I am 35 my husband is 44..........a few months ago we thought I might be pregnant and I was very concerned to how I was going to tell him because he doesn't want any more children so for days I was stressed as to how I would tell him and he knew something was wrong and kept asking until one day I got the guts to tell him he wasn't upset at all he said "if we are we are if we'er not we'er not" so a few days went by and we were watching tv and a commerical came on about women that were pregnant and were taking Paxil and had problems with the drug effecting the baby to call blah blah blah....and he asked me if that was the one that I take and I told him "no"
and then that same night he started asking if I had thought of any names....just in case....
Needless to say Im not pregnant....I have been on a new BC pill and that was why I was having the symtems and we both now that but I have yet to have a normal cycle but now all I can think about is having a baby and Idon't know how to tellhi
2007-08-24 05:10:05 · 10 answers · asked by cowgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he's asking about names of a baby that doesn't exist it sounds like he's secretly keen as well! He's your husband, don't be afraid to talk, he loves you ne matter what!
2007-08-24 05:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Queijinho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication in a marriage is SO important. Just sit down with him and review what has already happened, tell him how worried you were and how pleasantly surprised you were about his reaction. Ask him if he has changed his mind about the possibility of having children. If he is adament about not having them, then talk to him about a vasectomy. Why should the female be responsible for birth control all the time? If he's totally against children, let him handle the birth control in that manner.
If you really really want a child now and it's going to cause a problem in your marriage because he doesn't, then you have other issues to deal with.
2007-08-24 05:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he might have been a little excited about the thought of having a baby as well. You might just start by saying that you feel a little disappointed after thinking you might be pregnant to find out that you aren't. You might be surprised that he feels the same way. Tell him that this may be your last chance to have another baby and that you would just like to discuss it with him. Weight it out together and see what happens. If you can't be open and honest with each other then it probably isn't a good situation to bring a baby into anyway.
2007-08-24 05:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by JVar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him how you feel. Set down, the 2 of you, and make a list of pros and cons to having another baby. Listen to each others concerns and talk it out. You have to keep an open line of communication in a marriage. Honesty is way better then secrecy.
2007-08-24 05:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by Strong w/ Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it, but it needs to be something you really really really really think about before you do it. Your age for one reason (not being rude)- you need to check out all the complications that come with having a baby after age 30, and you also need time to figure out if you are just having baby fever. You need to really think about how your later life is going to be filled with sleepless nights and diapers, etc. again - you'll be starting all over again (i assume your other children are up bigger). Need to think about the effect it will have on the other children. I just personally wouldn't make a quick decision on this. Ofcourse it's always nice to think of having a new baby to share especially when you see the newborns - I know because I've done it many of times. But then think about how when those babies start crying and acting up how you are ready to hand them back to their moms! lol! Also, toting diaper bags, car seats, the list goes on and on! Good luck with whatever decision you make!
2007-08-24 05:18:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to tell your husband anything. Sounds like he is not totally against the idea of having a baby. He's already talking about names just in case...that sounds open minded.
2007-08-24 05:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♥chicks♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His response to you telling him that you MIGHT be pregnant was nothing like what you expected.
What makes you think that this won't be the same way?
2007-08-24 05:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do you do if you don't you don't . I really don't think you understood what your husband was saying to you . Hes fine with it either way what are you worried about . Stop trying to make nothing into something
2007-08-24 05:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk to your husband why are you married to him? You need to work on your communication before you end up 40 and divorced.
2007-08-24 05:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him..
if he didn't want more kids he should be happy.
2007-08-24 05:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋