This isn’t a question I want you to answer with an I’m pro-choice, or I’m pro-life. I want you to tell me how you would feel about getting an abortion. And for men, how would you feel about your baby being aborted by the mother. Whether she is your wife, or a one-night stand mistake. It may be against your religion or beliefs, but what would YOU do. Please be honest.
I used to be an extreme pro-lifer, but then I thought about the ethics in making a woman carry another living life form in her own body and decided it should be up to her. Our bodies in reality belong to us, it is the only thing we do have ownership of that cannot be taken away in this world. In a way it is like forcing someone that destroys someone else’s kidney in a car accident to give their’s to the victim. There is a strong ethical feeling of responsibility and debt; however you just can’t take the kidney. Think about it this way too, the same thing happens, but you have to carry around this sick person like a sort of living life-support machine for nine months. After that, you are responsible for paying the medical bills of that person and taking care of them for the rest of your life. Would that be fun? However, there is that guilt that remains. However the is the option of adoption, a excellent way to no longer have another human being in your responsibility if you aren’t up to the job. Nearly all of the people that can adopt your baby are wonderful people and married couples that can’t reproduce, or want to take a child into their home. You have the choice to decide where you want the child to go. I believe there is nothing ethnically wrong with giving up your child to a better and loving family.
I myself believe in pro-choice; however, I feel that abortion is a horrific thing that is done by either people that blind themselves to the actual life form they abort, or people that are just too selfish to think about creating another life. However, as a teenager, my family was extremely strict. I have severe depression and anxiety problems. If I had ever gotten pregnant, adoption and life would not have been a choice. I mean my life. I would have killed myself to avoid being extricated by my family and facing the horrible consequences of being pregnant. I think too many parents/families make this horrible decision not to support their children when they get pregnant. Mostly parents that are religious. This is why I also hate religion because it creates such fear and guilt in young teenagers for their sexual desires and behaviors instead of realistic and helpful behaviors. Studies show that as abstinence only programs are ineffective and I believe it may add to the pregnancy problem even more drastically. Teen gets pregnant because he/she feels too guilty to pick up condoms/birth control and gets an abortion to avoid persecution from overly righteous parents. If more parents talked to their children and gave them birth control and condoms less pregnancies might occur. If more parents wouldn’t make children feel horrible guilt for having sex and getting pregnant I think fewer abortions would occur.
Even now as a young adult, I consider abortion an option. For one thing, I am not financially independent, have bipolar disorder, an unhealthy unstable relationship, and a family that does not accept illegitimate children. If I got pregnant I would be thrown out of my house, my family would treat me like I was a ****, and I would become depressed and feel terrible. I’m not mentally stable enough to handle a child, which is why I avoid getting pregnant. But I must admit, if my family was more accepting, I wouldn’t even consider getting an abortion and instead would think about adoption. The idea of chopping up those little embryo’s, which may not look human but have hands, bodies, and forming organs tears apart my heart. I wouldn’t think about what I was doing, which is what most women that get abortions do. You can’t, because if you did, you wouldn’t be able to do it. After looking at images of babies aborted at 8 weeks, I couldn’t bare the thought of getting rid of mine. But I won’t take that option away from other women that choose to do it. I think we as a society should stop putting such negative vibes out over birth control and adoption, as if the parent is such a terrible person for not keeping their child. I’d gladly give my child to a loving family with stable finances, mental stability, and compassion. If only the stigmas on women that give their children to other families wasn’t so bad. It is like the child becomes a ghost that comes back later in your life to haunt you with guilt and tales of misery and hell you put them through.
In the end, I am pro-choice; however, my choice is not to abort my child if I ever have one. I can’t imagine slicing up that little person that will soon come out of my body and open its eyes to the world. I just hope that world will be a loving and compassionate one that will accept the child with open arms.
2006-09-30
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