middle East, and I decided a few months before I left that I was not going to date anyone before I headed back to the states, because I didn't want to leave Europe with any regrets.
Life sometimes doesn't agree with the choices we make for ourselves. I met someone while I was deployed, and initially had no interest in giving him a chance. It took some work on his part, but I opened up, and now I have found someone who I have an amazing connection with. He is in the Royal Air Force, lives in England, and I’ve known him for about 4 ½ months. We decided 2 ½ months ago that we wanted to be exclusive. At this point we have a long distance relationship (we are both back in Europe now), something I promised myself I would not do. For now, it’s rather easy for us to see each other, since flying in Europe is cheap and easy. But in a few months, when I move, I just don’t know what is going to happen.
Let me just say, I KNOW that we have not been together long, so don’t need anyone to tell me that. But that is the problem. By the time I leave, if everything keeps going the way it is going now, we will have been together about six months. And then what? It is not long enough to make any major decisions, but I don’t know if I can bear such a distance between me and someone I am dating. Even if he wanted to come to the US to see what happens, he could only stay a few months without a visa. Our options are so limited. We can maintain the distance, but never really get a chance to be together and know if we have a future, or we jump in head first to something I am not ready for. Really the only way for us to be physically together, because we are citizens of different countries, is to get married, which is ridiculous, and not an option I would consider so soon. It’s so hard because I feel things for him I never expected to feel again so soon, and I’m trying to keep my head straight and not make any rash decisions. Ugh…
Any thoughts? Again, sorry so long, if you made it through the whole thing, thanks!
2007-10-28
01:54:44
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Flygirl
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