Some people seem to feel very strongly about when, why, and why not gifts are "expected". Read the following and tell me what you think. Traditional etiquette states: 1) if you attend a shower, you are expected to bring a gift; 2) when you receive a wedding invitation, giving a gift is obligatory (whether or not you attend and even if you've given a shower gift); 3) engagement gifts are optional; 4) the gift-giver is never obligated to buy off the registry (Source: Emily Post, the "Bible" of etiquette). Of course, these expectations also have expectations for hosts, brides, and moms-to-be: 1) never send out duplicate shower invitations (one shower per person); 2) never include registry info. in any kind of invitation; 3) family members never host showers; 4) never sent out invitations *just* to get gifts (invite only those you want to attend). What do people think? I'm not a bride - just curious. I always thought these guidelines helped protect people from hurt feelings on all sides.
2007-04-18
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