I've been married for almost 28 years. Finally figured out about a year ago that I am a worthwhile person, and deserve much better than to be treated like dirt and a doormat. Never came first with him, calls me stupid, dumb, swears at me, yells at me. Sex has been on again/off again. He had a 4 yr affair in the early 90's I didn't find out about until 2000, while he was overseas.; during that time he really treated me poorly.
I thought that was what I deserved, all I could expect. Now I know better, and have changed a lot. He is still the same. Do I continue to give him more time to meet me where I am now? To become who I need him to be? Some days I think he is trying to become a better person. We go to church every Sunday, for one. He asks my opinion about some things; never used to. Yet... we are more like roommates living in the same house, who to sleep in the same bed than a married couple.
No job, major health issues, my vehicle needs repairs, I feel trapped.
2006-12-13
20:31:53
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