Having been simultaneously orgasmic in our earlier years, it is not without frustration that I find our sex life dwindle to that of feeling like I am the only one in the room when and if things happen. Her ambivalence, lack of apparent desire, and "muteness" in bed are very hurtful to this diehard romantic.
While she may think I am obsessed, that would only be in evidence if I asked more than once a week and I back off when I get refused. I have exhausted my patience at times when we went three months without nearly a touch, going ahead and "having my way" with her "accomodation" of my needs.
We've been thru two couples therapists over the last 10 years, about two years each. Great kids, all different but successful 13-23, but not without typical stressors. We get high marks for family success and "Great kids". I am now in individual therapy to learn ways of coping and possibly regenerating her interest and not straying.
What other coping mechanisms or leverage can be used?
2007-08-24
05:13:11
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