This may grate against some egos and trigger some cynical responses. My apologies. I'm a real person. This is a real problem.
Saturday morning I finally learned something new and valuable about Love, and I've been processing it all day.
Bluntly put, here it is:
If I love too completely, too selflessly, with too pure an intention, with too whole a heart...then those who receive it and try to return it end up feeling inadequate because what they give (and why they give) doesn't measure up in their eyes to what they receive. Although they may try to improve what they give, in the end their feelings of inadequacy are too much for their ego and sense of security within the relationship: they end up feeling they need my love more than I need theirs.
Instead of finding a balance between the love given and the love received, they feel they are receiving far more than they are giving or indeed can give. This feeling of hopeless inadequacy leads them to walk/run away.
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2006-10-01
01:20:53
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