i became a member of this church 2 years ago since i have been there i have being working and trying to do what GOD has called me to do i'am no way perfect but i'am striving to do what i think is right in GODS eye there have been much going on about the pastor's family not helping in any way in church including his wife i'am over the mission program at our church and i had heard not to ask the pastors wife to do anything because she will refuse so ''i'am thinking to myself'' maybe they never ask her? so i ask her to read a stripture for the program and i could not believe she refused and did not want to pertistipate at all a lot of people will not do anything just b/c of the pastors family is not there to support the church... am i wrong let me know
2007-04-18 06:56:20 · 18 answers · asked by mishoney 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
That's a very interesting dynamic with in your pastor's family and the church.
While it is saying to your church that his family is not supporting the church, are they even supporting your pastor to be a man of God if they will not participate. Do they even come to services?
Does she have a job outside the famiy? Maybe they have the mistaken belief that their participate in church functions would distract from the works of the pastor.
It's hard to decide without knowing the better to see what the inner workings are of the family.
If this makes you unhappy with the church... you have four options..
Continue to be invovled and ignore the pastors family. Accept a position as a deacon or board of the church and see if the pastor could be replaced.
Leave the church for a different one.
Stop gong to church.
The last one I would not recommend as it could set you up as never returning to church. My personal opinion about the members of your church who do not want to participate because the pastors family does are shallow people.
2007-04-18 07:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. Maybe the pastor's wife is going through a difficult moment in her beliefs. The pastor needs the emotional support of the church membership, since obviously his wife and the rest of his family is not giving him that emotional support.
Do what you feel is right before God's eyes. Pray for your Pastor and for his family. Remember to be there for him, because he surely is going through a very difficult moment in his life is his wife and children have deserted him emotionally and spiritually.
2007-04-18 14:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your right. That pastor needs to know the value of being the body of christ. If the Pastor will not help the church then I think it is time to change the pastor or leave the church. A pastor who will not help his christian family isn't a good pastor.
2007-04-18 14:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal conflicts between humans can make working in the church very trying at times. I completely understand what you mean.
But if you have an issue with someone, consult them directly on the subject. It is never fair to operate on hearsay.
If other people refuse to participate because of the Pastor's family, they have a very LAME excuse. When ever possible, remind them that they go to church for GOD and not because of other people.
If you want to talk more, please feel free to contact me. Perhaps we'd be able to support each other in a challenging time.
2007-04-18 14:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she isnt born again? maybe she doesnt want to be 'part' of the church family. we have one pastors wife that is much like that.... will not take part in much except showing up for church 10 minutes late and leaving 5 minutes early and leaving.
each person is important to the church... it is like a body, and all parts are needed for the church to function properly. you are not wrong.... keep asking and seeking.... maybe no one has found her 'gifting' yet to know what God is calling her to do?
2007-04-18 14:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by livinintheword † 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Pastor was called by God to shepherd the church, not his wife.
Unless she has a ministry side by side with her husband, I would not expect her to feel obligated.
But in my experience, most Pastors' wives help their husbands in the church, whether it be Women's ministry or in the music department.
2007-04-18 14:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pastor's wife is not employed by the church so you don't have the 'right' to ask her to do anything.
2007-04-18 14:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by American Spirit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a different Pastor .... or find a different Church Home.
2007-04-18 14:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by idahomike2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We should not look to our brothers for that “satisfaction” of ratification that he or she is a Christian and base our belief in what they do—we will only get disappointed. Only God is infallible, only He is perfect, and that means time & time again our fellow brothers will fall or disappoint us, but not the Lord. That is why Jesus asks us to fixate our attention on Him, remember that not many professed Christians will go to heaven; narrow are the gates to righteousness. Make the Lord your foundation, and you shall remain strong.
2007-04-18 14:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by its_not_rocket_surgery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you are saying is true, you need to find another church. This is diffenitly not a called out body of Christ.
2007-04-18 14:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by mxcardinal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋